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Why do some parents fail to realize there are other ways in communication besides yelling and "punishment"

By punishment I surely don't mean a "time-out"

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Yeah a size 11 1/2 up the rear end works magic and your voice doesn't crack.
behave and they won't yell.
I miss the good old days. i got beat w/ a belt /sizzler race tracks phone cords.
You kids today whine like spoiled brats.
I got beat just to make sure I was paying attention.

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LOL! our parents must have received the same parenting guide.
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no one in your generation would shoot a school up either,i personally believe there is a connection..no belt no controloi
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Well, the reasoning behind every person's actions are different. A common reason would be that that's how they were treated by their parents so that's the only form of communication they know. Or, if they are very stressful with something like finances they find it better to take it out on their kids rather than another adult.

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If I knew I would surely be rich

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Because they react in the moment.

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they get tired when logic and talking doesn't work...remember they were your age and have done and said everything you are doing and saying

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Where my mom's from she got hit with a ruler just for getting a problem wrong.. Not complaining but sometimes it don't make sense
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Their parents treated them like that so they treat their children like that kinda like revenge.....

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some people were raised that way when they were young. so its what they saw in how they were punished. so its kind of the way they only k ow how to. some do it out of anger even when its got nothing aginst what you did wrong. some never were taught how or chose not to learn how to rationalize and communicate,with some kind of compromising. I see that you are able to or have that sense in you to be at a more calm peacekeeping. that's good to have the ability to do. its,truely hard but manageable.

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Every parent has a different style of parenting and if you do something "bad" enough can you really blame them

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yelling comes from frustration. they don't know how else to make you understand. and "punishment " because spanking is now considered to be abusive.

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When I was a kid (almost gave away my age) sometimes instead of getting punished, my father would talk about the consequences of my actions. I'd have to listen, which seemed like eons then, and have to show him I understood.
At times just getting grounded was quicker, but now I realize why the lecture was so important.

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It's a vicious cycle. They were probably raised that way and don't know any other way to handle the stresses of raising a teenager. Fortunately, it seems you have learned there are other ways to reprimand a child. Now it falls on you, when you have children, to break the cycle.

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So, if a child keeps making the same mistakes, and refuses to follow the rules, how would you handle it?

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