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My step-sister is selfish and i might lose my dogs because of her. What do i do?

Well, recently my step mom and step sister have moved in and my step sister has one dog, Nelly, and usually has a foster dog. Nellie is a Border Collie and is a herding dog. But with her around my step sister doesn't let my two little dogs, Murphy and Oliver, are both small Wired-Haired Doxens. Nelly used to always bite everything she saw and i hated her and still do. My dogs usually are outside but laying down looking depressed. We have a big cage for them that they sleep in at night. They always look so sad because i can never do anything with them. My step sister always is out in the family room where they are in their crate but when i go outside to play with them she lets her damn dog out there. My dad is saying we will get rid of them if we cant spend time with them but i CANT! i love them so much but im going to lose them soon. What do i do... ?

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Move the crate to your room and spend time with them in there. Also talk to your family about making a schedule to use the backyard. You can also put your dogs on a leash and walk them.

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Thank you great idea ill try that (: thanks so much
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good answer
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I know it is hard blending a family, but it is best to try to come up with compromises and making some adjustments here and there.
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NICK9001

do whatever! Just don't let it go to a courtroom.

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Well tell her why the dogs important to you

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I have and she even says when my oldest dog, Katie, dies SHE is getting a new dog... she has 2. we will have one. that will make her at 3 and i dont want 3 dogs trying to kill my dogs
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Have you told your Dad this?
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don't know Cinderella??????

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I am so sorry to hear that. I think your sister are very abominable. You can call a police to help you.

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Confront your step-sister.

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Explain your feelings to your family.

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put her dog in the box thingy instead, ehh, not bad right?
or what gator said, put the box in your room :)

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If the dogs get along then why not play with all of them? It surely isn't the dogs' fault. And if they do not get along then put Nelly back inside while you spend time outside and while Nelly is outside play with your dogs inside.

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Take them to the dog park and tell her she can't come with you. If that doesn't work, ask your dad to do something, talk to him

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ask her not to let her dog out if you are plying with yours

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first i would talk with your step dad or dad. then your mom or step mom. then your step sister. keep your dogs away from hers as much as possible. why get rid of yours only?
plus find a way to increase your bond with your dogs and hers...that way he might not be a pain in the tail. ask you step sister to keep your dog in when they are out. try to get ALL of the dogs to bond closer together. give them treats when they are all together at once. play with them all at once with your stepsister. that'll help ;)

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Get rid of HERS? That would never happen. She is sooo obsessed with her dog. She even takes pictures of her dog 24/7 and even has a gallery in her room.... i feel bad for her dog cause she forces Nelly to be in pics
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ouch
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Didn't mean to make that sound mean toward you sorry
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no no i'm just saying...ouch...poor nelly...
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Your step sister is a conniving control freak and she already has every body buffaloed with her " get my way " behaviors. She is being a bully. Somebody has to get her under control. She is using you and your dogs to establish her queenly position in the household and make you her subjects. Sounds like your family needs some counseling to establish whose in charge and outline some rules quickly before the s s gets out of hand totally! Above all make sure none of your dogs bite or injure her or her dog. Or do damage to property. Talk to your school counselor. Good luck.

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You need to talk first with your Dad. You need to let him know how your step sisters behavior is hurting you and that you need alone time with your dogs. You need him and your step mother to help you create some healthy boundaries with your step sister. I would tell him that by making you get rid of your dogs will make you dislike your new family even less. Everyone needs to treat each other with respect- that includes your step sister. He needs to get your step mother to agree to this too.

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Talk to your step mom and your dad about how selfish your step sister is. I'm sure they will understand and talk to your step sister

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Tell them to find another place to live.

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Omg that's so sad I would hate it if I lost my dog just move the crate in ur room

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