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Are these signs of my husband getting bored of me?

He doesn't Cuddle and he used to love that.

No Physical Contact.

He randomly gets up and goes to sleep on the couch.

when he comes home from work all he does is watch tv but never wants to watch it with me in our room.

its all so confusing because when he goes to work, he works offShore on a drilling rig, he'll call me and say he loves me and he can't wait till he comes home but when he gets home it's all the same.

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Hi~ People tend to be creatures of habit. Not to say this is a good one, but it does have a resemblance of a pattern. I do think he still loves you and I do think he can't wait to get home to see you. Maybe the comfort of being with you is enough for now. He may have forgotten you need attention too! :I

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Great answer, as always
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Thanks Tony! :) Little boosts help sometimes a lot more than you know! :)
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He's prob just tired from work...that's a hard job he has!!

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yea spice it up...... my aunt told me sex3 a week lol

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Are you guys not having any anymore? Because that would certainly be an issue.
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haha jk ......too yung 1?
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LizzAMB123

Tell him this, and how it makes you feel. I think it be easy to tell him how you feel

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Sounds like he's getting a little bored. But it might be temporary. Take him down memory lane. That always works. Recreate the first date.

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He might just be having trouble adjusting back to being at home when he spends that much time offshore. Or perhaps he misses somebody on the rig?

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I'm thinking she'll like the first part of your answer a lot better. : ))
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maybe he's depressed

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You need to tell him how you feel. You'll get your answers good or bad.

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It does sound like "something" is up. I think talking to him about it, reminding him you are there and have needs too would be your best bet. Good luck.

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Bored, tired, another woman, testosterone issue, something on his mind, depression, medication reaction. Best to sit down and tell him how you feel.

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Or maybe he really likes being on the oil rig with all guys ...?! 0.0
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Tone ! ; )
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No way
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I wish I could be as optimistic and reassuring as some of the answers you have here, but other than the fact he still tells you he loves you everything else sets the alarm bells a ringing.
I think you marriage is in need of a major overhaul and I agree with the guy who said you need to sit down and have some serious communication. If you are not having marital relations with him then I would be very worried.

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BeautyAndTheJedi

Maybe it has nothing to do with you...he could be depressed or have a physical problem.

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Well, you didn't have the opportunity here to go into detail about your relationship. You know , like who you are, who he is, etc etc. Something's up and you need to find out what it is. I really don't like being the harbinger of bad news here but it sounds like he has moved on, with or without someone else. I know it's hard, but ignoring the situation will not be in your own best interest. Good luck and be strong, you are your own best friend.

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My opinion (unprofessional one BTW): This behavior does not have to do with your marriage or with you, in fact, it only has to do with him. Having suffered from severe depression for many years, I recognize the signs. Your dear husband is suffering and in deep emotional pain. He needs professional help and probably some medication to help him start on a level playing field. My understanding is that there are two causes of depression, situational and chemical. It may be that being on the rig and away from you is a situation that causes him depression. It may also be that the chemicals in his brain are out of kilter, the serotonin uptake is skewed. If I was him, I would want my husband to be actively concerned about me, express that concern with great love and compassion, and encourage me to seek professional help. Remember above all: THIS IS NOT ABOUT YOU. (cont)

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You haven't done anything to cause this, it is not something he has done, or is willingly submitting to. Be proactive with him. Instigate love-making. Get him to be active in some area that he enjoys and you go with him. Go to a football game together, or a movie, or a drag race, go bowling, you get the idea. He may be passive, or weakly protest, persist because it is what he wants, he just doesn't feel the energy to do any activity. Be patient and remember this isn't about you, it is something (kind of like have a cold) that he has to deal with and you are not the source, but you can be the vitamin C. Get some help for him and for you. Good luck!
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Big gold star!
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Thank you very much.
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Oh my I go through this and have gone through this and currently am in this. But also getting out and he can be motivated by you to get out. That's a promise

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Hope all this helps you
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