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I have a boyfriend and havin first child but got feelings for anotha guy what shud i do ...

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It no longer matters what you feel...the only thing that matters is the baby and what is best for the baby.

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Should have learned to use a condom. either sneak to the other guy and say its his kid or stick it out or put the baby up for adoption. give it a better life

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Lmao
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flirt to show him

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i havent got the guts to tell my bf tho
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I'm gonna say this one time... Suck it up. You messed your bed, now you must sleep in it. Sorry but you're stuck!

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dustee

Learn to spell and next time use a con dom....work on taking care of your child and stay in school..

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grow up. you should have thought of this BEFORE you got pregnant. do your best to make it work with the child's father. if this is not possible, then at least be civil to each other in dealing with the child.

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Good one:)
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The only thing to do is tell your boyfriend and break up. I'm so sorry I'm pregnant too!

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helixaqua

Grow up soon! Actually you should have kept your legs closed or made the guy use a condom.

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Heyhey!
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First: Get a dictionary
Second: suck it up, Your going to be a mother.
Third: Please dont cheat.

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i wont
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Well said,,,, :)
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Rachel,,, u r in the way of cheating,,, only thing is , u dont want to see,,,
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Make sure you really love the other guy and next time use a condom jk

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That's why I always stay STRAPPED

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Sucks for you

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You need to give your current relationship a chance before chasing after some other guy. I don't know anything about your life, your boyfriend, or the other guy, but in my experience it is ALWAYS worth keeping the relationship you have, over sabotaging it for the possibility of a relationship that may not even work out.

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Very well said,,,,
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Well you need to stay with your baby's daddy. Also, do you really think this other guy is going to want you when your carrying another guys baby...... Sounds like your not really ready for a baby. Have you thought about maybe putting the baby up for adoption because very few men want to raise someone else's child.

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Keep in mind that during pregnancy your hormones are going nuts, so you don't want to act on feelings or emotions, that may not really be as strong as you think they are. Focus on your relationship with your boyfriend, and on having a healthy baby. Then once everything has settled down from the birth, if you still find that you are having feelings for this other person, then you can decide what to do then.

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So true,,,,,
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icic6772

How old are you?

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21
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Is the other guy okay with the whole father figure thing?
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yeah
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icic6772
Well then maybe you should break it off with your current bf. just remember what's best for the baby.
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been honest my bf will be ...............bu is it a good enough reason
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Your boyfriend will be what?
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for whos best for the baby
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At least he's a responsible father. I presume? But I don't really see why you want to break up with your bf. I mean do you two live together? If so it'll be better for you to stay with him so that the baby doesn't have to go between houses.
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KittySusca

I'm pretty surprised some of these answers are so abbrasive.The advice from Sephora is really the best that is offered here.But other than that,I would like to say that your feelings are important.If you are not feeling that you can hang with the baby's father on a permanent basis,thats ok.You dont have to "suck it up" for anybody.It's your life and the baby's life.And both you AND the father deserve to be happy.Never end up in a relationship that will be miserable either now or later.Theres just no reason for it.There are many agencies that will help you.The computer will be a big help.Get into a womans group with a good leader.Your story is not new.These things happen.Its all ok.

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Just keep the man you had $ex with

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Well that sucks for you. When I have a boyfriend I completely forget about liking other guys because my heart belongs to him and only him.

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Ur true lover,,, keep it up
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Thanks:)
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cowgirlfun

Should've thought about that be4 you made love

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Put the child up for adoption... Maybe someone who behaves like Parent will raise it with love and consideration. Feeling all tingly in your pants is a Hell of a reason to sell out your child's chance at a home & happy childhood.... But HEY; it's all about a woman's rights, Screw the kid.

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damn, i know where you're coming from though
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Go for the guy u love but have the dad in ur life to always depend onnfor CHILD sake only

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ClassyLady23

Its just the hormones, I've seen in cases girls cheat on their children's fathers, they breakup, child gets here, they realize they would much rather had a family for the child, they feel stupid because they guy doesn't want them anymore, girl becomes bitter.....etc. Think things all the way through.

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Thanks for the comment... I was a single dad for 8 years. My first wife decided that she wanted to party, left the family and moved away when the kids were 2 years & 3 months old. It's not a unique story, but one I know first hand. My 2 oldest are still dealing with issues over it 18 years later.
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Thats who really ends up suffering, the poor kids.....but I'm sorry to hear that, you are a good man, they're lucky that they had a dad like you.
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Absolutely... the kids are always the ones who suffer, and the parents supposed to defend thier rights are most often the ones who deny them.
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You have feelings for another guy, but does he share those feelings? If he does, is he willing to raise another mans child? If he is then loose the dad of the baby and shack up with the guy you want. Of course you will still have to have the baby's father in yours and the babies life. But there is no need to be unhappy now is there.

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