If you're the parent, you need to make sure there is a family night every week to do something fun and to build relationships with the kids. Most of all, you need to stay connected as a family. The best thing you can do for your kids, if you're married as a couple, is have a strong marital relationship. If there is friction as a married couple, kids pick up on this and don't want to stay home. Who would want to be around parents that don't get along? The best thing you can do for your kids is to create a place where they feel secure, safe, and wanted. And you need to teach them good values, too, but most of all, you need to set good examples. I don't know about your particular situation, but maybe these are some things that might help...At least they are some things to think about.
Let's see how many family members do you have? Try living in a household of nine! My friend has that kind of family. She says shenever gets exactly what she wants on Christmas. Have to share your room, like a girls room and a boys room. And the worst part is people holdong up the one bathroom you have. their always screaming and hollering all the time and I mean ALL the time.