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My father recently passed. His second wife of 27 years (not my mother) sent me an email basically telling me I was the worst daughter and never paid any attention to my father and his needs, that I pretty much disrespected her and that I stole family pictures and my mom's recipe cards from him. At the family gathering for Christmas she made all of the "daughters" (all my sister-in-laws) a scarf, everyone except me. I know that misery loves company, but this is all just plain evil. I want so badly to stoop to her level and let her have it, but I know she just won't get it. I need to let it go, but just cannot seem to. Help!

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My step mom is evil too. I stay the heck away from her and refuse to even acknowledge she's on this Earth. So your step mom had to EMAIL her feelings ? She's venting and you got it all. Never read another email from her and immediately return all her emails directly back to her. That is the universal email etiquette for "never speak to me again".

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Don't bend to her level. You are better than her.

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PinkonPink

Tell her everything that is on your mind EVERYTHING!!!!! Don't leave anything out!

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she is evil

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candybar

I'm so sorry! Sometimes blended families turn out awful. Hopefully your dad left something to you in his will. Again, my condolences.

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Well u have to tell her whats bothering you!!!! So after just ignore her and don't do the same things shes doing to you, u need to show her that your more mature than her.

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First of all, I'm sorry for your loss.
Second of all, some people deal with grief more cruelly than others, this is just her way of dealing with it, from the information, that's what it sounds like. To her, it's probably easier to just blame someone and be angry than to deal with the sadness. I would just give her some time & not talk to her for a while even though this is probably the time she most needs someone to lean on.
I know it's hard to feel sympathy for someone being mean to you but, isn't that what makes you such a beautiful human being? :)
Just whatever you do, don't be cruel back, this could ruin your relationship & possibly tear your family apart. Just be with your family & come to terms with the loss before you try anything else. Someone once told me that you can't help other people if you can't help yourself. It probably sounded better when they said it....
<3 Good luck!

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Thank you everyone for your suggestions and responses. I simply just needed to feel like the victim in all of this. I know that I am sometimes naive, as I've spent the majority of my life believing in the good in people and practicing unconditional love and friendship, forgiving without conditions and accepting people for who they are. It is sad that this woman is such an evil and hurtful person, that she has to hurt others to make her feel good about herself. Thanks again everyone!
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