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Is it ok for my mom ex boyfriend to still call me and see me?

He still text me an come see me. My mom dont know

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Really depends on the situation... like how long were they together, and why did they break up, or how old are you, and what sort of contact it is.

If your mother was with him for a long time, and he helped to raise you, then it would make sense for the two of you to be in contact, since you and him might have a "father-daughter" type of relationship, which shouldn't end just because he is no longer with your mother. And in most cases (unless it was a really horrible break up - your mom should be ok with this).

Other than that, in general if you feel that you have to hide the fact that you are still in contact from her, I'd really want to examine why that is. In any case though, you should let her know.

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you should probably tell your mom - how would you feel if she still hung out with your ex boyfriend?

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Why is he talking to you?

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I would discuss this with your mom. If you don't, she will probably find out sooner or later and it's better sooner than later.

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No

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No, tell your mom

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Only if your mom aprove it. If she does not know then you have to let her know whats going on. Cuz is not normal for hom to be calling you unless he is the one who raise you.

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Rodgertal

are you a boy?

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PteraspisPREHISTORIC

He's prob a pedophile and plans to do something.Don't do anything with him anymore.Lock up the house at night,tell an adult,and block him.

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BoxingTally

Is it ok for you to talk to him , you mean...and probably not. It's disloyal.

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No

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Unless you want lifelong problems, tell your mother. If that doesn't end this unhealthy relationship, you are probably facing a lifetime of brokenness. If you are not of legal age, avoid him like the plague. Call the cops, if necessary. I urge you NOT to encourage him.

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candybar

I'd be very concerned about this. And the fact that you're asking us tells me you think it's wrong too.

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Nykariah, there are some men out there who get attracted to young girls and then date their mothers so that they can get physically close to the girl. There are two things here that should and probably are bothering you. (a) no adult should spend time with you or text you without your mother knowing. He knows that and now you do too. (b) you know that this is a weird situation and it makes you uncomfortable. It should stop. If you don't want to upset your mom, then refuse all contact right now. If he presses you for a visit, tell your mom. She will know what to do.
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Ok I got it Thanks ;))
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candybar
Rath is right.
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No, I smell trouble ahead for you and your mom. Tell your mom immediately and become her ally. She will protect you. Always talk to your mom. You don't say how old you are but I think still an adolescent. You are too young for this relationship. Run fast the other way!

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Yes and no. If he was in your life for a long period of time, and he is like a father figure to you then it is fine.

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no he want to get in ur pants

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Well, it depends in the situation. Is he a pervert? My mom broke up with her boyfriend, but we still talked. He's like a dad to me. But my moms knows I talk to him and he comes over to our house sometimes.

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tell ur mom

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You should always be open and above board with your mom. If you don't it may come back and bite you. There may be a reason she doesn't want him in your life. Sit down and talk openly to her.

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Is their a attraction between the 2 0f you? If so ur mom will probally get upset. So just be careful

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i take it i might be right about the attraction part?
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Something is up

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I smell 2 rats now I know why he's the x
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No!!!!

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No tell your mom

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