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My Teenage Daughter and Her Not So Lovely Boyfriend.

My 17 year old daughter Brittney and her boyfriend "Juice" have been dating for 2 months and "juice" is a big pain in my back, he constantly tells Brittney to ignore what her mother is trying to tell her and just being down right disrespectful, I've talked to him about it at least 10 times and he's always polite with me but then again I'm daddy, a very fear specimen of my daughter's life. I need new tactics to get my point across that he will not turn my daughter into a disrespectful bratty teen and he himself needs to have a little more respect for my wife.
btw he's 19, no job and in a band.
I'm so proud :/

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Try pulling him aside and let him know that if he doesn't start respecting your wife then he will no longer be free to date your daughter. Let him know that you will make his life very "uncomfortable". Remind him that while the age difference is small, he is technically an adult and she is still a minor.

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Tell her to get a new boyfriend

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These guys are annoying I agree, as I am the same age but a soon to be father. I would think that maybe getting slightly more hostile but not violent would work. But I am not a father yet so I am not sure. Best of luck to you.

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Tell him to respect ur wife or he can't date ur daughter

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You should have a one and one talk with the kid, be aggressive and confront him. Set some boundaries and let him know who's in charge.

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Eventually she'll learn her lesson..if she doesn't listen to you just let her stay with him. Eventually she'll learn that he's not a good boyfriend.

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Just pull him aside and say, "Boy, if you don't respect my wife and treat my daughter right, I just want you to know one thing; I have no problem going back to prison."

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If he fears you so much talk to him (really really threatening) and if he refuses to respect you and your wife don't allow him to see your daughter anymore. (I want to see this happen) when "juice" is around say where's my shotgun. (even if you weren't) tell war stories of how you kicked those enemy's butts!

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U need to make her stop dating him and if needed keep her away from places that he hangs take away her phone car and laptop etc for a while if she starts to secretly date him or continues to not listen to u and ur wife the pubishment should last for 3 months and she shouldnt be allowed to go anywhere but the break up is only necessary if he continues to do things after u have a very aggressive talk with him but dont get to violent just scare him a bit =)

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Take a day with your daughter and have a heart to heart with her. See if you can make her understand that any man worth a darn wouldn't call himself Juice. I'm serious. Why do good young women feel the need to date such losers!

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Your daughter's 17 so make it VERY difficult for her to spend time with him. Also as a dad you could have a little, private "come to Jesus" meeting with him. Sometimes you just can't be a "nice" guy and this guys got to go!!!!!

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You've done about as much as you can with "juice" as he surely feels that he needn't answer to you about anything. Your daughter however, needs to understand that she must treat her mother with the highest degree of respect and obey her completely or suffer the most serious consequences and that you will stand squarely with your wife in all matters.

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BeautyAndTheJedi

If you ask me, this has nothing to do with this guy. It's between your wife and her daughter. It is normal for a mother and daughter to have a power struggle at that age, though.

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I'm 14 mate but I feel ya'. I'm tired of teens thinking they can disrespect there parents and that it's ok.

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How does he treat his mom? I would talk to your daughter, or if she has a favorite aunt have her talk to your daughter, (aunts are great secret weapons). I would ask the question how he treats his mom? If he shows no or little respect for her, and little and no respect for your wife, he definitely is setting a pattern of little or no respect for women in general. It is time to plant the seed in her mind to keep her eyes open, and be aware that this could be a problem for her later and she need to just keep an eye out for the signs he is not going to respect her as well.

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rustyboilerz

Sadly the harder you push your point, you'll only receive twice as much push back. At 17, she's now of the age of consent. Do as I did, step back, and allow her to fall on her own hard times. Most of these leeches that attach themselves to young women, are because the parents of the girl have provided them technology, and even transportation, both things "juice "can't provide. I had to cut off one of my daughters who was in the same type of relationship as this. After about six months, she came home, after she realized that the boy only wanted her for one thing, and all parents KNOW what that is. Let her learn from her own mistakes, and pray she doesn't make "daddy " a GRAND daddy. :/

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dustee

Confront him with the whole family....write down what you want to say to the both of them..and say it..maybe she isn't so lovely when you're not around???!! hmmm

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sadly u won't win the battle. she will learn sadly the hard way, end up pregnant or badly hurt when this punk cheats on her or dumps her when she is pregnant. all you can do is supporter her and be there for her. as far as disrespecting your wife, u need to tell ur wife to stand up to this punk and put him in his place. that will stop that. ur daughter may get mad, but believe me she will get over it. she is so hung up on this kid that she needs to see someone, a woman , to stand up to him. and heck as long as that punk isn't living in your house , I wouldn't let him over til he can learn some manners And grow up.

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o boy its between a rock and a hard place. but u r the dad. she only gets one. if he doesn't respect your wife.(his gf's mom) he doesn't respect her. she's going down a road she thinks is cool. if you don't stop her its a road that's a dead end for her. she deserves better. she has a dad that cares. not everyone does. b there for her and your wife

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She is 17 ain't much you can do without messing with relationship between you and her. She needs to stand up for her mother, maybe her and her mom need a weekend together. You can always take boyfriend hunting- pretty sure that's how dads use to straighten out the boyfriend, but don't think boyfriend always returned from trip. Lol

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Since your daughter is a minor, I would tell him that unless he starts showing some respect, he will not be able to date your daughter anymore, and since he is an adult and she is a minor, you can have a restraining order issued against him. If all that fails, grab him by the collar and tell him either he shows some respect or you will pinch his lights out

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I would have a family meeting, kids and the wife. How about a New year celebration and to the new mindset for 2013. And you can ask each person what is a goal they want to pick for the year. And talk about ways you can offer to help guide them in reaching their goals ( goals should be attainable, and have plenty of snacks ;) I would go over the '.... Family rules and Laws of 2013 ( put you family name in the blank spot)
I would also indroduce and make a consenquience box, ( youvall acn decorate it with question marks or what ever fits your family) and put consequences on pieces of paper in side and they have to pick draw out of the box if the rules and by laws are broken, such as talking back, disrecpect etc. You can introduce a Thankful box as well and have everyone write (and decorate) something they are thankful for or someone in the family and why and what they did, and read them aloud before them meeting is over.
If you can show you care about the well being of them and and part of a family, get it into their hearts, they will do the same. Blessing to you all.

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icic6772

Scare him off!! Or at least scare him into being more respectful.

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Sounds like u should put her On MTV's parental control.

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Teach him a lesson

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