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I feel like my best friend is being taken away from me by another girl, I don't want to seem overly attached though, what do I do?

my friend and I went to the same hs to be together but we got put in different classes, she has made tons of new friends in her class while I have made a few, alot of her new friends come to our table to talk during lunch and I don't have a problem with that. one girl though spends alot of time with my best friend and is always posting pics of the two of them together and they seem alot closer then me and my best friend have been and we've known eachother since pre-k, I feel like I'm a third wheel when I'm with them. what do I do?

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You should just give your friend space because she is also entitled to meeting other new friends. Furthermore, you should embrace the new friendship with the other girl and don't fear losing her. In the end, it is only her who can determine which friends she wants to keep and there is nothing you can do about that.

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OMG I am like that to and my friend has been paying less attention to me and hanging out with someone else I know how it feels it's not fun. I say try to be friends with the other friend and start to draw yourself closet like be there for her or him

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PhantomDaOpera: What a great answer, i couldn't said better myself.

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It might hurt, but remember friendship isn't a "competition", Don't just have one "best friend". Have many friends that are good friends, and then you won't have this to worry about. Also, be open to "sharing" your "BF" if you feel badly.

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This happened to me 4 years ago. Now my best friend and her friend are my best best friends. I felt left out because she had another best friend besides me, so I started talking I her best friend and we had ALOT in common that my friend got jealous of us two hanging out Lolz. Now all tree of us are BFFs!

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Punch her

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People are allowed (and encouraged) to have many best friends. Don't be jealous. You can do the same thing.

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People come in and out of our lives for a reason. It seems that they drift away at times but we will also drift away. Like a family we won't always have the exact same interest all the time yet we still remain intact. Good friendships like that can still survive and last a lifetime. The best friend to be is the kind of friend who wants for the other what they would want for themselves, true happiness wherever that takes them. Relating to another person does not mean she won't relate to you, it just means right now she is being human and taking care of her life as it comes and so should you. At some point you may find yourself backing of from others to be with a guy or another person you find interesting from time to time. It doesn't mean that you drop someone just because another comes along. Humans have the capacity to love many people at the same time like a parent for their children or an sun for their nieces and nephews. You don't drop one when another comes along. Be patient and want good for her and support her while you also take care of yourself.

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i have the same problem i told my friend how i feel and she said she doesn't understand why i feel like that so i explained what her friend does to make me feel this way.
Recently we have had an argument and she hung around with her and has been acting like i don't exist. tomorrow i will make it up to her. this is what i say... tell her how you feel.

I've tried to embrace it however the girl is so annoying and nobody likes her. i hate her. i just tell my friend that i want to hang around with somebody else unless she gets lost!

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