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Is there someone in your life that if they made you mad you'd forgive them in an instant?

i really don't know anymore......

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Well, Lil, you know me, it would depend on what they did. Of course I'd forgive them, just not sure how long it would take me to do so.

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Of course i know you...but what if it was on that situation i told you about before.. that's something that hurts bad and maybe or maybe not i wouldn't be able to forgive
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Well I know it's really hard to forgive someone when they've hurt you, but honestly it's the only way to release the pain and let it go so it doesn't continue to cause you pain. See, it's never good when someone else has the control over your feelings, but once you've forgiven them, they no longer have the power to hurt you. You can forgive, but never forget, that's what keeps us from getting hurt all over again. We get stronger every-time.
If you really think you can't forgive this person, move on, you'll only have life long pain with them.
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i was just thinking this today too. forgive but neer forget. im ready to forgive and apoligize but i don't know how. its hard cuz love started to take over and now my heart and mind are confused. i can only think about "what if's" and "will it ever's" i feel that i will never be at peace with my self or him. this will always be between us especially if we do decide to reunite and possible start a real relationship( like everyone thinks we should)
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@Lil, well if it's something that's going to torment you and cause you pain, it might not be the best thing for you to get back with this person. Life should bring you happiness not sadness. Life's to short not to be happy, no matter how much you care for someone, sometimes it's just not in the cards for certain people to be together.
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but i feel it. SO MUCH..that things just would just my life so much better with him. although sadness comes with feelings for him..idk... he stares at me like the feelings are neutral again. just like yesterday..i was hanging out with my friends(both guys) and he was right in front of me with my brother staring at me 0_0 through his bangs( that unfortunately i find so very attractive) ..am i crazy or something kookiegirl? please be honest..has this love just completely taken over me..cuz i sometimes feel like it has..at times i just want to forget but i know by some strange chance of faith me and him will reconnect again but not for long. he'll text me in the summer. he'll apologize , i'll accept and then i'll apologize. the flirting will contnue and things will go back to being confusing.i just want this to be over so that i can be"okay" again. right now he's all that i'm thinking about. peoeple keep telling me it's too late but by the way he stares0_0 i know that it's so not
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Lil, it's never too late to reconnect with someone. Even if now is not the time for you two, who knows what tomorrow or the next day will bring. And no, there's absolutely nothing wrong with you, when we have deep feelings for someone that's usually what consumes our thoughts.
I'm trying to figure out what he has done to you that you are scared to forgive, you say things would go back to the same, but that can't happen unless you allow it. Remember what I told you, people treat you the way you allow them to. That means if You don't allow them to treat you any old way, they can't. Give me your thoughts on this. ;D
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i think this is so very insightful and means alot to my thoguht. and i can tell you exactly what has me scared..we used to be so cool and amazing together. everytime we fight im used to him still being there for me, but now THERE'S NOTHING. just the stares 0_0. i've shared so many things with him that no one else knows about me. i'm scraed to forgive him because i don't want anymore problems and that's probably why he hasn't yet spoken to me either. its just soo crazy to think that this guy that everyone literally hates but has gone out with him, had been minesas well as another girls. and to know that things of mines he'll never let go make s me mad and happy at the same time. i have evry letter he's ever given me and no matter how hard i try i cnt get rid of them. guys have been walking in and out of my life latele (just as friends) but they aren't him. i wnat him to hold me the way he used to and for him to tell emeveryting is alright like he used to. i can't even have that anymore . all i get is a stare 0_0 and all i feel is regret. regret that i told him what was going on. regret that i let him walk away from me. no one seems to understand EXCEPT YOU :) and im so thankful for that. no one listens, they only have bad things to say about him.
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Yep! THE PARENTS DO IT ALL THE TIME!

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Yes, my Dad.. The love is so strong, it jus takes seconds to forgive :)

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Yep...my two dogs.

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my mother.

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My boyfriend & My daddy <3

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my ex (still love her :/ )

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Weird
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It's not weird it's sweet...
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I may forgive,but I never forget.

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Me too.SO VERY TRUE
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Yes

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My Husband, gotta love my Bruce.

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Lol no if you make me mad I'm staying mad whether your my best friend or sister ^.^ But then I'll get over it.

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Yep, my little brother.

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Yep my baby brother!! Soooooooo cute!! And my little Puppy!!!!!

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I never have forgiven someone instantly. I'd ignore them for 1 week at least because I always thought I was right. I know I'm stubborn but I never cared. But I'd always forgive them but I would NEVER forget.

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I'm the same way,, but a week is too soon for me. depends on the situation really.
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But what good does that do??? No one is always right and sometimes both people are wrong. But acting like that doesn't solve any problem. Just think about it ok.......
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I know but in my case we may be both wrong but ignoring the problem seems to be the only way to keep the peace for now
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Or you can try to compromise. Sometimes the people you care about are more important than making a point.
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i know cuz he's my first love and no matter what i would never let him go outta my heart. i may meet a thousand guys but no one is him.
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Just don't dig in and not be flexible. Nothing good comes from being stubborn.....
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okay..thank you so MUCHO :)
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My family....... We get mad at each other all the time but I love them like crazy so I can't stay mad at them!

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Tell me about it, I have three brothers and two sisters, we say our peace, and move on. We're pretty tight!!!
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Yeah that's what being a family Is all about!!! How can they be a pain in the neck and awesome at the same time?
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Ooh, girl, I could tell you some stories! But, like you said, we love them and sometimes we could kick their booty too !!
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LOL!!!! almost on a dailey basis!!!!
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