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How to deal with someone calling you ugly?

Today these kids in school were asking girls about a kid who no one really likes. They were asking do u think hes out of your league? And then someone said to ask me. so then a lot of people laughed and later my friend told me that she heard a popular kid whisper to another person "he is really out of her(me) league" now i feel ugly and i dont want to go to school or anywhere anymore. People tell me Im not at all ugly but i dont believe them. And before today, i always thought i was ok. How do i stop caring about what people say? its so hard for me!

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Minji

Tell them "Stop talking about your mother..." It might end in a fight though....

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Haha good one!
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you're beautiful

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Hah I know right? I'm sure it's just because their jealous that their "popular" and less pretty than her.
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some people say that but really mean it as YOU are out of HIS league but they switch it up because they are too stupid to realize how that phrase is supposed to be used. i wouldnt worry about it though. you shouldnt care about the opinion of someone who bullies others anyway.

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Yeah! Why are kids these days so stupid and mean???
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keep your chin up! it doesn't matter what other people think! no one is perfect!

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Thats Gr8 Answer !!!
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before feeling like crap just look at the person saying these things... having to be fake and mean is often a front for deeper mental and social issues... i wouldn't worry about it since that person clearly doesn't know you very well and has to resort to bullying to make themselves feel better X'D

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I bet you're pretty. I wouldn't let a few words hurt you. I know that it is hard b/c I get the same thing on occasion. Just ignore them and move on.

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They're just jealous.

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Think of the positive in this they think your ugly becouse there jealous of how you look

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Just ignore them don't freak out that's what I do

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hang with friends who care about u and not clothes and money.

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i KNOW YOU! YOU WERE JUST ANSWERING THE QUESTION i WAS!!!!!!!!!
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WHAT? l DONT KNOW WHAT YOUR TALKING ABOUT?
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I'm following you now, 'cuz I'm a stalker like that
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I can tell you don't care.
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a little but i dont have any important info on my profile and i closed my curtin
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at school, are you one of those weirdos?
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wait.....
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Hun.... You do you. Not all are gonna like who you are or the way you look. But just know that makes you motivated.. Haters should be your motivaters!!!

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"accidentally" trip people who are calling you ugly, and then say "i'm sorry" out loud, and in your head, think, "NOT!"

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It makes me feel better when i call mean people buttcracks too
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well i just say "come on now stop talking about your self like that i have told you this before gosh you need to go to therapy" hahaha lol!!XD it works every time or just say " i know i and and your point is??" :) it will be okay love!

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Consider the source .. They are calling you names, and making you feel bad because they are mean spirited .. They are bullies .. and that's what bullies do. They get a sense of empowerment when they belittle others...It's really is very sad that they feel that way.

YOU have done nothing wrong .. It's THEY you need to feel sorry for...poor little misguided bullies. Little do they know, their behaviour defines THEM .. not YOU.

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Oh they just jealous cause their probably are not awesome as you those type always like to bring people down don't worry about it if they call you ugly and you hear it just say "Oh really? Yeah your mother" it always hurt a lil when you say something about their mother and walk away and be happy.

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The absolute best thing you can do is try to ignore it. The same thing happened to me and as soon as i stopped showing that it bothered me they left me alone. So just ignore them.

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The best thing you can do is ignore it.

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Easy ignore it. Because God knows he/she is going to have a punishment for calling you that

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we are females a few word is not enough to drag us down lets push this out of your way

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I'm sure you have nothing to worry about but if you are talk with people it takes a load off and if you still feel ugly and I'm not trying to be mean here, maybe work on your image look confident and pretty and in turn you should feel confident and pretty. Even though I haven't seen you or know who you are I'm sure you are beautiful and have nothing to worry about.

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What I do is this: "CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!" *shake their hand or something* Them: what?? "THANK YOU FOR BEING MY HATER!!!! I LOVE YOU!!!" and then just walk away with a huge smile on your face and them really confused. works like a charm

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FutureIzBright

Kill the haters with kindness and don't let 'em get to you! #hatersgonnahate

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Say the only reason your calling me ugly is because your jealous if how pretty I am and you know it!

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You be like "Y'all are just stupid haterzz" I'm sure your'e gorgeous and there all just jealous! I sometimes feel the same gurrll but you just gotta be like eff dem cuz there below me. They probably think they are so cool for saying shiznit like that but they not! So just stay strong hunny bun!

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Forget them!! They are probably just jealous because you're gorgeous!!!!! Just forget about it and be confident!!

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Don get all sad about ONE whisper.

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They call you ugly, because your probably beautiful and they are gross

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Give them a hug and tell them your sorry, you know how hard life must be for the visually impaird ! (;

or ... just stuff them !! if you think your beutiful you are ! beauty is in the eye of the beholder right ?!
they will just be jelous,btw, dont let one whisper ruin your year, chin up, your tiara is falling ..

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i think everyone has been called ugly at least once or twice just ignore them and have a g.n.o. with ur friends and get ur hair and your nails done everyone is beautiful anyway it doesnt matter whats on the outside its on the inside that counts like a really snobby girl may be pretty on the outside but shes not on the inside so do you get what im trying to say

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Dont let Peoples opinions bring you down i once heard a very wise saying opinions are like butt-holes every one has one so ignore it and face the fact that some people wont like you and some will love you just have to keep looking

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flip them off and walk away

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when i was 14 i went through kinda the samw thing i thought i was ugly and fat i was really insecure. but Now i look back at all the kids i thought were popular and cool most of the girls are now pregnant and the guys are i just laugh thinking of where their lives are just keep your head up and now that one day it will get better. i no longer think im ugly and i know its okay to be different(:

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Run away and eat donuts :/

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Ugly is used so so much without much thought and is very shallow put down. Anybody who uses that as an insult isn't worth your time sweetie. Take it on the chin, know you are better than that and do not swoop down to their level since they probably are wanting a reaction. I was bullied for years and it really does come back and bite them on the ass! It gets easier with time, build a support network and tell those you care about what going on, it's good to have friends backing you up. Your profile pic looks gorgeous to me hunneh, good luck and remember if he follows them after what they've said, he isn't worth it :) x

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Call them a bunch of wieners

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well you really dont look ugly. i have some acne and my nose gets brighter than Rudolph's for no good reason and i just suck in general but the idea is to keep your head high and not care what others think of you. when a person mocks you just say in your head theyre jealous because most of the time they are. the most important thing is whether you are a good person or not looks dont matter, who you are as a person is all that counts

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you say "did you ever realize that awesome has "me" in it and ugly has "u" in it?

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I don't want to be cheasy, but they are probably jealous. If anyone calls somebody else ugly they are immature and insecure, there is no other explanation for it.

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Ok now if u are reading this pls read it attentively. SO THEY HAVE BEEN CALLING YOU 'NOT BEAUTIFUL'. SO THIS DOSENT MEAN THAT U ARE JUST GOING TO IGNORE THEM OR PITY ON THEM OR FIGHT. YEAH U SHOULD BE PROUD OF WHO YOU ARE. BUT THE TIME HAS EVEN COME THAT U START CHANGING YOURSELF.DONT IGNORE THEM.TAKE IT AS A CHALENGE AND THE WORLD A 'NEW YOU'

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They are going to be accounted for every word they say. But those people who call you those things aren't going to help you get anywhere in life. And you're not ugly. What are they talking about? God made you and they are interpreting His creations in which God doesn't make mistakes. I'm sure you're not the kind of person that's not even worried about boys and whose in this person's league. They just want to put somebody else's name in it because they can't put theirs in it. I've been through it.

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be like "to bad ugly starts with you and awesome ends with me"

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I totally agree with Naskey. They're just jealous if they're going to insult you. 10 years down the road you won't even know those "popular" kids. NO ONE is out of your league. You're frikin beautiful. (:



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say ur mom n move on

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You know what. Ignore the ignorant bitches bc you are beautiful. Give the bird and move on!

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Just brush it off. They are probably jealous. In my opinion, no one is ugly.

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You shouldn't give a thing about what they say. Just tell them, "And you think I care?" That's what I'd do. Ignore them, and KNOW that all they want is attention.

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Just simply ignore them. if you don't believe them, don't give in. They are just jealous because your pretty.

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Just ignore that person a reaction is what they want.

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Laugh it off :D I've learned that the best way to deal with somebody like that is to show them that it doesn't hurt (Even if it kinda does.) People call me ugly ALL the time but, in the end they only have as much power over you as you let them have.

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Their words mean nothing, these feeble mortals should have no effect on how you go about your life. Your life is yours, is it not? So make it just that. You are not ugly. There are 6 billion people on this earth, you are going to let say.. 5 of them ruin your life?

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I used to get the person all alone that called me names and confront him. That always did the trick. Most kids are all talk when they are with their friends. This is why I feel fighting is the best answer sometimes. Too many kids are taught to walk away. Give me a break.

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ignore them cause there will always people who know that your pretty on the inside and out

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ignore them everyone is beautiful in their OWN way

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This might not be the best way to handle it, but when girls in my school call me ugly, I look at her and say: "Nope, I'm not, you're just jealous I am hotter than you are, I am much nicer than you and I have a heart, so just cut the bullsh!t and shut up!" the first time someone in my school called me "Ugly" I went to the principle and fixed it right away, now they don't bother me anymore. If you haven't tried doing that, you should. Just know one thing, You're beautiful and don't let anyone tell you otherwise!

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It doesn't really matter what some one thinks about you the only opinion that should matter is yours and your families, cause in the end their opinion doesn't matter. Don't stoop to their level

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dont care what they say. they are obviously trying to get to you and i know its hard but try to act like it doent bother you even if it does.theyre just haters your pretty. some people tell me im too skinny i just dont listen to them because theyre wrong and they haters

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Allah created you so How Allah could make any thing ugly ???
If you Belaved in Allah (Your God ) You Will Not listen to any one of them ^_^

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well just ignore them! their opinion doesnt matter because the cant control what you look like so just get over it and tell them that you dont care and that what they think doesnt matter and if they said that they are a mean and ugly person on the inside.

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I would just be like, "What's your problem?" And then tell them to shut up.

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Say "The only reason anybody bullies is because 1, they rather have nothing better to do, or 2, they do it to feel better about themselves. Did you know, your words hurt and you should really stop before somebody says or does something back. For all you know somebody has problems of their own in their home." then walk away. Works every time at my school. i go to a 6-8 grade middle school

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