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Why would a mother love one child more than another one? You know like favoritism, especially if the kids are only toddler/babies?

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I don't think parents ever love one child more than the other child. Parents love each child in a different way than the other one. Me and my older sister are just 16 months apart and I can tell that my parents love me and her in different ways. I'm more independent and do not need as much attention and she is more dependent on them. From an outside view it does seem like my parent choose my sister as their favorite, but it's not true they just love us in a different way.

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Great answer, Tish! You're very intelligent for a sixteen year old.
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Thanks and I'm 20
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Oh... I'm sorry, I mistook the "16 months apart" for "sixteen years old" haha.
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I think your wrong when u say parents don't love one more than another. Sometimes they just do.
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Agree with doinpoll. Some parents just do which is wrong but it happens.
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Yes i agree it does happen but usually in cases with mental or other issues we do not know. I just think in a healthy family the love is eqaul but different.
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TishTheFish is right, I think.
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Couldn't have said it in any Otha way
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what tishthefish said, every mother loves every child of hers equally. Just they probably have more fun with only one of them.

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Dang that's not true. Most love them equally. But not EVERY mother.
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well, that not true.
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Soccergirl it is true..... Heck, some parents don't even love their kids! What would you say about emotionally or physical abusive mothers?
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Hey, Shaylen!
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ooooo.... well then it wouldn't be right. What I meant, is that every GOOD mothers loves her child equally. I guess I forgot about abusive ones.
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When I Have Kids I Will Never Have a Favorite.... It's Not Right.

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Great mindset. :) btw, you're one of the most beautiful girls I've seen.
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Awwww...... Thnx Follow Me???
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TishTheFish has a great answer. But I'll tell you that my aunt picks favorite kids and my grandmother used to have a "favorite of the week" (in a subliminal way) which I don't think is right at all.

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Your very smart my sister (older by three years) says both parents should love all kids equally.
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Thanks. :) And I agree.
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I agree with tishthefish... I have 3 children whom I love very much equally.. Each have their own personalities that I do love in a different way but overall there is no 'favorite'

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I still have alot to learn. :P
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I don't think your mother loves your younger brother or sister more than they love you. I think that they need more attention than you do. And if you ever want to do something with your mother, just ask! She'd love to do something with you!

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Every mother does NOT love each child equally.
There are many cases of moms abusing one child and not the others. There are cases of moms neglecting one child, locking them in a cage and testing them like dogs, but not the others.
There is no reason. Maybe done sort of mental thing.
I personally know s couple moms that do not love one of their kids. How go I know that, you may ask. Well they are very vocal about it and not ashamed at all.
Lucky for them they don't lock their children up or abuse them because I'd be all over that and the police and social services would be involved.

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if a mother has say a 10 year old and a toddler it will seem like the mom loves the toddler more just because it needs a lot more attention, but i have never been in a family where ive seen favorites

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Yea youre only gonna be in 1 family
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i meant ive been over at other peoples houses and have seen their kids and stuff.
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Let me tell you...I was the youngest of 4. By the time I was born, till I left home at 13, I was told they did not want an unwanted pregnancy, and that's who I was. and every day I was confused about what I did wrong. it pretty much affected my life for 58 years.

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Wow. That is sickening that your parents would say that! And that must have been painful to say the least. Some parents make me so sick! That's heartbreaking I am so sorry!!
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Thanks sheylin. That means more than you'll ever know. I have never like a good girl...even at 5
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Thank you sheylin. You are first person to say I might be too bad
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I though I was alone. I feel your pain girl. But you know what thanks to that we are stronger.
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Thanks Mistake. I get why you have your user name. You're the best. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise!
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Yes, it's true; parents love their kids in different ways and some need more attention from others. But favoritism of kids DOES happen with some parents. It's wrong but it happens. It's very wrong cause it makes the other kids jealous not to mention hurts them emotionally, it's damaging. When I have kids, I am never going to boast about one child in front of the others constantly like my mom does. My dad has verbally said before that I am his favorite, which made me upset cause that's not fair (plus my dad annoys me). I just don't get it, kids are all different, but I don't get how you could favor one. For those of you that say it doesn't happen, it does.

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Speaking from experience of a full house. Mothers love their children completely, but individually. Everyone of them has a different personality and must be cared for as individuals. It often looks like one is favored over the other, but it's not true. I had the go-getter, the self-aware, the I'm lost in the middle, and the momma's boy. I had to deal with each one according to their needs, But I loved and love them all fiercely.

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I don't know

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