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What do I do if I start cutting myself?

im under way to much stress right now I feel that every time I screw something up and no matter how small it is my parents well get mad at me and I have way to many things going in my life right now I just don't know what to do anymore other than harm myself i don't want to tell my parents because I'm afraid they wont care or make a huge mess about it saying I'm going crazy! I don't know what to do anymore

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1. Locate ice cream.
2. Eat ice cream.
3. When ice cream runs out, repeat steps 1 + 2.

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Best answer here haha foreal tho
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Yeah this really works lol
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Meditate or do Yoga to relieve stress.

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Dont start use a rubber band instead and think about good stuff, and dont let other people get to you. :) Use Meditation i guess

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Don't start... I have cut myself many times and it hurts....

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Show me where and I'll kiss it better....
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Get checked out at your nearest mental institution

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See this is exactly why I don't want to tell my parents I'm afraid they will think in crazy it's just that I'm under a lot of stress
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it's nt her fault that she does that my friend did this and her parents wet going to but the best thing to do is talk to someone ( not a mental hospital)
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I can understand that hun,but wanting to hurt yourself?That honestly show's that you have a severe chemical imbalnce.You need to get checked out before you really do something stupid!Tell your parents these urges your having asap!
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Well,emily when you resort to something that dangerous you need proffesional helpand possibly medication.It doesnt mean your nuts a large amount of people suffer from this and without help could result in terrible scars mentally and physically or worse DEATH if you hit a main vein so um yea do what's intelligent it might be really hard, and embarrasing but its whats smart
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Put a rubber band around your wrist and snap it each time you have an urge to. Tell me and I'll email you if you need more help.

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do what you need to do no matter what that may be
do what makes you happy?
I've never cut my self but I'm in your shoes and maybe even deeper then u right now if u ever need to talk
ill tell you the truth or my opinion on things not what you want to hear
i tell it like it is.

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I don't think self-mutiliation is healthy, believe me I've done it and seen those who have as well. Try to do somehting that makes you calm- for me it's painting and music. Find something that fits you and remember: don't let people get to you, don't let them find your weakness.

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well I know that some people don't want to hear this but pray about it, and when I get stressed and mad and upset I go all out on a punching bag it really works, I get all my energy out and it just helps me relax. idk if this will help ive never been in that situation but I hope this helps and please don't cut yourself! :(

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I agree 100%! You can NEVER go wrong when you put God in the equation! God hears and sees EVERYTHING and although you may be going thru really tough times right now and need immediate help, just please be patient....God will help you! Please dont cut yourself anymore! God is on his way! When things are at there worst, say these words over and over, "GET THEE BEHIND ME SATAN"! This always helps me! 0:-)
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Wow!! thanks!! its really cool that there are other people that believe the way I do! its rare these days!
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ya ikr!
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Don't start, find healthy alternatives to relieve those feelings.

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We cannot truly help you rainbow. We can give you advice, so here's mine. You need help to get through this. Help from a professional who is trained to help folks just like you. I hope you feel better soon. Good luck!

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sounds like u nd to talk with someone who can listen and give good advice

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in person, not just online
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Bleed initially, scar eventually

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my girlfriend went trough the same thing..the best advice i can give you is to TALK about it with someone you love and you can trust..some1 that is not gonna judge u...dont be agressive with yourself..instead you can choose to punch a heavy bag to discharge your negative energy..physical activity helps u relax and release that agression...love yourself and dont eorry so much about what your parents think...they sont own you,and you dont have to please them all the time...i hope this helps!

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Try something called the butterfly project : every time you want to cut draw a butterfly on your wrist and don't wash it off until it fades away and every time you cut it kills the butterfly (: hope you will give it a try

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Thank you I will anything to not cut my self anymore
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Thank you really i just feel so alone and if I tell someone they will just think I'm crazy
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And I won't think that your crazy (: I had the same problem and I'm over it
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good job bria_c was it hard to get over it?
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Yeah it kind of was, it takes time but its worth it (:
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yes of course it is good for you :) :) :)
cus it can get dangerous
but im glad u got over it :) :)
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Thanks (:
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Rubber bands do not work Atleast it didn't to me anyway they're going to end up breaking at some point if you do want to use the rubber band method though get a lot like 10 or 20 on each hand or go talk to a counselor that you know will pay attention and take it seriously or talk to your parents or sit there and draw or listen to music or think about it think about the people you would be hurting parents siblings cousins friends best friends...or kick something get a bat and hit the tree punch the wall go for a walk

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I'm just to scared someone even my own family will judge me or think I'm crazy because of what I do so right now I'm just trying to find a way for me to stop and not become a habit
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I'm judged by my parents they found out at the age of 12/13 i got in major trouble I've been threatened with counselors bootcamp I want to get help but I don't also. At least try to get help the longer you go doing it the harder it'll be to quit I've been doing it since age 11 almost 12 I am now 15 still haven't quit but I am now trying to at least cut back for my siblings
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so did you start yet or no?
if you didnt, then please dont. i am in the middle of this mess, and i will tell you, it is almost impossible to stop once you start. first it is small marks, and you think i got this under control. then they get deeper, and more and more of them come. then you cant hug people because your arm hurts when you do, you can barely put cloths on. nice long hot shower? nope, to bad, now it hurts because your cuts sting under the hot water. want to stretch in the morning. ouch, dont move your arm to much, because every movements hurts.

and if you did start already, well, welcome to the club :/

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I've only done a few times but I don't want it to become a habit and I'm scared to talk to my parents about it
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well, it will become a habit, thats what i said when i first started doing self harm. i was like eh, only a few times, wont hurt, no big deal. yeah, right. if you could see my arm now, its a mess...and no, i have literally no control over it. i told myself i was finally ganna stop, and i got so happy, that was 2 days ago, guess what happen today? :/
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If you start cutting yourself the first thing you should do is STOP and tell someone that you need help . You could end up killing yourself and the scars aren't attractive to many people

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Punch a pillow.

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You could talk to your school counselor. They are trained to handle situations like yours. They are very nice and they won't think you're crazy.
I am a retired high school teacher and I have known many counselors. Just make an appointment. You will feel so much better.

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I do not know. You could ask them. You could say, "What could I tell you that you would have to tell my parents about." They would be honest.
In any case you could find a friend to talk to.
I understand about feeling like you have so much to do. Could you eliminate 1 or 2 things from your load? I will be thinking about you!
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You need to relax, there a lot of stressful things in life, but do not do that. It can screw up a lot of things. Just know that people are there for you, but u do need to get some of your stress out. A therapist could work, talk to your parents about it, get a punching bag, punch it, scream into a pillow, just don't be afraid to ask for help

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Your welcome, and I hope this helps! You will be in my prayers:)
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mine too rainbowloverXD!
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dont do ir it hurts and u never know how deep the cuts gunma be ive learned like other ppl say put a ru ber band around ur wrist snap it wach time you want to cuf yourself...and ik how u feel witb your family...say way wth my family

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The thing is I've done it and it helps he just get ride of that weight on my shoulder even if it's only for a little while and I just don't know what to do anymore I don't want to become addicted to it
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I had seen a caption written on the wall of a building who's kids had done suicide. YOU DON'T KILL YOURSELF BUT YOUR PARENTS. So don't think to harm your parents or don't try to kill them. Death or harm is not the only solution but peace has many ways. Be good and sort out your problems amicably.

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Take a rubber band and put it on your wrist. When you have a problem snap the band. Please don't cut your self. Your to beatutful for that.

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I have a few things that may help you.
1. Create a list of coping skills if you do not have one. Put about 10 to 15 things on the list. And then do one for at least 30 minutes. If one does not help do another, another, and another.
2. There are the little trick things such as the rubber band snapping on your wrist, also take so ice cubes and hold them in your hands until you cannot hold them any longer. Do this as many times as needed.
3. Write in a journal. I know that it sounds childish, but i am 19 and i still write in my journal, when i get stressed or feel like self-harming because you can write every thing in the book and you do not have to show anyone.
4. Seek professional help in the beginning, because it will hurt you, your family, your friends, and will change everything.

I hope this help!! If you need anything else, just let me know!!

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draw pics of people you really hate. Then shread it up in a shreader

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If you start, then finish.

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you stop

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I know how you feel, I've been through the same thing. Think about it or a little bit. I know self-harm helps, but really no one should do it. It can get bad. Cry it out and spend time with people you love, talk to them about it. Do some exercise and keep your self clean, and stay away from drugs. You can do it, you can release this stress eventually. And about your parents, talk to them about how you can't do it all and your just a girl. If they don't seek sense, (I know this sounds cheesy and stupid) but their just dumb.

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Thank you but I'm not sure if I want to tell my parents because I'm embarrassed and afraid of what they will think of me
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Don't worry girl. That's the key, you just gotta stop worrying. I had a full head of purple hair, tight black jeans and chains around my neck. I let them see that, and made a point that that was me, who I was. If they don't accept their own flesh and blood, then it's their loss. A beautiful girl like you can keep on her own, and your strong enough to believe that you can endure life and the problems it carries. Be strong.(:
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thanks i really mean it i guess im just afraid they wont accept me
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You just have to stop being afraid, fear is in the mind. Be open with them and let them accept who you are, no matter how you are. Your their daughter, and if they don't accept you for you, then that's just insane. They might be a little shocked at first, but they'll try and help you.
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Stop....?

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I spent pretty much all of my teenage years cutting myself. I guess what made me stop that selfish non-sense is having children. I'm not saying that there aren't times that I want to do it, but how would I explain that to 4 small children? Also, I got help, not therapy, I truly hate that shit, but I see a psychiatrist and I take a nice cocktail of pills that keep me calmer and happier. Maybe it would be a good idea to see a doctor. And also, maybe if you have little brothers or sisters you can think about them when you have the urge to cut. What would you tell them? And also, would you want them to do the same?

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Nothing feels like pain...a pain you can't describe. Don't cut yourself, think of a person who means the world to you and write their name down on the area you feel you want to cut. Be strong. Stress isn't worth the scars that will be permanent.

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Well , i used to cut, then my dad knew and i got into a rehab shit. So i recommend get help, tell your parents or tell an adult if you don't wantt to tell your parents. But yeah just do that or keep cutting through your live. Good luck. Damn why am i giving good" advice if im still cutting..ok so the rehab only works for a while. lol Anyways good luck ;)

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Go to your counselor at school.By law It will be kept cofidential .Be careful and not to bleed out, it is very dangerous.

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just stop please it is not gonna do u any good overall is it??!! use ur common sense and pull urself 2gether cos u r gonna spoil ur life and u only have 1. when u get the urge to cut, think about the fact that u will only get one moment the same in ur life as that moment DONT WASTE IT i mean what is worse than harming urself- u could be resting, reading a good book, meditating, chatting to a friend. and u say u have too much going on in ur life- then why are u wasting the precious free time u have CUTTING URSELF!!!!???

Talk to the people u trust ur parents must be stressed too, they will love u inside so talk to them - TRUST ME u will feel a trillion times better after u have done that.

Good luck and remember Be Confident, Fear Nobody

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self mutilation becomes a strange addiction over time. I did it for 5 years and am now 2 years clean but sometimes still have the urge. Its best to avoid it and find better alternatives. mine personally is writing and drawing. the scars i now have are permanent and haunting. and they are really ugly. i often have to wear long sleeves to be taken seriously. ive even been denied some very good opportunities because of my damaged arms. please dont start hurting yourself.

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If you haven't started, don't start at all. I used to cut myself more than anyone knows. I have scars that no one has ever seen. I started when my parents got a divorce and all it did was make things worse. My parents weren't ever there for me so I know what it's like. I bottle things up and I've wanted to cut more but I don't. I talk to my friends about whatever is going on or my boyfriend. They're all there for me. Try doing things just to get your mind off of wanting to because once you start you won't want to stop, trust me.

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I would seek professional counselling if you want or pray. remember: You are special and one of a kind. ;)

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I'm really sorry sometimes when you start doing that sometimes it makes feel better because in their minds they think cutting them selves is less painful than what they are going through. I can not blame you for not wanting to not tell your parents but sometimes it has to be done. Good luck hope this helps!

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Go find help. Talk to me even. It's okay not to be okay. If it helps, put a rubber band around your wrist and pull it, it's better than cutting. Cutting sucks it's a daily battle, take it from me.

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TRY to find solution, instead of remembering the problems,cool your mind, Sports are very effective in stress treatment.

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READ BIBLE. PSALMS 139.
GET onto the treadmill....Wear good clothes and take pictures.
If you are a student, make a timetable, study hard and get good grades.
If you like yourself ( be true to yourself) everyone will love you, admire you and eventually apolozise to you.
Overall every moment in your life is worth living...
JESUS LOVES YOU!!!

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Meditate

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It sounds horrible but exercise and keep busy. I'm going through all this and find avoiding being alone and find things you really enjoy, mine is history coursework right now! Be outside, especially if it is sunny, light can make all the difference. It may also be worth knowing that perfectionism (liking things in a certain way or OCD, i didn't even know i had it) and irrational nervousness with certain situations or people and self conciousness, can make you prone to certain forms of depression. It can also be caused by events or be hereditary. It's not fun having parents, doctors or other adults watching over you but it does keep you safe. I know I live my life to make others lives better, set yourself a goal, a reason to keep safe, it doesn't always work but you can always try again. Know that you are loved and love those around you. You'll be fine sunshine, there are better days :-) <3

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Instead of cutting yourself you should talk to your parents or start doing sports or hobby. You can ignore the stress and focus of your hobby. I have gone through what you are going through(I'm 14) and I started soccer, basketball, drawing, and watching a lot of Tv!:) but don't start to cut yourself. I know someone who does that and everybody feels bad for him.

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Meditation and yoga is the best way fight against depression. 15 OR 30 Min daily yoga exercise kill depression and improve your health. to learn yoga online there is many website. m giving you link there you can learn it. follow this link

http://yogaclassesinindia.com/

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Relax breath you need to go to a doctor and get help I know that you might not want to but you might not ever stop yourself so please go to a doctor to get help!

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Cycologist or meditation

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