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How do I tell a guy no?

A really nice guy likes me but I don't know how to tell him no cause I don't wanna hurt his feelings (if anyone calls me anything for saying that...) but I like someone else!! How should I tell him?

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It is GOING to hurt his feelings. There's nothing you can do about it. I know because I've been that guy dozens if times. He's gonna be depressed. I'm sorry.

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Yea ur right
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I know. It's happened to me dozens of times before. It really really hurts.
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One way you can say no to him is by telling him that you are not ready for a relationship. In addition, you can tell him that he seems like an interesting guy, but you need space because of personal reasons.

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He'll find out once she starts hanging out with that other guy. Then he'll feel even worse.
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Here... "NO B****!".,,

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Just say, "No, thanks."

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I don't really like you

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I'm a guy who has gotten told "I just need my space right now, sorry."

We guys see Right through those lines. If you want to tell him no, than (in my experience) the best answer you can give him is a sincere "I'm sorry (insert name here) but i'm into someone else." or some variation of that. When you tell a guy a lie, we know it. But as being the guy who has also Told "no" I found that a way to do it is to:
1. Keep it brief! The less time it takes, the less pain felt.
2. Don't say it in passing. When you go to say it, tell him to meet you (insert place here) at lunch, or after school, etc. when you meet him to say it, it should be to say it and only that. Example: don't eat lunch with him and then at the end of the meeting tell him. It hurts.
3. Stand (or sit) close to the guy. Don't be a stranger! What you have to say is going to hurt him. It's inevitable. Being close to that person will make it hurt less. Also, don't be afraid to make contact with the guy, (a hand on the shoulder, stuff like that) even so far as to give him a hug. If your a "hugger" that is. If not it's not mandatory.

Lastly: do it as soon as possible!!! The longer you wait, the harder and more painfully it will be. That's all. Hope it goes well!

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Telling the truth can hurt too. And I doubt that any girl would want to hug a NICE GUY if she like someone else.
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just tell him that you are flattered but that you like someone else

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