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BathTime: 4 months ago

My future in laws have an old pic of my fiance and his ex wife hanging up in their house. Does this mean anything? Should it bother me?

Weve been engaged for a yr and living together for five....seeing eachother all together for six yrs. He has three kids we r raising together fulltime and share another child together. Hes been divorced for 7 yrs and in this pic, is him, her, and his two oldest (old family pic.) Should it bother me? ? I'm confused....

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racermom: 4 months ago

I wouldn't worry about it. Remember the ex was part of the in laws life too, and they probably keep the pic up because of the grandkids. Maybe you should get a portrait done with all the kids, i'm sure they would enjoy a new pic. Don't let that old photo bother you,its in the past.

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Sexykeema: 4 months ago via iPhone

I agree

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ravi1004: 4 months ago

be positive....maybe they are waiting for you to get married to change the photograph........

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BathTime: 4 months ago

Doubt it...she has pics of us but hasnt put them up. Getting married wont make a diff. If she does put up a pic, itll prob be right next to the old one. Thats how insensitive and thoughtless his mother is.

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ravi1004: 4 months ago

hmm...if you like him...then forget the rest.....maybe things will change....

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crystal7: 4 months ago via iPhone

Yes tell her to take the pic down that's disrespectful to you. You are together now tell her not to live in the past.

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BathTime: 4 months ago

Thanks I feel the same way. :)

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adinsane: 4 months ago

I would say thats a bad idea. Why stir up unnecessary trouble because your insecure with some sort of trust issue? Its their house right? Your not going to marry your in laws right? I'm sure they don't tell you how to decorate your residence, so why do it to them? I don't mean to come off as a jerk, but I wouldn't worry about it. It is you whom would become disrespetful.

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BathTime: 4 months ago

I def agree with you too adinsane. Thats why I just dont go over there. They have the right to feel how they want and do what they want but so do I. I dont like it so I stay away. It creates a wedge in our relationship but they never welcomed me in the first place. :)

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adinsane: 4 months ago

A couple things to remember when you feel this way: 1) Your going to marry their son, not them. 2) Your fiance asked you to marry him, therfore you must mean something special to him. Keep your head up, relax, move forward and start enjoying your life together. Don't worry about what other people think, say or do. People will think and say lots of things, but in the end you have to put it all aside and do whats best for your relationship.

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BathTime: 4 months ago

Awesome! Thanks...that really helped a lot! :)

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adinsane: 4 months ago

Well, glad I could help :)

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PrincessFlores: 4 months ago via iPhone

What ravi1004 said

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Ninja_Jackie_san: 4 months ago

It should bother you if your FIANCE had that picture.

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Sexykeema: 4 months ago via iPhone

I agree

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Ninja_Jackie_san: 4 months ago

Thanks :)

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Sexykeema: 4 months ago via iPhone | Last edited at 10:01AM on 1/5/2013

No it shouldn't,Shes old news.Its just a picture from years ago. its in his mother house not yours. she has nothing to do with it and its a family picture. I wouldnt stress it,be the adult in the situation and act like the picture is not even there.

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BathTime: 4 months ago

Then why do they still have the pic up and none of us? They have plenty....

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Sexykeema: 4 months ago via iPhone

Do the mother have a relationship with his ex? How does you and his mother get along? Do you think shes been spiteful?

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BathTime: 4 months ago

Supposedly we get a long great. No she doesnt have a relationship with his ex. Shes just not a supportive mother to her son.

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Sexykeema: 4 months ago via iPhone

Me personally,because of how his mother is,I would deal with her from a distance.I wouldnt let the picture bother me especially if his two kids in the picture.I would give her an update family portrait and see what she does with it.

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DaveKovach: 4 months ago

no, shouldn't bother you, the ex WAS an important part of their life in the past, and they still remember her

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CountryGirl_Pride: 4 months ago

No. Maybe they still like her too. I mean, if it were your fiance that had the picture up, that'd be one thing. But his parents? Not a big deal.

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racermom: 4 months ago

I agree

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Sexykeema: 4 months ago via iPhone

I agree

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Greeklife87: 4 months ago via Android

Nah, like they said old news. But let your fiance know it bothers you so maybe he can casually bring it up to his parents for it to come down

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Sexykeema: 4 months ago via iPhone

Good answer:)

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Greeklife87: 4 months ago via Android

Thanks ur name does u justice :)

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BathTime: 4 months ago

He told them that it bothers him yrs ago and they didnt say or do anything.

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hawkmann: 4 months ago via iPhone

You know hows its going to be so either leave or just get used to it

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queeneskimobabygirl: 4 months ago

They know to respect the mother regardless of relationship issues if you ever divorce I'm sure you'd want your picture to remain at grandmas house too

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