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What is best way to tell someone no?

i have a big problem with "no". i am way to nice to tell someone no.
well, here is the story i need to tell someone no to. . .
about 2 weeks ago some 8th grader (im in 10th), online he found me and asked to add me on fb, so i can help him with his history homework. and since i like history the best out of school topics i said ok. i ended up doing the WHOLE assignment for him (it took like 45 mins).
but i was like, ok no biggie right? one thing.
WRONG. 1 week later he asked for more help, i said ok, (took 2 hours), and now he expects me to do DAILY homework for him. i already have my own, and i have my super close friend from 9th, i am HELP her with hers, but i offered her. . .this kid i didnt offer, he asked me. and today i told him i would be busy, and i put him offline on fb, but he still messaged me with homework help.

how do i tell this kid i wont do his homework anymore? 10th grade homework is tough as it is, i dont wanna do his. . . and he goes to online school, and he gave me his username and pass on it for me to do my dialy homework for him :/ |

i am way to nice to say no, how do i do this? should i just delete him off my fb? and like block him? thanks. . .

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You're not "helping" this person by doing his homework assignments for him. This is just another form of cheating.
The way to say no is to just say it. Say something like, "I don't think it's fair to you that I'm basically doing your homework for you. You'll learn more if you do your homework yourself." Then unfriend him and don't respond to him if he tries to contact you by other means.

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ok, i will confront him (yikes) lol. ugh, i hate confronting, lol
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but when he said help, i thought he meant help, i wasnt expecting he would give it to me. but when i did the first one i didnt think it was a big deal, because it was only one, but daily? thats crazy
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I hate conflict and confrontation too. But you're not doing him any favors by continuing to help him so much. And you're not really doing yourself any favors either; you're just allowing yourself to be used. I see that @harmonyb has a good suggestion for what to say also. Seriously, you my language if you want. I don't think @harmonyb would mind you using his/her language either.
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just copy and paste either one of yours, lol.

i am just scared to say no to people, i dont know why, i should be mad at him, he is using me. :/ im way to nice
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confront him girl!!
It's the only way!!!!!!!!!!!!
:)
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i will :D lol
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I think it can be helpful to look at the other person's motivation here. Sounds to me like he just wants to be lazy and get other people to do his work for him. That kind of behavior doesn't deserve you being nice to him. That kind of behavior is taking advantage of you. You being nice to him rewards him for bad behavior. Definitely continue being nice to people, but saying no doesn't equal you being mean. Sometimes, it's just standing up for yourself (like in this situation); sometimes, it's setting boundaries (like if you're too busy); sometimes, it's simply stating a preference (like if you really just don't want to do something). All of that is okay.
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thanks :)
i dont think i can ever be mean, like overall mean. . .i know saying no in this case is the right thing, and not mean at all, but i just cant do it, its not in me, lol
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you could ask someone else to do it for you.
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lmao, my friend wanted to do it :) but i said no
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oh, Imao?
wat dat mean?...
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laughing my as5 off :)
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oh
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You owe him nothing. Just tell him straight up. "You asked me for help and then you bailed and I was kind enough to do it for you. Your homework is your responsibility. If you genuinely need help and I have time, maybe I'll be able to help you in the future, but for now I'm done. I'm not going to enable you to be lazy." Yep. Block him if that's what you've gotta do.

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well i have 2 fb accts, and i blocked him from one. . .
but thanks :)
because if i do a few things once every once in a while, i dont mind you know. but i am not ganna do his homework everyday, i got my own
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well, you can just tell him that i won't do your homework anymore because you keep MAKING me do ALL your homework, AND..... it's also it can lead to cheating
And you still don't have to say no!

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yes u have, but answer with an answer, else they delete it. . .edit ur answer, lol
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okay, thanks!
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talk here:

LOL, j.k!!!!
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J-just
K-kidding
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we can talk here, lol
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okay, that's great.....
i had to eat dinner, sorry
LOL, haha!
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i gotta go!!!!!!!!!!
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Blablabaabaaboooo!
haha!
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lol, sorry, i left without telling u, my bad. . .sorry
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that's okay, you still here?
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yeah :)
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good! i gots to tells u somin'!
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ok, tell me :)
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i like someone on here!
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and who is that someone? :)
lolz, u got a crush, awww, cute :)
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well.....lol!!!
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well? ;) lol
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ok,ok fine it's....
it's the internet!
Wat if he see's!!!
me scared.
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you my friend?
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can u keep secrets?
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i'm stupid
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i'm silly!
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i'm sooooo crraaaazzzzzyyyy
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answer fast, he asked me a qeustion!!!!
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ok ok, lol, yeah, i can keep u secret
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im scared, but just by the pic., i think hahathis....... is pretty nice, BUT he don't know me. :(
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he asks qeustions about ask.com alot though........................
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r u on fb?
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lol, who? omg, haha
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i don't want to say his whole name, what if he finds the profile and see's me talkin' 'bout him!
it takes a long time for u answer back...............
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sorry, i am talking with like 4 other people, lol, omg its soo crazy XD
sorry :(
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u ok, :(
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i gotta go to bed, good night!
Buddy, :)
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yeah :)
why u leaving so early? :(
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i don't know, sorry i haven't been on here a while, family issues....
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oh! how wuz yo M.L.K day??? lol!!!!
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oh, im sorry. . .

it was normal, all day doing homework. semester exams finish 2morrow :)
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Goodness! Your already leaving school?!
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no no, just half the yr is over, now the other half of skool :)
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oh
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are you on facebook?
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how's your report card, nobody knows who you are so you good, unless their REALLY bad grades!
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my highest was 95 (health) and lowest was 77 (german) and 1 more in 70s and the rest was all 80s....oh and yeah, wanna add me? :P
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add you on what?
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hey, i'm bored... :(
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Just say NO!

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Tell him to do his own homework .

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too agressive
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give him my email, I will help him do his homework if he wants gbrro6312@gmail.com

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not sure if sarcastic or not, lol
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hey Garret, what's your last name, i think i rember you from elementry...this is akward....anyway,this really Elysha
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say sorry No

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Just be like "Nawwww"
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