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So me and this one guy have been dating for 21 days. we have only seen each other in person like 3 times cause I have been really busy. we call each other sometimes. But he only text me when he wants :/ I feel like I'm annoying him so I asked him and he said no I love you your not annoying either. I think he's cheating on me cause he won't tell anyone we are dating and I'm not aloud to tell anyone. what do I doo? :(

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Sounds like he's ignoring you or being ashamed of you. I'm sorry but I don't think it'll work out! Usually in the beginning of a relationship, everything is happy and they're so in love and all that. But this doesn't sound like a healthy beginning to a relationship. Sorry but I know you'll find the one(: there are plenty of good guys out there but maybe he isn't one of them.

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Dump him. If you can barely see each other at all its not worth it. And if he can't go public that means he's embarrassed of you or ashamed. Don't let him keep you a secret.

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I told my mom and she said if we see each other again she's scared he's going to hurt me, I know he wouldn't But I really don't know we love each other.
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I think you need to find some time to actually see him and have a face-to-face, heart-to-heart talk. Ask him seriously and honestly. Maybe it will work, maybe it will not but what you have to do is figure out what you both mutually want and get to it.

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Alright it's not cool to have a relationship with someone and not be able to tell anyone be proud if your with someone you like and straight up ask him if he's cheating if he isn't hell either say no why do you think that or of course not I love you and if he is he'll say gtg or who told you I wish you the best live well and prosper

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Leave him alone,its only been 21 days and its too many red flags. If your'e not good enough for people to know y'all dating,then you don't need to be with him.The more you let little things like this slide,the worse he will get.

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The fact that you're doubting him this much 21 days into the "relationship". Dump him. Go live your life and have fun. You obviously don't trust him and he obviously isn't to the slightest bit serious with you.

Drop him like a hot potato........ mmmmmmmmmmm hot potato.....

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Get rid of him he is hiding you! Which are classic signs of either cheating or ashamed of this relationship with you! There are many fish in the sea you do not need a person like that.

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It sounds like he ALREADY has a relationship and you are the side dish
If you want to use him and find ways you benefit then stay. Then you can at least have a mutual"self serving" relationship that will blow up.
Then you won't get hurt as bad
Or ...be an adult and seek a good person to share your life with

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Sounds like he has someone else & that your saying u date him until you find ur next bf

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Dump him. This is ridiculous!

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Truly, to go out with you three times and say he loves you? That's so disingenuous. He just wants sex on the side and thinks the "I love yous" will keep you on his string. I'd bet he's married or living with someone else. Move on before he causes you much anguish.

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