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How do I get over my ex boyfriend?

about 3 months ago my boyfriend wanted to break up with me. He stated that it was for the best and that he lost "feelings." I of course told him to leave and when he did, I bawled my eyes out. This was my first real breakup, and I was in a relationship with him for 14 months... if that wasn't any worse, a week later, he asked one of my close friends to homecoming and said how he's liked her for about 2 months while me and him were dating...my friend said no. Right now, I have found out he has blocked me on his phone, unfriended me on Facebook, and talks bad about me to people. I have no idea how to handle this and sadly we have a lot of classes together and we're in marching band together<<< I miss him of course and part of me still wants him back, but i think he's moved on and is sorta having a thing with this new girl that's substantially better and prettier than me...<< any advice?

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For starters, the breakup wasn't your fault, so don't beat yourself up over it. Secondly, you need to avoid seeing him as much as you can unless it is absolutely necessary. In fact, I think it is a good idea that he unfriended and blocked you, because you won't be tempted to communicate. Keep your mind occupied with work or school and with time, you will get over him.

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yeah...but for some reason I feel like I did something to make him slowly grow away...I actually went on a summer trip for about 3 weeks and when I came back I noticed him and my friend began talking, thinking nothing of it...and looking back now I just feel stupid...is it normal for me to still be upset about the breakup?
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Good answer dunczn,,,great advice.
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Avoid all contact, delete him from your life, remove anything that might remind you of his existence i.e pictures, drawings, gifts etc. And meet new people!

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Moving on is easier said than done. dunczn gave you some great advice! One positive thing did come out of it, however. You did learn what a good friend you had, by her telling him no. That is the "unspoken rule". Friends don't date exes. Better that you found out now, than later. Just because you think his new "girl friend" prettier, etc. does not mean all guys will think that. I don't know what you meant saying she is substantially better. Don't put yourself down like that. You never know. She might be miserable inside. What you "see" is not always as it appears to be.

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yeahh,,,I mean I hear this all the time, that im telling myself all these things and stuff, but looking back I realize I am better off without him, I mean I'm a musician and have been accepted to travel and audition for things at such a young age(14). When we were dating he told me that I would never make it into the music business and would be an embarrassment to the judges...when we broke up, I decided to try out for all these things and ended making over half of them!
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So, some good came out of the bad. Everything happens for a reason. Good for you!!
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Congratulations! You must be very talented! Boys may come and go, but your musical gift is yours forever.
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,,,,,how funny would THAT be, that he would have to PAY to see you???? Love it.
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hahaha thank you(: knowing now, music is my passion and I will stick to it forever and oh the karma that would come out of him paying to see me :D
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Awww... Im so sorry.... You guys were together for a long time... I know exactly what your feeling.. Two months ago, the best boy friend ive ever had broke up with me... I couldnt handle myself.. And i still cry.. What made it worse is that on new years night, i was crying because i was alone and no one wanted to celebrate new years with me, he texted me and said hey.. And i was so happy, you dont even know.. My heart was racing.. Then as i replied hi, happy new years!, he didnt text back.. And i waited all night.. Then in the morning, i got a text from him that said wrong number... I cried again..

But enough about me. I think the best thing to do is avoid him. Get rid of anything that reminds you of him. Except special stuff, lol. Just put those things in ur closet, hiding.
Then i heard writing a letter to him expressing all of your anger is great too. But dont send it.so Id burn it. Lay off the ice cream.. Lol and look at new choices, only if you think your ready though. I really hope you feel better. :) sorry if this is long..

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aww i'm so sorry...that's horrible. I mean yeah I feel so much better than how I was before, but the things that make me cry at night are the memories we had...I was actually bullied in middle school and him being my first boyfriend and telling me all these great things made me feel great about myself...and us being over...I felt used and lied to....idk. Sadly I kept the corsage he gave me for homecoming last year and all the notes he wrote to me...
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Oh break ups are so hard...its even hard to type right now cuz theres tears in my eyes, ugh why am i so emotional.. Lol anyways, and yeah i get those memories.. Every time i look outside my window i see us standing there in my driveway holding hands because we used to do that a lot when he came over.. :(
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exactly...what hurts the most is when I perform...every performance I did this fall was dedicated to him and his cousin(who battled leukemia when we dated) I'm crying right now because I felt nobody understood that this was a little break up that is no big deal...until now, thank you! I wrote him a 7 page letter, telling him everything, I poured my heart out... god why do girls have to suffer????/:
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I knowww!!!.. Girls are sensitive... :( and your welcome.. When i was with him, he used to compliment me and he was like the only one who said i was beautiful, and i loved it. He was perfect... I know how you feel about that too..
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substantially better and prettier? hardly.

first and foremost, you are perfect the way you are and if you can't feel that way about yourself no one else will.

secondly, do you really want a boyfriend who is so lame that he has to unfriend you and talk bad about you? hardly.

you get over him by realizing that you are better off without him.

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Well what I would do is instead of sitting at home crying, I would get cleaned up and looking good and just go out and have fun with my friends. And I be you will forget all about him and maybe you will find somebody new and better for you. :D

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Luckily you have a girl who just went through the same thing just about two weeks ago.
Well. I just kept my mind off him. All I really did is hang out with my friends and family. What I basically did is go to the people who also made me smile. Soon after, he just became another face in my life.

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I am so sorry for how you feel. I am sick and tired that guys do this. They don't care what one might think and it's hard for us girls and a lot of the time I feel like I am not taken very seriously. You need to give him a piece of your mind. He has no right to put something you don't want on Facebook. Tell him with a loud and clear voice, scream if you want to but try to make him understand

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Good advice from dunczn ^. You didn't do anything wrong, and whoever his new girlfriend is, she isn't better than you. Teenage boys are emotionally younger than girls, even if they're the same age chronologically. He's obviously immature, and the fact that he's saying bad things about you proves it, and just makes him look like a jerk. Go about your life, ignore him as much as possible, and give yourself time. I know it doesn't help to hear an older person say that everyone goes through this, but everyone does. In the long run, this experience will help you to know the qualities you want in the man you'll marry.

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Find Ia new one

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I agree! find a better man!

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I'd move on. Just know it wasn't your fault and find someone better. And then remember nothing is forever.

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Kick him in balls cx

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with time.

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A new one will take care of that,be patient--life goes on

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