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Trenity
Trenity: 5 months ago | Last edited at 7:42PM on 12/30/2012

Is it bad to not feel a 'spark' when making out?

Me and my boyfriend have been dating a year now and I really love doing everything with him...except make out...He loves it but for me its not enjoyable. Im worried this is a bad sign or something. Help!

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kateweinke
kateweinke: 5 months ago via iPhone

You need to communicate what you like to him, without being mean or rude about it. If u are making out with him and acting like u like it because u r afraid of hurting his feelings, well your just post-poning good make out time, so stop faking it-period! Because if you love everything about this guy, except kissing-well, that can be easily changed. Youre not asking him to change as a person, just his make out style. He's not a mind reader, so be confident and tell him what you like or what feels good and maybe u 2 might learn something new from each other!
Hopefully, this helps you! I want to hear back from you if this helped:) good luck

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Trenity: 5 months ago
It did help, I know he's not a mind reader and I should definitely tell him. Thank you(:
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Mythik_Tryal
Mythik_Tryal: 5 months ago

Um... Well, I WOULD say to go to the next base and see what happens, but... Yeah, probably not the best idea.

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Trenity: 5 months ago
We're open to do anything, and we do. I just don't like that one thing.
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yzeelyf
yzeelyf: 5 months ago via iPhone

Feeling some spark is actually not that bad... I feel sparks too when I hold hands with my crush before so its normal

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Mythik_Tryal: 5 months ago
Read it again. You went the opposite direction
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yzeelyf: 5 months ago via iPhone
How did it went the other way
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Mythik_Tryal: 5 months ago
You said Feeling a spark isn't bad, but the question was "Is it bad to NOT feel a 'spark' when making out?"
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yzeelyf: 5 months ago via iPhone
Oh shoot!! Well my bad... Uhmm ok... Uhmm... I guess I'll just stay it the corner and cry and just sit there...
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Trenity: 5 months ago
Haha that's ok thanks for ...trying? (:
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yzeelyf: 5 months ago via iPhone
Haha... Well I learned something :D
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TGOD97
TGOD97: 5 months ago via Android

no its not ive been daiting my boyfriend for 6 months and I dont feel it I feel it when its cute pecks and when were holding hands ..dont worry about :)

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M_squared
M_squared: 5 months ago via Android

Are you kissing the way YOU enjoy? Is there any romance? Try asking him for exchanging oil back rubs & if you want to spend more/less time making out, make it happen - take charge!

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Amaleah
Amaleah: 5 months ago

Thats not uncommon. If he tries to make out with you or the topic is brought up just explain that its not your thing but you really like him and maybe later on... just speak what you feel

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karinaztaylor
karinaztaylor: 5 months ago via iPhone

Either you don't know each other well enough, one of you just more passionate than the other, or it's not meant to be for any number reasons no ones fault nesseccarily

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animilo
animilo: 5 months ago via iPhone

i think its fine if you love everything else. i don't really like making out either,never really have,but i love my husband very much and we find many other ways to show we care :)

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dslakey
dslakey: 5 months ago via iPhone

I think he's doing it wrong!! Lol!!

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