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last year my brother got all the money from my family's junk place thing and my mom told me that this year I get it so I spend 12 hours sorting it out and stuff and my dad comes in and told me that my brother gets all the money so I was sad but gave it to him it was about $40000 and that same day my brother got my dad's laptop that he didn't want that I used for school and my dad told be before that I could have it and he just gave it to my bother and it has been happening my whole life and my brother is 17 and before told my dad that he didn't want the lab top. my brother gets everything and anything he wants. I feel left out and not part if the family and why would they care I'm just there daughter!? so not important anymore?!

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Aw, shoot! What a rotten thing for your parents to do to you, they should be ashamed of themselves. There probably isn't any way to fix this problem by yourself. If you can do so, talk to your mom and dad, and maybe your brother. If that doesn't help, what you'll have to do is something that will help you for the rest of your life...love them, but don't expect anything from them, because they are not normal. It is not normal to love one child and shut the other one out, that's not how we are supposed to be made. If you can learn to place your own value on yourself, rather than getting it from your family, you will be much stronger than someone who is given everything, coddled, and pampered. You'll develop self-confidence and strength because you know you did it when others might not have been able to. It won't matter what others think of you, or say about you, because who you are is built up within yourself, by yourself, so it is unshakable. You'll be a loving and caring partner and parent because you know what it feels like to be treated with unkindness.

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I don't detect any bitterness in your thought, keep as free from bitterness as you are able to, bitterness is nasty and will affect your every thought and action. This has nothing to do with anything you've done, you are not at fault. I wish there was something better to suggest, but that's the best I've got. I'm going to send you one of my favorite life philosophies...Desiderata. Take it into your heart, make it your own, and it will support you in your journey. Remember, this is not your fault.

Max Ehrmann


Desiderata

Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefo
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Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.
Max Ehrmann, Desiderata, Copyright 1952.

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I will and thank you
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You are very welcome. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to be of some help.
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thank you do much
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Try to talk to them about it. I'm sure they still love you, they're your family. Maybe it's just because he is older?

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Talk to them it'll probably HELP?;)

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Maybe because 2 weeks ago you said you were 13, pregnant and 2 weeks overdue. They want someone responsible to have the money.

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Well done, PI, well done! Lol....wait, maybe she's the 13 year-old-friend of the girl I answered. I checked her out, couldn't come up with anything positive....so I gave a tentative answer!
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It's all good. I can give you tips that I've figured out if you want. Although I think you're smart enough to figure it all out.
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It wasn't my fault I got pregnant
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they are just trying to give him a head start in life, your turn will come.

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I deal with this same issue but I am the parent with a step daughter that just holds out her hand, and gets what she wants for nothing no chores to earn it, now for my son he will work his little butt off mow the grass take out trash whatever I tell him to do, and my new husband doesn't even say thanks! Step daughter is 11 yrs old and my son is 13 yrs old its alway competition my husband treats him the same way like we don't belong.... Sucks for him I guess

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$40,000?!!?

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