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okay so I'm 16 and I've never cared about god or religion . All my family members think I'm Christian but Im not . They're so Christian that they sold my ps3 because I had shooting games and stuff . I hate how every other kid at church older and younger than me has even worse games and it's okay . I just wanna tell them so they'll leave me alone . I've even been thinking so much about it that I have dreams about confessing to them . How should I tell them or should I keep it to myself ??

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Is it all about the games or is there more?? Tell them you are at a spiritual crossroad. You're not sure how you feel about Christianity and organized religion. Ask them to respect your spiritual development and give you some time and space to do so. Don't use it as an excuse, speak with your Minister/Priest about it as well. Be respectful of your parents' beliefs and they should respect yours. If they don't like the games religion won't make a difference either way.

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They won't leave you alone if you tell them you don't care about religion. Just try convincing them the games are alright.

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Be thankful your parents care about you enough to do that. Your parents have given you the best gift and that is Christ. Don't be fooled by satan. Why would you settle for the worst for you,. Hell is real whether you believe it or not.

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You do realize you're probably just pushing them further a way from religion, right?
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You have to make a choice in this life for wrong or right. If they can be pushed away then they have been deceived and is filled with unrighteousness. I rebelled from the faith but The Bible says in Proverbs 22:6
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. I rebelled but I was trained correct. The devil is a liar.

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Amen! Rob
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RobMccullen you deserve a gold star :D
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You have a tough decision to make. Do you want to have an honest relationship with your parents, which is the right thing to do, or do you want them to leave you alone? Because I can tell you right now it's highly unlikely you're going to be able to have it both ways. If you want to be honest, you need to tell them, the sooner the better. But if you do tell them, if they really, truly are Christians they will do anything but leave you alone, because they're going to be concerned about your salvation.

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Your parents probably sold your games because they want to protect you from that stuff and were probably glad they did with what happened in Newton. Im sure your parents weren't the only ones, however, some parents don't feel the need to supervise their children playing those games. I know that you might feel jealous, but your parents want to look out for you. As for christianity, you should tell them how you feel, but all the while being careful to not be disrespectful.

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How do you think they will take it? If you think they will take it in a very bad way, to the point were it could harm your relationship with them permanently, then I'd advise against telling them. If you think they'll be ok with it, or if you think they won't go crazy and learn to accept it, then sit them down and talk to them about it. I'll warn you now though, just because you may not be religious doesn't mean they'll start letting you have those types of games, and any other things that relate to this topic, because it still is their house, so that means its still their rules. If they don't like it, they're not going to allow it in their house. Good luck though with what ever you decide to do :)

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Just tell them," mom and dad these games aren't bad, all the other kids at my church are playing them, it's not fair." and if u want to tell them about u not being Christian, all I can say is try to tell them in the easiest way as possible, like mom, dad. I don't want u to think I'm crazy but u don't know me like u alwaysed have, I'm different then try to tell them. Make ur parents feel comfortable and relaxed them tell them, it will be a lot easier

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You will soon be old enough to make your own choices about religion. I think your parents are trying to make sure you have morals and values as a Christian. It's not just about video games. They are trying to protect you. It's their job. Talk to them without getting mad and they will listen.

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You need to tell them how you feel and get it out of your system before it eats you up and makes things worst. Just tell them what's on your heart.

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Mona is right. The appropriateness of the video games and your faith are separate issues.

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What exactly made you change your mind about Christianity and The Lord?

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He says he never believed to begin with, no change occurred.
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Yea , what TheZ said .
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Tell them god came to you in your sleep and appointed you as one of the chosen ones that will help him defend humankind from the devil's brood in the coming end. You will have to train and condition yourself through video games, the failure to do so will cost the side of good to lose a few innocent souls to the demons. I mean if you family is gullible enough to believe those things about video games, they're bound to believe you. Also the shock value of you finally talking about god will cause them to not think straight.

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Convince them that playing a computer game has nothing to do with your salvation. Be honest in the fact that they are a stumbling block in your spiritual walk & to lighten up. Show them that you can be a descent person even if you play games that they don't approve of. But please don't give up on your spiritual walk with God.

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Have your parents always felt this way about your video games? Or, it could be because of the Newtown shootings and learning that the boy was heavily into those type of video games. They want to do the "right" thing and don't want to let you be ruined by these video games. Are those the only type of games you feel you like? Why do you think there are so many games about shooting and killing people? Think about why you want to play them so much and talk with them about it. Regarding your beliefs in God, be honest and don't be fake. They will appriciate your honesty and "deal with it."

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No , before they were fine with it and were fine with it . Then later they became more Christian and stuff . It was way before the shooting though . And I like playing those games because I'm a gamer . I love video games , even if it's a non violent game they bother me about it and they keep saying " god is coming soon " or stuff like that .
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Oh, I see. well, you can be honest with them in how you feel about the games the same way you explained it to me. They keep saying, "God is coming soon?" Well, no ne knows. People have been saying that for years. Even in the bible days, they thought He was coming even during their life time. My kids are over confident in telling me they don't like going to church and think it's boring. ha ha But, I'd rather they be honest than fake. I have a neice whom was homeschooled her whole life and parents even pastors. she told them, around the age of 15/16 that she didn't believe in God and didn't want to be a part of any of it. Her parents weren't happy about it but I think they appreciated her honesty. And, they love her all the same. They endeavor to show her their love of her no matter what. That's the way it should be. Good luck!
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Thank you so much ! I appreciate it .
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You will soon be in position to freely determine/practice your own beliefs without family imposition as you become an adult.
Did your parents or someone else get the video games for you? As a minor, you dont have much to say about parents restricting your use of these games as they are still in charge of your welfare, whether you disagree or not. it probably wouldn't hurt to discuss it, but you are still subject to their rules.

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