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somebody please give me some ideas to help?

okay so i have some problems and i self-harm. i've been trying to stop for a couple weeks now because some friends are starting to get mad at me, but sometimes its really hard to control not doing anything. any ideas on how to keep from doing self-harm??

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I don't have many ideas. One of my friends told me in confidence that it's just like any bad habit. It's, to her, like a reflex. And I bet it's hard to stop.

Really, ppl will tell you to confront what makes you do it and it will stop. That's half true. But really, it's just a habit. Sometimes you just have to.

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I agree its a habit but its a bad habit and ive had some close calls, its hard to stop once u've done it for a while its like a reflex
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Quite true. I don't do it so I wouldn't know exactly how you feel sorry :(

My bad habits consist of me swearing too much and bossing Toxicity around lol
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You don't boss me around lol I wear the pants
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Lol nice, well thank you anyways(:
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I have cut. I know what you feel. You are angry at someone who has made you upset. You want revenge. You can chew gum or buy silly putty to keep you busy. Don't avenge yourself. You are better than that.

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A revenge problem? I never realized that! Good point.
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Okay thank you for the ideas
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its a very difficult thing to stop on your own. there may be a deeper problem that is causing you to self harm. you may want to seek counseling to get get to the root of the issue. good luck

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i have cut as a way to combat severe mental pain. but if its just a bad habit for you try to find something else to take its place. good luck :)
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I cut when i get upset or angry
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try to find other ways of addressing your anger. breath deeply, count, scream into a pillow, break popsicle sticks, i also liked the rubber band idea. try not to let this be a habit that lasts a life time:) as the older you get the more difficult it is to explain the scars :(
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Okay, thank you for helping me with ideas i really appericate it. I'll try those
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It depends on what kind of self harm.

Do you scratch? I scratch. Or cut, (the same thing.)

tTorNn is talking about me. Yes, it's a bad habit, just curve it by replacing your "tools" with non-harmful things. I cut my fingernails and don't carry keys, compasses, scissors, or anything sharp with me. I give myself a small window every day to just make a mark just to get the feel, it's kind of like regulating.

Just don't tempt yourself and you'll be fine :)

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Here's a thought - hypnosis. One might consider this to be a behavior that is not "normal". You learned that behavior at some point. Anything you learned, you can unlearn. Hypnosis works at the subconscious level to change that behavior. While the conscious mind would readily agree that that is not normal, the subconscious mind doesn't think that way. Change that mind set and the behavior is changed. Worth looking into. Call a local hypnotherapist and have a chat.

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Minji

I stopped cutting because of my friends. They told me they didn't want me to leave them. Don't think about cutting, get a rubber band or something and put it on your wrist, and slap it each time you feel like you have to cut. Good luck!

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Thank you i might just do that
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Why do u even do it?!!!

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Because.... Its hard to explain and you most likely wont understand but i do it because when im upset or angry or something the pain distracts me from the other problems and it like.. calms me in a way...
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Sorry but i don't think it calms you or anyone down, you just need a distraction when your angry. Try doing anything else other than cutting yourself. Like when ever your angry go talk to your best friend or something. I'm sure you will find a better way.
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I agree its not a good thing to do and i shouldnt do it but yeah. But i will try your suggestion so thank you
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Hypnotism

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Does tht really work?
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PaintedRed

Everyone says to use a rubber band, but that still harms you- try keeping a stress ball with you, so that you can occupy your hands when you want to cut. Good luck!

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I've tried a stress ball and it doesnt seem to work for me :/
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PaintedRed
That's too bad :/ My trans brother used to cut- it got so bad that we have to lock up everything sharp. He doesn't use a rubber band or stress ball, though... I'm not sure what he does...
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Im not too bad with it... But the last time i did cut i did a bit too much and .. Yeah anyways... Thank you for your suggestion.
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PaintedRed
Sure! Stay strong and good luck! If you ever need anyone to talk to, hit me up :)
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Okay ^-^
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