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When I was a teenager I was so shy I couldn't have done it. After a few attempts I was willing to stand up anywhere and talk.

Something you might like to know is that if you're using a microphone or standing in front of an audience, you need to be just a little bit larger than life. A normal conversational voice sounds a bit dull when you're out in front.

Just plunge in and enjoy the experience. You'll be surprised at how much fun it will become. Good luck to you.

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That's interesting. You are so wonderfully gregarious, I would not have guessed you were once shy! :)
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Daizy reckons I've over-compensated.

We were at a workshop one time -- all strangers -- and we were required to say a few words to introduce ourselves. After listening to all the bulldust floating around the room it was my turn to speak and I said, "I'm Dozy and I'm nobody at all."

The presenter said, "I think we're going to have to work on your self esteem."

To which Daizy replied, "You leave his self-esteem alone. If he gets any more I'm leaving home."
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Oh OzMan...I totally get the shy in school part. Been there, done that.

When you are an adult and your realize that if they laugh, it is is not all bad and if they don't, well that is not all bad either. You kind of get over yourself when you grow more confident in what you are speaking about.
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I love Daizy!
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That's really nice of you, Happy. She's got a wicked sense of humour. Keeps me from taking myself seriously.

And, Yos, I've found that once you get a crowd laughing they'll laugh at anything. Hell, they'll laugh at NOTHING.
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Think like this there just as nervous as you

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Laughter is awesome. Before you begin, think of something funny to get good chemicals/endorphins flowing. Then perform for yourself. Whatever you're doing, focus on the task and the task only! Ignore their presence, by immersing yourself in the activity.

Remember, even if you make a mistake in front of people, you haven't done anything shameful. You're human. You're in the club! :)

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Great ideas, Happy.
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Why thank you, kind sir!
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You should be a motivational speaker!!!!! Great words!!
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Be comfortable with what your doing. I am petrified to speak in front of people. If I "hide" behind a guitar, I can play and sing.

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I can't even play my guitar I front of my father
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I used to get the attitude of watch me show off. Laugh at your mistakes and keep going.
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This is something I had to learn to do as well. When I was in high school, I actually took a failing grade because I would not stand in front of the class to give a 2-3 minute speech. The teacher (who was not the nicest teacher) even gave anyone who had not prepared an easy way to pass the assignment (it was a pass or fail--no grade). All you had to do was come up and talk about anything. One girl took her make-up bag out of her purse and talked about how she applied her make-up. It was a simple assignment, but my fear of speaking-up got the better of me.

It was not until I was an adult that I could do so. It is a bit nerve wracking at first, but once you start, it gets easier. Be confident in what you are speaking about (most important---if you do not believe in your topic, no one else will), smile, speak loud enough so that all can hear. (more in comments)

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My last time was in front of a photography class. It was an adult education class and so it was a variety of ages. My talk was about film developing on mediums other than paper. My college teacher also taught classes at an adult ed center and asked me if I would speak for his class. I was so honored that he asked a student to speak to his other students. There was no way I was gonna disappoint him so I did it. it was actually fun as it was something I am quite passionate about.
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Many good points there, Yosey, and you've mapped out the steps. When I was a teenager I could never have done it, now it's easy. It comes with confidence.
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That is the key I think. I was an A student but I just could not do it in high school.
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Very kind answer.
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Thank you
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Know your subject.
Most nervousness comes from feeling insecure, inadequate or uninformed.
If your talk is just about something you're good at, start there. Once you get passed that, go on to more complex matters.
The example above about the makeup may be was what she was doing; she knew her subject, had some items to show, and was educating her audience.
My first college public speaking topic I used was about the food coop I belonged to and what jobs I did for my required 4 volunteer hours a month. It went so well everyone asked questions later.

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I never remember going through that, but I was raised speaking in front of people from about 6 years old. I had to do it at least once a month up until I was about 20. It
s actually interesting and can be fun, watching the looks on peoples faces and wondering if their actually buying or even understanding what you're saying

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What I learned in Speech 101:

The five fears: fear of failure, fear of looking foolish, fear of being wrong, fear of being unprepared, fear of fear itself. So here are fears, all labeled, that they told us to be aware of when I took a summer school course in speech (as in holding a) and if you use this as a check list you might be covering everything.
Remember: you CAN succeed, You CAN live with appearing to some as a fool, you CAN research and make sure what you say or do is true, you CAN prepare, you CAN be aware of flashes of fear.

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Get more confidence by talking to yourself and practising more. Believe yourself from the inner heart and touch your soul with some sage's words.

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Be a complete freak in a small crowd and be a freak in bigger crowd let it gradually get bigger and just get comfortable

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Ruben - God created each of us! We are all his children, each and everyone of us. He gave you the same value as everyone on this earth, he loves you as much as everyone on this earth, therefore you have the same right to express yourself as everyone on this earth. No one on this earth is any better than you and conversely, you are no better than everyone else on this earth. Practice makes perfect. Rock on Ruben!

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None of the taking a deep breathe stuff works. Just fit in with people and try to be friends with everyone. Oral presentations, for example, were so easy for my in classes where I got to know everyone. It's more about being comfortable with the other people, then you'll naturally become a people person.

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I always think when i am in a big crowd and I don't know the people that hey! I'm never going to see them again so just live!

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Breathe in and out, it helped me for my band concert.:D

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imagine them in there underwear

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haha
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pretend the people are in there undies

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I used to hear several things: pretend the audience is full of animals and not people; imagine that a person you love and admire is watching you with the same love and admiration (no matter if its a person you do or do not know, even a celebrity); pretend everyone is naked; pretend they are all in their pajamas or underwear. (I dont get nervous much; I want to be an actor, so I am obviously not shy)

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Hold your hands on your stomach and breathe deeply in and out. Then ask a good friend to give you a very tensing shoulder massage. U should feel better

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just do it quick that's what i do

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You can breathe in and out and try to smile

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When you look at the crowd, don't make direct eye contact. Eye contact can cause nervousness because you know that people are staring at you, waiting for you to do something. So instead, look at a person's forehead. Also you can do acts that don't involve standing and talking. You could do a skit where you jump around a lot or something that doesn't involve eye contact. I took a speech and debate class, I know this stuff.

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fake it till you make it

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close your eyes or cover your face with the paper you are reading, that is what i always do

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for me i would focus on two people on the crowd, so when i act like i am looking at everyone i look right and focus on one person and left and i focus on the other person

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thank there in under were

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imagine everyone in their underwear. Works for me, lol

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laugh at urself and jus act like u dnt give a sh!t and after a while u get used to the felling works for me!!!!

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It was a same problem for me when I was teenager and also in University life. Then I overcame it by making friends, talking to them, asking them my lacking, and resolved my lacking in communication accordingly. The most importantly, I used to speak alone in front of a mirror, it really helps in building up confidence. Always be positive.

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There is a professional group called Toastmasters that will have a club near you. Toastmasters has helped me overcome a fear of public speaking in about 3 months. Look up Toastmasters on Google, Ask, or other search engine and find the nearest club. They have regular weekly meetings and have opportunities to speak to the club each week. It is a wonderful group where you learn public speaking in a nurturing environment. The clubs teach you about most of the comments that have been submitted on this post!

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build your self confidence

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Take it one step at a time :)
If something scares you, do it!
Once you try it, it won't seem that scary and you will loosen up with time.
If you have to speak in public, it is good to write down what you want to say.
You can ask family members to practice with you, it helps a lot.
Do things out of your comfort zone and do not be discouraged if you do not succeed right away!
I used to be extremely shy but now I can talk to anyone and I have no fear of performing or talking in front of people :) It took me some time but it was worth it.

+TIP:Try thinking about a pleasant memory(how you felt etc.)... then link that to a small movement(slightly touching your nose for example). Practice this until you doing that little move results in activating the pleasant feeling you felt. Whenever you are nervous, use this to calm yourself down :)

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I heard this once (for public speaking): Visualize everybody in the audience sitting on the toilet. Really makes them less intimidating!

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I just do what I have to do and try to enjoy it. What could happen, anyway? And I mean the good things that could happen. I could make a new friend or gain confidence and help others with the same problem. Things can go wrong, but the good outnumbers the bad.

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get lost in it

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say to yourself "I am a BBBBBBBBBBBEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEAAAAAAAAAAAAAASSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSTTTTTTTTTTTT"

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I get nervous a lot at my basketball games!! I get so nervous thinking that I'm gonna make a huge mistake in front of everyone that's watching, and worse, I don't wanna disappoint my team and my coach, which puts even more pressure. But yesterday, I thought of stuff that made me laugh, and stuff that made me happy, and it actually kinda worked! I hope this suggestion helped you!! ;)

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