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Buttercup_:
4 months ago
it's really boring, what is it like being adopted?
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romanian94:
4 months ago
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sucks; for the longest time I didn't have any medical information, no one that looked like me. I didn't know anyone who was related to me. I could only use my imagination. I felt left out when genetics were discussed in school. adoption is made fun of a lot so it can be uncomfortable at times. my parents aren't supportive of me wanting to find out my own history so I have done everything on my own as far as my search.
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Buttercup_:
4 months ago
if you don't mind me asking how is your search going did you find anything?
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romanian94:
4 months ago
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yes. I found my family. am talking to an uncle aunt and a few cousins. I am from Romania so sometimes translating is hard. my birth mom doesn't want contact right now. but I have many pictures
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Buttercup_:
4 months ago
well that's good at least you got somewhere, how old are you?
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romanian94:
4 months ago
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18. my search lasted 5ish years
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Buttercup_:
4 months ago
wow, your brave I would have given up, and being so young when you stared it must have been hard
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romanian94:
4 months ago
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yes. and my mom makes fun of my adoption. my birth mom. my country. my birth name. she's has told me she wishes she could send me back. nd that she wishes she never adopted me. it hurts
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romanian94:
4 months ago
via Android
right now I stay at a dorm. I'm a freshie in college. but I go home for holidays and summer
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Sabrespace:
4 months ago
via iPhone
Romanian 94. I am 61 and it was only this past summer I finally met my half sisters. I will help u with your search if you want. Adoption is very hard and people who aren't so totally don't get it. Hugs :-(
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Sabrespace:
4 months ago
via iPhone
I am so sorry that your birth mother sounds a lot like mine. I am so very sorry. It hurts tremendously and you do not deserve this. How can I help you?
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Sabrespace:
4 months ago
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My mom drank too. She was always so charming when others were around.... When it was just us she was very scary, sarcastic and mean.
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romanian94:
4 months ago
Sabrespace. Thank you. I found my family. Now I am just waiting for my birth mom to respond to me. It's very confusing. She is gay and lives in Italy. She and I are from Romania. She was unwed (20yrs) and gay. Both a shame in Romania. As well as her and I were the family shame. She has made up shit about a horrible accident that killed my birth father. However no one knows about it in her family. It's very touchy for her family
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romanian94:
4 months ago
Sabrespace. Thank you.
Looking like people is so weird. It sounds weird. But most people take it for granted. Too look like someone after going 18 years not having the same facial features, not being able to have a medical history-- it is SO tough. It's weird not knowing, going to the doctors and having to fill out the "past medical history" it's a constant reminder of being adopted. Then now to have that and see that my birth mom who looks like a man...it's so hard. It wasn't what I expected at all. I expected someone who looked like me. Not like Chaz Bono. I have had people ask me "is that your birth father" then I have to respond in shame "no that's my mom". She had me at 20 years old. Out of wedlock and she is gay. Her and i are the famiy shame. She's only 38 and she looks like she's 50. It's sad. But last month when I went to the doctor and handed her the report Vali sent me... It was the best feeling ever. It sounds dumb but now I have a medical history. I can be prepared and can prevent serious illness. It is so amazing.. To belong. But then again my birth mom is making up shit about a car accident and my birth father dying. No one in her family has a clue about an accident. They are oblivious. So she must be lying. So there is still some unknowns. It's so frustrating. And I have done all this on my own. Five years! It's been so stressful and confusing.
Looking like people is so weird. It sounds weird. But most people take it for granted. Too look like someone after going 18 years not having the same facial features, not being able to have a medical history-- it is SO tough. It's weird not knowing, going to the doctors and having to fill out the "past medical history" it's a constant reminder of being adopted. Then now to have that and see that my birth mom who looks like a man...it's so hard. It wasn't what I expected at all. I expected someone who looked like me. Not like Chaz Bono. I have had people ask me "is that your birth father" then I have to respond in shame "no that's my mom". She had me at 20 years old. Out of wedlock and she is gay. Her and i are the famiy shame. She's only 38 and she looks like she's 50. It's sad. But last month when I went to the doctor and handed her the report Vali sent me... It was the best feeling ever. It sounds dumb but now I have a medical history. I can be prepared and can prevent serious illness. It is so amazing.. To belong. But then again my birth mom is making up shit about a car accident and my birth father dying. No one in her family has a clue about an accident. They are oblivious. So she must be lying. So there is still some unknowns. It's so frustrating. And I have done all this on my own. Five years! It's been so stressful and confusing.
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laurensayshi:
4 months ago
via iPhone
Awww...sounds like you need a hug :)
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LinDane:
4 months ago
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Last edited at 12:22AM on 1/4/2013
What a good & brave question. First I'd want to know if you are being raised as an only child (therefore presumably getting enough attention) or if you are one of many that your parents adopted / take care of. At any rate there are no guarantees for kids being raised by their biological parents. So, try and make the best of it, and be serene in the thought that you were chosen.
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romanian94:
4 months ago
via Android
yes I was chosen but I didn't have a choice
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Sabrespace:
4 months ago
via iPhone
I will talk to you tomorrow. I have a very good young woman from Romania. She is in her early 30's.
it is not right for you to have your parents talk meanly to you.
it is not right for you to have your parents talk meanly to you.
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laurensayshi:
4 months ago
via iPhone
It's okay I guess. But it's fun to know that you have the same features as your parent
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