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Is it wrong I don't cry at funerals or even look sad?

I never cry at funerals or even look sad and I don't know why. While we are at a funeral for some reason I sit there and smile and look polite. Everyone looks at me like Im crazy. Ive never been a huge cryer unless I was getting a shot. Is it wrong to look happy at a funeral? Should I make myself cry?

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Well you certainly shouldn't smile while the service is going on, but you don't need to cry either. It's better to be genuine than a fake mourner.

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If you didn't know the deceased person, it's perfectly normal to not be sad. Don't try to fake it. Just be polite (and maybe try not to smile).

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Ok. But I was close to these people. Most of them were my great aunts
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If you knew them, then definitely don't smile. Still, you don't have to act heartbroken.
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If you can't cry , then please don't smile.It may hurt others

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I don't think it's wrong. I mean look at the little kids. The probably dont even know what's going on. Then again you never know

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That's fine. Don't force yourself to cry. My older sister didn't cry at my fathers funeral when she was 10. In fact, she kept telling mum to stop crying coz she was embarrasing herself. It doesn't mean my sister loved him any less.
When I was 16 and my nanna died. I never cried. I still haven't cried to this day.
I never cried about my other 3 aunties, an uncle, or other grandma and other 2 grandpas either.
It doesn't matter whether tears literally roll down your cheeks or not. You still will miss them just as much.

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i think its the way you deal with it.
if you are happy about the death, well, maybe its a problem.
like when my grandpa died last summer, i didnt cry. i made jokes about him just mins later with my mom. but my bf gets in an argument with me and walks off, i can cry all night. so, i mean, i dont know, i guess its how it affects you

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It'd be wrong if you knew the one that passed away but if you don't know the person then no it's not wrong. But also if you knew the person but you guys weren't very close then that would also be okay.

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Actually,it depends on the person and the situation and your connection with the deceased. I cried when my dad and mom passed away, but I didn't when a close friend died so to do what you do,sit there and smile and look polite is very proper for the situation.

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You might be crying Mentally and internally without realizing it. It's not bad if you don't have any emotions.

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May be you know that is REAL TRUTH and part of the life.

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If you don't cry don't smile

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It's a funeral. It's not about you and your "performance" Just be respectful, no one cares if you cry. How many do you go to anyway?

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Showing emotion is relative (no pun intended) .. Even if it was someone close to you, there is no expectation that you show emotion in public. That is a personal and private choice.

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I don't think so. first it's a moment of sadness, sorrow & loosing someone who is more or less related & closer to everyone who is present at funeral. there must be a religious guidelines too but, with respect to other attendees crying should be silent. Out of all incidents around the human Life this is supposed to be a very emotional moment.

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No. You probably have other ways of showing your emotions. That is like me... When someone or something dies, i really dont cry. It's normal.

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