No. There's no point in telling him. It will only help him justify his behavior. Yours too, now that you know what he's done. Obviously you're both missing something, being together. Unless you have kids, because their needs come first in all this, call it quits. You're both not mature enough to be married, fully committed to each other.
Why would you even cheat?!?!??! Isn't that what marriage is for? For better for worse, for white for black, for big for small? Yes! Tell him! If he cheated, hell might as well tell him. And if things go for the worse..you shouldn't of cheated.
You should always be honest with your spouse....you might find you have more in common than you think! If you cheated on him, and he cheated on you...then I don't see why there is a problem, you are on equal ground...but if you grilled him for cheating on you, then you should expect the same back...Sounds like you both need to talk about your sexual needs and desires...see if you can both give a little to make the other partner happier. Sooner the better to get the communication lines open and flowing. My wife and I dedicate an hour each night to talk honestly and openly about whatever we want to discuss...it has been working really well since we started.
I wouldn't tell him. But you also need to be sure you don't beat him up about it and lay the guilt trip over and over. That wouldn't be fair to him Move forward from here and focus on where things went wrong in the first place.
If you both cheat and are dishonest I would generally say you shouldn't be together. However I don't know you or your husband so I can't say that I know how your marriage normally is either. But I would be honest with him
Tell him, you kind of people make me mad. If you have children and I hope not..how do you think they feel? It's feels stressing. Hopefully they won't hate your for their rest of their lives. It affects the kids more.
I can't say what you should do, in a perfect world honesty is the key and all will be forgiven bla bla bla. But le me tell a story.... 3 years ago I stumbled upon my wife of 17 years having an affair, we have 4 kids. I pondered the issue for almost 2 months wondering how to approach it, gathering my evidence etc all the while knowing she was running off to him every night instead of the "gym" or "work". One night I let it slip that I knew, we fought, but I never considered splitting, it wasn't worth ending 17 years. So for a few weeks all was great, we seemed closer than ever then one day it all ended, my stepson had revealed to his mom that I had had an affair many years prior. It was stupid, it was during a rough patch and since my wife was the only one I'd ever been with I wanted to see if it was "different" with another, well even though she had been cheating the realization of what I had done suddenly ruined her life and the kids lives. We've been separated almost 3 years now, we hate each other like I can't believe the backstabbing never stops and I can honestly say ill never consider marriage or anything long term again just for the sheer fear of that person turning on me the way she had or for fear that i might feel the urge to stray again. You might be better off keepin quiet. You know him better than us, how do you think he'll take this news?
Guys will take it differently and probably they act different towards you he'll probably loose respect towards you as well..even though he did it too.. And you betrayed him first it was probably KARMA FOR YOU.. If you not happy move on.. he did it is because it was meant to be.. GOD SEES EVERYTHING..
No offense, but if you both loved each other enough to be married, you shouldn't have cheated. But, since you both cheated, it doesn't sound like you love each other enough to stay married. That's what it looks like from the outside. It's your life, though. If you want to keep the marriage, commit to honesty and loyalty
you both made mistakes that there is something missing ,so sit down and talk cause it sounds like you both never talked or listen to each other,so give that a try and actually try listening and telling each other what they think is missing