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Are my requirements for girls I would get with too high?

my requirements are: 1. virgin, 2. stays in good shape, 3. liberal, 4. no body hair, 5. likes my humor, 5. doesn't drink, smoke, or do drugs, 6. won't cheat on me, 7. is as open minded as I am when it comes to physical love.

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Yeah. Someone somewhere.

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I hope so.
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These sound like very reasonable requirements, though in some areas virgin may be difficult to find.

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I know. :(
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The reason that's a requirement is because I'm a virgin and the thought of some other guy being inside a girl I like is gross. Plus I'm not very confident I could please a girl who wasn't a virgin.
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I'm not really sure why guys are so obsessed with these mythical 'virgins' lol. Just because she's a virgin, doesn't mean she'll automatically be blown away by your sexy times just because you're the only person she's been with - that's not how it works :) in fact, a girl who has had sex is likely to be way more confident with what she likes, and will probably enjoy herself more. As for the 'gross' element... I'm not sure if I can change your mind about this, but girls aren't 'ruined' once they've had sex. They are the same person. My advice is to get to know girls and you will figure out if you like them that way, not by the status of their vagina and not by the presence/absence of body hair.
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Hmm just realised that comment sort of seems like I'm getting you in trouble... I really just wanted to give you some friendly advice from a lady's perspective :)
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I know that they're the same person if they've lost their virginity but I just can't handle the thought of it, I just don't have the ability to get over that kind of thing, and I never will.
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I think it is great if you can find someone like that. I am happy to tell you that one of my sons found someone like that and my daughter was like that too.....They are happily married now :)

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Hopefully it will stay that way for both of your children.
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Yes, thank you....I am not counting that my other 3 kids will be this lucky....but who knows :)
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Hopefully they can and me too.
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I hope so too, good luck ! :)
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Thanks. ^_^
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I agree with thegreatbabino... It's night be hard to look for a virgin out of this society

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Yeah but I won't settle for less than that.
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Your requirements are possible here in my place... Cause my place is an asian community and asian parents are strict so yeah... But I got my eye on this one girl
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Good luck. :)
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Thnx... And you too good luck on finding your dream girl :)
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Thanks. ^_^
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You're welcome
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Yeah the stays in shape one

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Well i don't want a girl that doesn't take care of herself.
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Oh that's what u meant, I thought u meant good looking
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That doesn't hurt.
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Probably unless you're looking at a church. Preacher's daughter will usually cover the last requirement.

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Church goers aren't liberal.
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What do you mean?
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Some are. I go to church and I'm a liberal.
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What do you mean gators?
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Nothing dude.....it's just a joke where I live.
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Oh.
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What do you mean by open minded if she is supposed to be a virgin?

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Like she'd be willing to try stuff as long as it didn't involve anyone other than the two of us.
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She may not know the choice on your meme. Lol
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Menu that should have said.
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What do you mean?
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Well you have some ideas of what you might want from her in the bedroom where as she may have no idea how to please a man or what a mans expectations are. A boy learns a lot from self service & that exploration can help a guy learn about himself but a female often doesn't explore herself & has no experience there.
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Well it wouldn't take much to please me, as long as I can please her.
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Good luck with that!

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Thanks, or are you saying that its impossible?
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Both. You may be missing some really good relationships based on your parameters.
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Which parameters?
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All of them together. Not everyone is into exercise but may change their mind when in love. Open minded about physical love? You want a virgin are you? Perhaps there is someone who made one mistake and needs to reconnect. Do you rule all of them out? No body hair? Are you looking for a prepubecent female or a muslim? Again if you are in love you may be open to changing things, but the more I read your requirements the more it sounds like a very controling person; are you?
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I am a virgin. And yes I would rule out someone who wasn't a virgin regardless of the reason. And if I sound like a controlling person I don't mean to be.
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The sign of a person who will have sucess in relationships is someone who realizes that you have to be flexable. Doesn't sound like you. I suggest a fundamentalist church while looking for junior miss right.
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Finding someone that you accept as they are is what most people do. To be a virgin with little or no experience in the personal side of a relationship & have such a rigid discription of miss right doesn't really gel with most of us. You can't both be the teacher at the same time in the bedroom & you both can't be the student at the same time either but in reality that is what you are wanting. It's like the blind leading the blind. Reading up on the theory doesn't mean you can put in into practice. Some prior experience on either side may actually benefit your relationship.
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It seems to work in nature.
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Most of nature is not monogamous.
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Love birds are. And emperor penguins.
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Big cats are not, neither are dogs. Elephants are polygamous. Merekeets(sp?) beta female may breed but may also get kicked out of her group or the pup is raised by the alpha female or killed. The mocking bird lays their egg in another birds nest and leaves. Shall I go on?
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My point was that animals mate by instinct without prior experience all the time and love birds and emperor penguins don't mate with any other bird but the one they mate with first. And that's the kind of girl I want. One that waits till she's married and remains faithful.
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Then re evaluate how you word things about this topic. You are young and have a long way to go before getting a life mate. Be open to change and you will have more of a chance of meeting her. Perhaps the none virginal female you friend could be the one to introduce you to your virgin you never know.
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A liberal who's a vi.rgin, dosent smoke, shaves, and has a sense of humor? Pfft good luck buddy.

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I'm a liberal that doesn't smoke and I have a good sense of humor.
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Lol I make fun of liberals but in all seriousness J have pretty unrealistically high standards too. Virgjns arent very common nowadays lol. I have a hard time finding them too THANKS TO YOU DIRTY LIBERALS! lmao
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What's that supposed to mean? XD
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I'm also a virgin, too.
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You're an odd liberal then lol
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I just wouldn't feel right about sleeping with a girl that I don't love. And I don't want to sleep with a girl that has had another guy inside of them before. Partly because the thought of it grosses me out but also because I'm not confident I could please a girl who isn't a virgin.
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Same here man. Well, except the pleasign her part lol
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I read a book on that actually, its apparently not nearly as hard (lmao) as men think it is.
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Yeah but I don't want to risk it. Also there's the possibility of getting an STD. Do not want.
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Sometimes. I guess you will need a lot of patience before you find that girl.

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Yeah, I know. :(
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No. But good luck finding a perfect girl

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I don't think u can find a girl like that... But maybe. The virgin part might be a little hard,depending how old u r
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I'm 17
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1 and 7 could be a little weird, but other than that I don't see anything too, non-exsistant I guess, haha.

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Ikr kinda contradicts himself there
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It'll work out though. Just gotta keep searching.
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What I mean by open minded is she's willing to try things as long as they only involve the two of us.
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Yeah I don't plan on giving up my search.
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They aren't too high, they are just ridiculous. No body hair? A virgin (like yourself, I'm sure) until she gets to you, then a freak? You don't want a real woman...

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Well I have sometimes thought about making a robotic woman that meets my requirements.
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Yeah and it would have to be 4 foot tall with a flat head to rest my beer..... Oh and no voice box.
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5'8" actually and with a cute voice.
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And a regular shaped head
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Gainster I would have to say no eyes & heavy boots, otherwise she may take one look at you & give you a good swift kick in the gonads.
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Lol
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I wont go into detail on discription of the perfect male man made or otherwise as those two words could be seen as a contradiction using them in the same breath in the same sentence. Lol
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They seem reasonable, but these days it might be hard to find a virgin.

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I know. :(
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Maybe but hey all girls are different and you never know. Good luck with that anyways.

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No ones perfect....i guess u like your girls bald...lol and liberal?...ohh boy...Im sure that if you worked out and were consistent she would probably work out too...

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Head hair is fine and arm hair to an extent.
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Hahaha ok just checking....
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Ok.:)
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They aren't too high, they're just ridiculous.

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How are they ridiculous?
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How can you expect someone to be both a virgin and open to physical love? It sounds like you want someone to have waited all their life to be your sex slave, which is weird and unrealistic.
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What I meant by open minded was that she'd be willing to try different positions and maybe toys, not bondage or anything.
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Yeahh

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Why do you say that?
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'Cause there are barely any people like that.
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Well I won't give up until I find one.
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Hey I qualify for that! Except for body hair, everybody has that lmao.

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Well I mean in the nether region.
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Haha gotcha lol
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And armpits and legs.
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Yeah I think that's gross if chicks let that grow out too much. Sometimes I get lazy though :p
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Lol. :)
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The question is, can you meet the requirements a girl expects from you? Are you willing to shave off all your body hair for her? Look for love, that's what relationships are about.

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Yes I am willing to do that and,if i love her, whatever else it takes, so long as it doesn't break my moral code. And I am looking for someone to love that will love me back.
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Called a Mormon.

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How do you no that?
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Mormons arent liberal lol
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Theyre like the one cult in america that isnt
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And I think Mormons are ridiculous anyway.
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Haha I'm a Mormon. :D it's fine, we're like everyone else. I'm not Amish or anything. :)
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You actually believe that Jesus came to Utah?
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No? Where did you hear that?
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I heard that's what Mormons believe.
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Haha no. The Book of Mormon tells about the SPREAD of Christianity to the Americas. Not Jesus actually coming to Utah. Haha :)
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If you say so. Lol
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Lol that's me... But yeah it's possible! The virginity part might be hard

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I know :(
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Mate the only place you will get those boxes ticked is in your dreams.
Good thing for you is that dreams are for free!! So dream on brother bear!!!

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If only there was a way to leave this world and go to my dream world and it be real.
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Just strart with finding a gurl that ticks some of the easy boxes then groom them for the ones that need a little work. Most will cater for your needs as long as you show a desire to meet theirs......think about it
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The no body hair is an exspensive rule not to mention a painful one. Remember body hair is a reasonable attribute to have. Shaving & usual plucking & general waxing should be all you expect. Hair is there for a reason. It's a heating & cooling mechanism for our bodies.

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I meant pubic hair.
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That's called a Brazilian. If you go to a salon you can hear the girls scream. I do hair removal & refuse to do them & give anyone that much pain.
Why not forget about hair removal down there. Some girls won't take well to that demand of yours.
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Or there's always the trusty lady's shaver which you could offer to do.
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Or laser hair removal, or when we figure out how to manipulate genes, shut that one off.
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Laser costs about 2 or 3 thousand & may take treatments monthly for a year or so. It's not instant & is very painful. I wouldn't do that for anyone. Go a good $15 throwaway shaver Well do you know by the time a lady is 70 or 80 it has naturally all disappeared but that's a long time to wait. Lol
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I have a suggestion for you and all guys who demand that their ladies be hairless, especially in their ~special place~. You go get a brazillian. See how it feels. Admit to yourself that you have told your girlfriend to be in intense pain about once a month or so, just to satisfy your desires. The same goes for shaving, since some people get pretty awful ingrown hairs. Just think about how that feels for her, before you tell her that she's not good enough for you because she allows herself to be an adult human being (all of whom have pubic hair).
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Glad someone agrees with me on the pain point.
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I have already (gently) criticised some of your 'requirements', but now for some general advice. There is every chance that you will find a girl who, on paper, has all of these characteristics. Does that mean you'll love her, or that she'll love you? No. There is also every chance that you'll miss out on a great relationship just because a girl doesn't fit your requirements. In my experience, it's very easy to have a list like this when you're single, but when you meet someone and fall in love with them, none of that stuff matters. If you really love her, you'll love all of her. Even if she's a hairy, conservative, chain-smoking non-virgin. Although that would be surprising :D

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It's because he hasn't had a relationship with adult elements that all these criteria are based on visual not emotional elements. Until he falls in love he won't know if she is willing to go hairless. Some girls would be disgusted that he want them to look like a little girl in some areas yet he wants them to be open minded & adult like in the head. A virgin is exactly that & so be careful what you ask for, you both will have a lot of ignorance in a lot of areas & thus what you imagine will be a wonderful union may well end up being an awkward encounter better forgotten. If that was to happen you would have to re evaluate your future expectations.
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I have fallen in love before. Unfortunately she didn't like me back. I still love her and would do just about anything for her if she asked me to. But I know that she will never be mine. But she also doesn't fit my first requirement, so I don't really want her as a girlfriend anymore. But I do still love her. I can be somewhat flexible on the body hair part as long as she trims it, but the virgin part, that I will not budge on. If you don't care if he or she is a virgin or not that's fine, but to me it matters more than anything, same with the drug thing, I lost my Grandmother to lung cancer, I won't lose another person close to me to it. And I can't stand cigarette smoke.
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We all have our own criteria for partner material & if you don't want a smoker or a non virgin I understand that & that's fair enough. Stick to your guns on those one's for sure. If your willing to accept a girl with a small landing strip ( that's what they call a very well manicured pubic hair area or a G.T. Stripe then I would say your just raised your chances of finding someone by at least 50 percent. Being able to compromise goes a long way in a relationship.
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yep yer screwed

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No body hair, good luck, you might want to lower your requirements, r u sure that ur funny? Hope you meet somebody you love, not just somebody who meets your requirements

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Contrary to popular belief... Girls like this are out there and I am one of them, but, there is no way you are going to get a girl like this unless YOU will stay faithful, YOU will not cheat and most importantly, you will not leave her. Don't expect us to be everything you want and for you to just magically fit a girls standards.

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I could never cheat on a girl, not even if she was ok with it. It goes against my moral code. I am a virgin and will remain so until I find the right girl, and when I've found her I won't desert her or cheat on her. Hopefully I will outlive her as well, so that she never has to be alone or worry about someone hurting her.
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