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every Saturday night I go to my dads to spend the night but the thing is every time I go I have to babysit my half and step sister and I'm supposed to be spending time with my dad... the thing is, I don't have to go to his house if I don't want to but I want to see him but that doesn't happen. should I just stop going because I'd rather stay home than babysit....also, I'm not that close to him so talking to him is kinda hard. Please Help!

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tell your dad politely how you feel. you don't want to lose out on a relationship, but if he isn't there, you already are anyway. if he won't make time for you, don't waste time on him.

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Why don't you stay at home and call him? Maybe Skype?

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why cant you ask him to go to the movies, dinner, Bowling ...etc just you two so you can spend some quality time together?

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I think by not going to his house anymore, he will soon realize the reason why and will hopefully make changes to his schedule and priorities.

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It's not really fair for you to go over there just to be his free babysitter when the purpose is for him to be taking you on a date and spending time with you. I'd be very honest with him if I were you. Just call him or text him and tell him the truth. He probably has no idea how you feel and would appreciate the honesty.

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I think you should stay at home. Maybe you could plan a few visits with just the two of you. Get more comfortable talking. Eventually you could work out the babysitting and such.

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tell him you dont want to babysit the next time you see him and tell him you want to spend time with him and not spend all your time with your half and step sister while your over there

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just tell him that you dont want your sisters to bother you so you can spend time with him. this is something that you need to talk to your dad about.

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I know what you mean about talking to him, is your dad even there when you babysit them...maybe the 4 of you could do something with him.

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you really have to tell him how you feel. ask him you to spend more time with you. if he doesn't its gonna hurt but at least you won't regret not saying anything and start to resent him. Someday he will explain why. could be the wife or whatever. you deserve to be happy. he should respect you for it. when the kids are older you can have a relationship that isn't forced on you. you'll appreciate them more. good luck u can do it!!!

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