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I do not like my fathers girlfriend. She's always rude to me and I never give her a reason to be. I'm nice to her... but I just don't like her. I've learned to accept her and all. But no matter how hard I try, I just can't seem to like her. When I talk to my dad, she'll intrude in our conversation and deliberately upset me. I'm pretty sure my dad suspects I don't like her... but do you think I should tell him I don't like her? Should he know about this? I've told her off before because she purposely makes me mad. Im glad my dad is happy and all.. and I know he won't leave her (which is fine) So in your opinion should I tell my dad? Or leave it..?

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looks to me like she is in competition. pull her aside and tell her to chill, but at the same time talk to your dad...and point out the behavior when it happens dont let her punk you, dont forget you where there before her and u will be there after..you are forever she is just a minute

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Well said.
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uhhu thanks lyn
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boondox4l

tell him
and have a serious talk with her and if she gets upset then talk to him one on one and let him know how you feel and what she said

in most cases the child is more important then anything to the parent
so he will listen and have a talk with her and work things out
or have a family meeting

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Tell him how you feel

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Dude that's the same exact thing happening to me ..

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Well then. I guess you understand my predicament!
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you should tell your dad. i dont like her either(she sounds like a female dog, if ya know what im saying) maybe you Can ask her to stop, or ask your dad to ask her to stop.

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I think comunication is important in any relationship. Just sit down, only the two of you, and have a heart to heart with your father. I'm sure he would appreciate your honesty. Focus more on how you feel and don't hold anything back. Tell him you care for his happiness and that you do honestly try but you just have a problem with her.

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yes... lol

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If she is really a pain in the ass then tell your dad, If she just annoys you sometimes, Just ignore her...

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Buttonz_again

Tell him so he can find a new girl

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Yep. Tell him.

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sometimes the bigger "deed" is helping.. Make.. it work ..(food for thought..)..

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Definitely talk to your dad about it.

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You really need to tell him. Tell him exactly what you told us. Be completely honest with him. Good luck.

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Tell him.

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Ya you should tell him she sounds really rude and you should just say to your dad look I don't really like her I have tried accepting her but she doesn't accept me and she's really rude to me

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You should tell your dad everything. Try to talk to both of them to keep the family together

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No, I really don't. I don't know how old you are, but if you're a teen soon you will have a life of your own and all kinds of boys to choose from. It's different for an older person. It's harder to find someone, and you say yourself she makes him happy. You should be glad she does that. That's really all you need from her. As long as she doesn't interfere in your relationship with your dad, I don't see why you have to tell him what he probably knows already...

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I'm 14... I didn't give the whole story on what she's done. I'm glad my dad is happy... Obviously and I don't want him to find another women. Never said that I did. She IS interfering with me and my fathers relationship.. She's the reason I don't hardly see him or talk to him for that matter. I can't stand her.. I asked this question because I feel as if I'm drifting apart from my dad.
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tell him
your dad should to know about your feeling :)

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i have same problem, but worse.
i just try to get even with her, because telling either of them is pointless. i am not the type to get revenge, but its funny with her. because i didnt give her a reason to hate, so, now i did :)

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I think you should keep quiet. I don't see how telling him will help much.
Your dad will be hurt, if you tell him, and he will surely feel guilty as well. No sense the two of you being down. I do feel for you. : [

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I've got to disagree with you on this one, Craigsmom. This is more than a simple schoolyard relationship. This could be a lifetime. This lady could become the stepmom and become a permanent fixture between the son and dad. If there was a problem - one that could be fixed with some communications - the time to have it is before the relationship becomes more permanent. I dare say the son has earned the right to voice a legitimate opinion. If heard and understood, they can take that to the woman and work things out. Silence doesn't help anyone.
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You are allowed to disagree, certainly. To tell you the truth, I was torn on this one. I do see it both ways, and I agree with what you have said.
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u should let him kno how u feel now rather than later! NO WOMAN should ever want to expect to come before a mans daughter/son!!!!!! children should b a priority. she should respect u, ur dad, & yalls relationship. she's prob actually jealous of u or TIME.......IF UR A FEMALE! she sounds like a heffer!

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Le him know how you feel about her and he at talk to her about it. If you don't it could get worse :) good luck

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You, your dad, and his girlfriend need some family counseling. It would be healthy for the 3 of you to be able to communicate with each other. Maybe you irritate this woman, even though you think you've given her no reason to feel irritated. Your dad is surely going to put your happiness before his, but if he lets this woman go, he might be really sad and find someone even worse. There is no reason this trio can't be made to work, with some help and some effort on everyone's part.

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rbeezy

You should talk to your dad first alone when she can't intrude or even hear you and tell him how you feel. Next you should have a sit down with him and her and tell her how you feel when she does things that bother you. It is normal not to like the girlfriend, I hated my mother's boyfriend for a long time. After you do that not much else you can do until you can move out on your own. You will just make yourself miserable if you keep dwelling on it after that. Just find hobbies and other activities you can do that you enjoy and get your mind off of it at least for a while.

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You should always tell your Dad how you feel , I'm a Dad and I would never forgive myself if I made it where my daughter couldn't talk to me , our relationship is the most important thing to me !

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I think you should tell him also I would show him the list of your friends that are answering your question that way he knows that you have support on your ordeal .

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I agree with letty1191

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Ask your dad if you and him can go to dinner alone and tell him that you dont like her ut try to say nicely you know?

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Talk to him, but I would caution you to stick to how she makes you feel without harsh accusations or labelling her. Tell him you want him to be happy but you feel your relationship with him is being undermined. Be kind and caring when you talk to him, not angry and resentful. He will take it from there. You will all work it out, or he will see what you see...Good luck!

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Where is papalu

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talk to him also i think u don't like her naturally because she will never replace your mom?

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sagittarius1997

tell him although you're probably right that they won't split up. going through the same thing. right now my mom, her bf, and my brother are watching a movie. i'm in my room on the computer trying to ignore the hurt that i was kicked out of family movie night.

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