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How do you find a good mentor/role model or big sister for your teen daughter?

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be a good mother .... idk honestly comunication sports etc. surround her with good people sorry i cant help more

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Thank you. Ive tried. She has social anxiety and doesn't like to be in big groups or anything that draws her attention. Has always been this way. Difficult to get her involved in anything.
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Church.

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What if she doesn't turn out to believe in god? -___-
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Hopefully going will make her friends and the mentor will help her and that is Gods all over it! Maybe you could go too, set the example.
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a good role model, well, if you can find a martial arts dojo in your area that is run by a woman, or has a senior student that is a woman, then that would be a good choice for her, as a general rule, aside from that, look around churches until you find the most morally upright teenage girl you know, and get the two of them together for a little bit, hope this helps.

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Hi, Prep. :) Thank you. Been praying for this for a long time. She's extremely shy and doesn't make new friends easily. She's also at the age she doesn't want to hang out with me much. sigh.
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if you have a youth group at your church, it might be a good idea to get her involved, the people at mine are all so nice, and they are all really good at getting people to get past being shy, because they are so engaging and encouraging, so it might be good to give that a shot as well :)
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Boys and Girls Club of America

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Thank you. My girls use to go but never liked it. ha ha
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Well...where do you folks live?
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In the Pacific NW.
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Try googling for any mentoring programs in your region. Pacific NW: Oregon or Washington State?
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There is 1 foolproof way
introduce a very general enviormeny to her where things can be calm and appropriate, but still in their age level so they aren't feeling babied

I introduced my son to YouTube, it has educational things, and also values. my son now wants to be a video game engineer. I showed my daughter the Olympics and various female (and some male) sporting events, and she now wants to be a professional gymnast, and study human anatomy

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My painfully shy daughter doens't take an interest in anything. It's pulling teeth. Not like most kids. sigh...
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Look around for daughters of friends that you respect. If you respect the parent, then chances are they will have raised their daughter in such a way that she would be a good role model for your daughter. Try old babysitters or fellow church members.

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Hard to come by. Been looking for years.
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Only babysitters I had were years ago and they were teens. Those teens ended up stealing from me. Friends would watch my kids and I would watch theirs. But, now, everyone is divorced (but me) and they dont' watch my kids anymore. Rather, I"m asked to watch theirs so they can have their freedom. My kids are at home 24/7 And I literally have no one. That's why I asked the question.
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Look for a favorite aunt or grand parent. Someone who has your child's attention and approval. My grandfather (Zaide) was my mentor who I was crazy about and gave me much more attention than my father did. I also had/have an aunt who was 9 yrs older than me who I followed around. Both very honorable people!

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I don't have that. My kids aren't ever invited over to grandparents or aunts houses. If I even ask for 1night once a year..it's like pulling teeth and a big thing to ask.
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She will find one herself.

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No..she won't on her own. She doesn't even make friends very easy. She painfully shy.
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Not the P.C. , easy answer you're looking for, but take a long look in the mirror. If you are living your life in ways that are not worth modeling, ask yourself if you are willing to make the changes necessary to become the role model your daughter needs. If you are not willing to make the necessary changes and be patient with your daughter, don't expect a positive outcome. Good luck and do the good, hard work!

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My daughter likes my outgoing personality. She is painfully shy and doesn't talk much to when around people. She has been this way her whole life and started noticing when she was in kindergarten. she is at the age where she doesn't even want to just hang out with her parents. At the her doctors appnt yesterday, it was the doctor that thought she should have someone else, besides her mother, to be like a mentor. I've althoughs thought it's good and have prayed for it. But, it confirmed when the doctor mentioned it.
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I used to be like your daughter until I found some things I really love where I met other people that love them too! I joined theatre and choir which gives you tons of friends who enjoy the same thing. I also got very very very involved in my church and youth group, through that I can connect and make friends with kids my age that have the same beliefs as I do! She will eventually find something she enjoys and cling to it, and I bet it will come with a whole group of friends!

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Yes, it's very hard. She has no interest in any of those things. I've "made" her go to youth group at a church but she will "only" go with a friend and even then, she mainly doesn't like it. She is painfully shy and will never go to a group thing alone. In church, my girls prefer to sit with us in service. It' sooo easy for other kids to be "normal" and have a normal social life. Seems impossible for my child.
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She'll find something! Maybe she's just going to be the kind of person that does her own thing. That's not always bad! My sister is the same way about not going to group things alone and sometimes comes up with excuses not to go to things. She does have a group of friends that she talks too, but "making" her go to things doesn't help. She has to be able to do it on her own!
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Take her to a concert.. I know that's not a really good case but take her to one of her favorite bands or artist.. (That you like) But try not to be so hard on her because she will end up not liking you and will be really sneaking toward you.. she might meet some friends there...

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I think she will find one by herself.

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I don't think so. Too shy to make new friends.
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Visit the BBBS website (Big Brothers-Big Sisters) and find a local chapter in your area.

http://www.bbbs.org/site/c.9iILI3NGKhK6F/b.5962335/k.BE16/Home.htm

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Thank you. ;)
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SRfV7UZlUWo

Please watch and like! (:

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