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My boyfriend's mom hates me... I am pregnant and we don't know how to tell her that i am?

I am 14 and he is 15. I know why she hates me. Cody and I was shooting his guns and we was swimming before we went shooting and she come out and said what are you doing with a slut Cody.....

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Oh wow, she sounds very rude. Tell your own parents and your boyfriend first. Your boyfriend can tell his mom when he chooses to.

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Rude? Are you serious? I mean she was right.
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I would not say that to ANYONE. Rude and inappropriate.
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I think 14 year olds having sex and getting preggo is a little more inappropriate.
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Well I'm not saying it was wrong, but it's not just her fault. Her boyfriend is just as much to blame, not to mention her PARENTS...
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I never said it was just hers, he's just as much of a man whore. And besides good parents or not, you can't keep people from having sex. Brutal honest time, some people are just sluts.
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I know. That's still rude.
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I agree Ninja 100% his mom is VERY rude, and I would of broken up with him as soon as she said that unless he straightened her out, 15 or not be a man! Maybe he can't tell her to straight up stop, but he could at least say "hey mom please stop that's my girlfriend." Besides no doubt her boyfriend pressured her into doing it.
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Thanks CasperBoxer, probably!
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I have no parents and his dad knows and he trusts us. I am the only girl that walked in that house that his dad trusted. His dad Tyler knew me for a long time and he said that we could have sex
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Oh I see. Well you seriously should consider having an abortion at your age or giving up the baby. This baby will probably grow up in very poor conditions with you. If you want a good life for your child, please consider putting it up for adoption. You have no job, and no parents, so you are in for a tough time.

You should tell his mom with respect, but stand up for yourself. She is just a bully. Good luck girl :)
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thanks but i will never give it up ot kill life i live with 5 bros and my unchle
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don't give it up unless you have to! i was adopted and i have been living a life of secrecy! (my parents wont tell me anything and i'm 18)
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Don't give it up.. That's it face up the consequences.. Then you'll gonna regret it later.. But I'm sorry to say this but with all the brothers you have they let you to have sex already??? No man figure I'm sorry but that's my opinion you should've been focus in school and reach out goals you have i u have a long time to live you are 15 years old.. Don't get me wrong a child is a blessing but the way that happen isn't right at all.. You just destroy your boyfriends life ya don't know what ya want for god sakes.. I'm sorry but I'm a mother I would've been very disappointed but wouldn't never called u names like that.. And his father is sucks at parenting...
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No his father is always going to jail so he kinda lives with me or his uncle because his step mom tryed to hit him and stuff but see my uchle lives acroosed the street so it is me and my 5 bros with my 1 sis we all live in one house he pays rent but me and my twin bro and sis is the youngest but i am the boss of the house i have trouble in school but Cody said i will stay home and go to work we u get home froms school or we both go to school since our school has a daycare in it so he is going to get a job
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Prove to her that you will do anything for her son. Be nice but not fake. Tell her how you feel. Have her involved in the baby's life. Have her pick out a couple names, or themes

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He tell sher because we fight and when i fight you have to pull me off because i wll fight tell the death. He says she loves me so much that is not funny. When i made the mistake of cheating on her, her brother Jakob called me and told me that she was crying for 5 days
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A girl in my grade just had a baby, she is 14 too, & her bf is a senior, so like 18..she hasn't been in school for a while. Everyone shut up. What's done is done, it's not like she can reverse getting knocked up. Anyways, there really isn't any other way to do it except just coming out & saying it. Maybe call her if you're afraid she will hurt you..& call you a slut or whatever. Just tell her to sit down, & say I'm pregnant & your son is the father. Have Cody, I presume is his name?..with you for support.since you now have a personal connections with her, (carrying her sons kid) you should probably start to get a long. she doesn't have to like you, just respect you. be nothing but nice to her. but if she continues being rude to you, you don't have to put up with it. good luck:)

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I'd say she should get an abortion. You don't want personal ties with a woman who calls you a slut.
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His step mom will try to fight me and we will fight and Cody will have to pull me off or i will fight till the death and we try to talk he told her she loves me so much tht when i made the mistake of cheating on her she cryed for 5 days
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It is completely up to her, I was just suggesting what she could do, or she could do what you suggest.
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Uhm, this is a tough situation. Again, tell her over the phone. If he will try to fight you, oh need to find a way to reject it or avoid it. You're going to be a parent now, do it for your kid. :)
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i will never kill life
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It's not a life it's an egg, until it starts developing.
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And you are 14, do you know you can die during the birth?
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no i cant my mom was 14 when she had my bro and sis tht is my twin she never died now did she hahahaha
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Actually hate to tell you, but you can. But some people are fortunate & don't, like the girl I know that just had a kid. If you aren't 'developed' enough, it can cause a lot of trauma to the body,& even cause death.
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well i know people tht is allways there
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@CasperBoxer Ok, how would you feel if your mom aborted you? And no matter what it's still a child.
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Time to start acting like an adult. Be good parents and take control of the situation and just tell her.

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I am and so is he even if he acts like a kid and stupied but tht is y i love him
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wow 14 and pregnant. but who am i to judge? Im 17 and pregnant. just go up to her and say "me and Cody are in love. i don't care what you think. I'm pregnant and i just hope you can support us with this." Hopes this helps! if you need any help with the baby ask me and i will help. How far along are you though? do your parents know? i think you should tell them before her. but your lucky though. the baby's father isn't a jerk and brake up with you the second he found out you are pregnant like mine did. hope this works for you

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I have no parents his dad knows but he trusts us alot and i am a month u?
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I'm due in a week and I have no parents either. Do you know if its s boy or girl?
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Nope I am only a month
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omg jus red ur profile and dat makes me mad dat ur uncle did dat to u
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did wat to me
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Morgan how is the baby
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Morgz how is your baby...
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If you have decided to go through with the pregnancy, you will have someone else to think about now, and it will have to be all about the baby. You will have to grow up and do what is right. You obviously should not have been sexually active at your age, but forget about all the people calling you a slut and saying you should have kept your legs closed. I do not condone underage sex, but why doesn't anyone say that your boyfriend should have kept his pants zipped? Why is this sort of thing always the girl's fault? It's NOT all your fault, and HE has to take responsibility too. Make HIM tell her.

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Why? Because a boy can unzip his pants all the time and not get pregnant. No one is saying it's only her fault, but usually the guy pressures the girl into doing things and people say she shouldn't of listened and kept her legs closed. Now she's pregnant, and will have to quit school if she's keeping her baby, but the male can keep going to school and just pay some child support. That's why she needs to keep her legs closed, because her life is what will get screwed up the most. Just like the other person said now it will all be about the baby...
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Actually, that's what I said....about it being all about the baby. Anyway, my point was that our society tends to demonize females for being sexually active, but never says anything about boys. Unless people are praising boys because they scored. Maybe if we started holding the guys accountable, fewer guys would pressure girls. It would make a big difference, especially when you consider that many teen girls are very insecure and easily pressured. You make it sound like it was ok for the boy to have sex just because he doesn't have to carry the baby. You make it sound like it's ok for him not to take responsibility in raising the child. You make it sound like it's ok for a guy to have sex because he will only be screwing up someone else's life instead of his own. We as a a society need to stop that attitude.

Oh, and it's not "shouldn't of" it's "shouldn't have". I don't mean to be the grammar police, but that particular mistake is a pet peeve of mine.
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But like everytime i am near her me and her get in a fight then i will have to get pulled off because i will fight tell she cant no more and i have no parents
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Think I would tell her long distance !

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That's a sign of immaturity.
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I don't know about that. It might be a sign of trying to avoid a blow out fight.
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I think so too, tell her long distance.
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Or with a body guard...
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Wolt work with a body guard i had my wolf hybrid and if someone touches me he will bite and we still got in a fight
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Ignore the rude remarks. Have you already talked to your parents? You can either let your boyfriend talk to his mom/parents on his own or you can get your parents involved and have everyone sit down and talk. You have a rough road ahead and I hope that at least your parents will support you. Good luck.

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i have no parents but his dad knows and he trusts us alot
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Wow, no parents. You have had a rough life so far haven't you? It is going to get tougher. Surround yourself with people who will support you and don't let the haters get to you. For what it is worth I was in my 30's when I met my husband and his mother didn't like me either. it took some time but she loves me now.
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LOll... Yea my unchle who i lives with and my 5 bros tht i live with 2 and my unchle said that she is a whore so 4 of my bros r half
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Since the two of you have chosen to ruin your lives, it would be best to tell your parents and his as soon as possible. Your both now involved in the child's life till your child is 18! I'm saying child, because that's what you are considered by law! Be prepared for a very rough time ahead, for the both of you. :(

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i have no parents andhis dad knows
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She already thinks your a slut, then you spread your legs for him and get pregnant? That doesn't sound like a good start off at all be prepared to hear her say, "I told you she was a slut, Cody" and "I knew you were a slut" and make sure you prepare for this one, because if you don't your anger may make you say something you'll regret. "How many other guys have you done it with, huh? Did you get pregnant with them too and have an abortion? Or are you just collecting child support!?! Is that even Cody's!!?" Be prepared I'm telling you. My best advice is to just let him tell her, don't come with him it's only going to make matter worse if you do.

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I have no parents and none he is the first one i done it with and his dad knows he is going to stay with me for ever no matter wat
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I'm sure that's true, but you'll be surprised what some people will say especially if his mom already hates you.
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My school has a daycare and people in my school if scred of me so yea
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What do you mean you have no parents? Who do you live with?
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I live with my uncle with my 6 siblings and my uncles2 kids.
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I haven't see anyone say congratulations but congrats and I hope it goes well.......

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Why would you congratulate a couple of teens who just ruined their lives?
Oh right *sarcasm
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I don't think he was being sarcastic.
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I know I was.
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well stop being mean because u am not ruining my life i have like 13 people helping out so get over it
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How in the world could I even possibly ruin your life by posting on here? Lol.
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its not a matter to congratulate
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Srry i was yelling at my 6 pit bull rottweiler german shepered chow wolf mixes
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whats done is done i would just tell her she dont have to like you and may never like you but she does need to respect you and she will have toexcept that you and him are together and you are pregant now she can except it or not thats her choice but just come out and tell her that way she knows stand your ground dont let her talk down to you or about you and dont let her push you over your your own person everyone makes mistakes we live and learn and thats all about life you learn something evey day so good luck to you

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You should not of gotten pregnant that early mate, the mother was very rude and your boyfriend was not being a man for not defending you, I agree with his mother that you should never have sex untill your married and ready to have kids, but she should not be so vicious about it mate! But you are wrong to have sex at such a young age.

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HE does back me up when we get in fights and she called me that before we had sex
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Well mate, dont go and have sex and make it worce, I'm 14 and I ain't messen' arround till I'm married and can support my family with a nice house and can get them nice things mate.
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I would never DO or THINK about it a young age, and that is very wrong of u to do that..... In the future I no it is gonna be so hard for u cause people are like u made a big mistake.......I have seen it off a show.... And all that girl is got bullied and people treat u different.....btw.. Do u have a bf that WILL stay with u no matter what??
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Yes his name is Cody
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have ur bf tell ur mom

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big mistake u had done this mistake can harm u physically u dnt knw having sex in little age may lead to cervical cancer i think you should tell ur bf about it then ur mom

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Its hard to take your response seriously when you type like a moron.
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if u think i am stupid its ok and thanks for your compliment
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I hvae no mom
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You have. Mom in another comment you called her a bad word and so you do you just don't like her
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NO I dont she has never been in my live or my 5 brothers and 1 sister's lifesince we have been born. IT was me and my sister and out twin brother was her last kids. So when we was born she told our dad to take care of us. Then our dad gave us to or unlce cause he choosed his job over us. I have not seen my dad since in November. Cause we got in a big fight.
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You should be conscious before ; Now you should try to get her Understand about your pregnancy.

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I think u should just tell her........and don't listen to people n th future......I know ur gonna have a tough time with this....

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You should tell her that its not only you that made a mistake even your boyfriend has a equal part on it so she has to be agree on this matter and don't worry dear i know its very hard but you have to suffer

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Okay, first off be 100% sure you are. It would be horrible to have such a huge commotion over what turns out to be nothing.
First I would sit down and talk to your boyfriend, and decide what you guys want to do.. This way at least your together on any choices, and it shows you at least thought about it. Then I would take Cody to your house, tell your parents together... and ask for advice on how to tell his,
When you tell his parents (specifically his mom) she is going to freak out no matter how you tell her, because that s her little boy.. Just try being as delicate and respectful as you can. Answer any questions, and if she makes rude comments, try to take deep breaths and not make them back. Just remember, if you do keep the baby, its good to maintain a good relationship with his mom for the baby's sake.

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Just read in someone elses comment that you have no parents. What happened to them? Who do you live with?
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my dad cares more about his job and my mom is a W*ore and i live with my uncle
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Every mom wants the best for her children but they sometimes want the impossible with time she will learn to love you dont worry

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You have several options here , but first of all tell your parents . they might get freaked out but they should help , after all they are your parents . then tell your boyfriend , try to find a solution together , if he runs away and tries to hide after you told him about the baby then just leave him , don't try bothering him . but if he does help then tell his mother , he will be with you to face her .
Your fist option is to give the baby up for adoption to other people that can't have babies.
2.There is always abortion but not a good option
3.Get out of school and start working , but since you are 14 , stay in school until you turn 18 and start working to help with babies needs ( make your future husband work and pay for the expenses to , and also tell him to find a house or an apartment for you and the baby)
I really hope you find what you need in this comment. I will be praying for you and your boyfriend to find the best solution to your problem and a solution for how to tell his mother . Good Luck !! c:

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i have no parents
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After all that suppor all you can say is you have no parents well that's a lie because you have a dad and ik it
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he cares more about his.job then his kids
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It's your boyfriend's job! He needs to grow a pair and tell her, it's his baby too and her grandchild. She will probably happy about it eventually anyway and love them to bits. Good luck sweetie, you'll be grand :-)

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Tell her she has a grandchild coming, have your mom and bf there too! You will have extra support and she cant push you around with your parents there. Congratz but I dont want to seem rude but couldn't you wait to have sex? You do realize he can leave you if you DONT do something now. Im 14 too but if you arn't careful about your decisions your going to be a single mom :( sorry honey but its the truth.

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i have no parents.... i will never be a single mom ....
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start being like the best person you can. do anything and everything you can to help her and make her like you more. have conversations with her and try not to get in arguments and if you get in one then change the subject. if she still doesn't like you then sit down witth her and talk to her, maybe over lunch. hoped this helped

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Don't worry, She gonna see u in a few months.

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god has a plan for everyone... just make sure you can be the best mom you can to your baby and try hard. if you love this guy and he loves you, you guys are a team and will make it through anything so what ever happens when you guys tell his mom just blow it off and show her and others who have a problem with it that you aint a slut that you are a great mom and love your man. eventually she will come to her senses. i say just kill her with kindness.

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i will try
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i would suck it up, tell her, and wear condoms next time. anyway, its not like it can get much worse

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though that was rude to call you a slut just fess up. Its every bit his fault as it yours.

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wow 14 and pregnant? I am 14 and I haven't even had my first kiss yet!

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i mean, your parents should support you now matter what. And you, your parents, and your boyfriend should tell his mom together.

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i have no parents
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just say it fast and get it over with

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Reality TV is in your future.

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Just be honest with her and tell her even though she my not like you she has to be supportive for you her son and especially the baby

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well that's to young to be having sex... theirs a reason they made condoms.. your both going to have to face the music. life is going to be so hard for you both now;/ your both still kids your brains and body are not done growing yet. maybe you two can consider adoption.

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just be nice to her. make her like you.

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Good luck. =)

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like most parents she most likely wants the best for her son but it is up to him to decide if you are best for him and as for the pregnant part tell her as soon as possible but stick up for each other

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Okay, First Problem Your 14 and Pregnant. To many People that comes off as easy, and slutty. Before you tell the mother your Pregnant you need to confront her on what she said to cody about you being a slut, then you need to tell her how much you care about her son, and that you want to be with for as long as possible. With the parents not liking the other its a hard thinng to deal with i can say from experience. You need the mothers honest opinon then you need to be completly honest with yourself and cody, do you want to keep this baby, how will you support this child. do whats right for your child then confront the parents of cody and tell them your pregnant and explain to them how you feel about it and before they put their sense into your problem you need to come up with the plan for the baby, adoption, keeping, or abortion. and explain to them why. Try to get along.

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#Well I am keeping it. And my uncle is going to help out alot
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That's Great! Good Luck to you and Cody.
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You may not have technically done anything wrong but you have to remember that you could still act disrespectful. Try to follow certain guidelines when you are in these situations and respect others feelings. A little work on your part can go a long way as you seem to be interested in making a change for the better. You could start by apologizing for offending anyone, even if you did not intend to do so. GoodLuck!

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Who cares what she thinks about you? You don't live with her or owe her anything. Her son is also wrong for getting you pregnant. Just worry about your baby and yourself now. It's too late to care what she thinks.

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umm... his dad is in jail and he lives with me
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When my bf and i found out we were going to be having a baby...i told my parents and he told his. You are awful young to be pregnant..but dont let anyone bring you down because of it. My mom was 14 when she got pregnant with my brother and she was/is a great mom. it will be a bumpy road...but if you and your babys dad work with eachother you will do fine! Right now(being pregnant) stress is the LAST thing you need, so dont worry about what anyone says and dont let it bother you! Good Luck. :)

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I dont think it is the right time for you to give birth to a baby

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Go ahead and tell her the truth

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wtf how rude tell if she cusses u out bring ur mom jus in case

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Well I do but she is and wh ore and my dad cares more about his job then me and my 6 siblings
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-Your Boyfriend's Mother only wants the best for your boyfriend, thus she must think you are not good enough for him. Though it is intense pain, you will give child birth. Naming the baby, starting a new life, and knowing that he or she looks up to you as a mother. You may get an abortion, telling your parents, and perhaps keeping it a complete secret from your boyfriend's mother.
- You should talk to your boyfriend first, then your parents perhaps. You're both young, and he might not give a rat's (gl)ASS about you. He could have banged you, because he wasn't patient enough for after marriage or during engagement, or he's so poor that he knows the rest of his life is banging you and other women everyday. If he truly loves you, he should propose. Like in the 1900's, you two could run away once he gets his driver's license.
-In a situation like this, my opinion would be to give the baby up for adoption. He will find other women, as you will find other men. You could take back the child, once you are married.
- S. R. Wahs - 1/16/2013

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we been together since i was 10
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Well the best thing you should do is just tell her. You know people like other people that are honest. So I think you should just be honest.

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Go tell your boyfriend about the baby, then your parents. Tell your parents what his mom called you. Then go talk to his mom. *IMPORTANT* Make sure you have a grown up talk. Don't be yelling at each other. Try to keep calm and have a level head. She will be upset cause of it.

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i dont have parents
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i got 3 words for you "Run Forest, RUNN"

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Good Luck, i'm 14 and i didn't have sex yet but did it feel good ?

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Why do you want to know if it did? But just yesturday Cody and step mom almost got in fight...
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