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ok so this is hard for me to talk about, but I'm scared to tell my mom things that I should have told her when they started, when I was 12 I noticed my chest was starting to get bigger, and I freaked out, not because I didn't know what was happening but because I didn't want anyone to know, so I started to wear baggie shirts and still do, I'm only a 30A, I told my mom a while ago and told her not to talk about it and I got a bra, but when I got home and put it on I noticed the straps were showing I did every thing I could to keep that from happening, but no matter what they still were clear as day, so I just didn't wear it and I still don't I stick to the baggie shirts, and I'm so uncomfortable with my body, and I'm pretty sure my parents know about it since I'm 13 now, and I think they are waiting for me to come to them, but I really just want them to come to me it will save me the embarrassment of having to start the conversation,...but that's not all I'm hiding I also started my period, and I've known this for three months, and have been sneaking around, and keeping it a secret

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Sweetie, you're a woman, be proud of who you are. Talk to them, especially your mom. This is her area of "expertise". You know when I was your age, well I was a few years older. I had DDD boobs. Trust me, you can NOT hide those. And I got picked on in school because of it. You're a smaller cup, so things will be easier for you! Wear your bra, show your straps with pride. And talk to your mom!!
Congrats on becoming a woman btw!

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Great answer, CJ
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Thanks :)
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Honey, stop being like that, its perfectly normal to be embarrased. Trust me! I been there done that. You'll feel comfortable with your body soon. Don't worry. :)

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You should be able to tell your mom everything so try talking with her she will understand. :)

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I know but, I have a older sister and so she did it all first, the awkward talks and all that jazz, and I still get treated like a 10 year old, which makes it worse
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Talk to your sis then, don't worry I was like that to at your age, but you get used to it. Could also be the start of a new relationship with your mom:)
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I wonder how many guys ignored the "females only"

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I guess we know one did...oh and I don't see any other guys answers up here, Hmm how odd -_-
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They didnt need to answer and yes i did
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Sorry i couldnt help myself -_-
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well try a little harder next time!
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Haha ok
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Sorry i shouldnt have said anything
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no you shouldn't have, but because you said sorry I forgive you, just don't EVER do that again because then next girl might not go as easy on you
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Lol!
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Silence
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Sweetheart, your mom will understand. As women we all go trough that, I'm sure talking to your mom about it will help. You shouldn't be embarrassed of your body. You're growing and your body changes. It's completely normal. I hope this helps. :)

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well the female only is not fair guys are uncomfortable at that age too also with the "talk" thing .

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I give up! why don't you just invite a news crew, they are just the same right? RIGHT! I knew I made a mistake asking this, I should have just taken care of it myself, like I do with everything else in my stupid S*IT LIFE, GOD!
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@unicorn: hey....it's ok, I really don't think this person meant to upset you! I think they just had an opinion that they wanted to share with you! :)
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yes thank you
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No problem!
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@dablues I'm sorry I've been under a lot of stress, and I just snapped, and took my anger out on you, I shouldn't have done that, I just said females only because it's a question best answered by someone who might have gone though the same thing
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its alright
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through*
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Sweetie, there's no better answer that what Cjkendel gave you. It's a very wise answer. (I was going to give the exact one. She just beat me to it.) ROFL

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I know how you are feeling. When I started my period I hid in from my mom. She was the type of lady to tell everyone about this stuff and I didn't want her too. Eventually she found a pad in the garbage and asked me if I was on my period. I told her yes, and explained as to why I hadn't told her. Surprisingly, once I told her my fears she didn't tell anyone and kept it private. My mom didn't know how I felt and that it was embarrassing.

I would suggest you tell your mom how your feeling. Tell her its embarrassing. She can buy you strapless bras so the straps don't show and she will be happy to help you with period pains etc. When your mother gave birth to you, a daughter she knew this day would come and will be pretty hurt if you don't tell her how your feeling.

Good Luck!

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but she told everybody when my sister got hers even though my sister told her not to
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Oh no, I'm sorry to hear about that. I'm 23 now, and looking back I don't know why I was so embarrassed over my period. Now I can walk into a bathroom and shout does anyone have a tampon. Something I could never do at 13.

What I'm trying to say is as you get older, these things become less embarrassing. I use to get mad at my mom for not covering the tampon box when she was taking them from the car to the house. Now we laugh over it.

If you feel really bad keeping it from your mom, then tell her. If she tells everyone it may be embarrassing at first, but in a few years you will be laughing over, trust me. If you don't feel bad keeping it from your mom, then you can keep it from her. She deserves it in my opinion for not listening to your sisters concerns. Its up to you hun.
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Ask her if you can wear the strapless bra so you can get used to it. i did the same thing as you, still do at times

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Not sure what u mean when u say your uncomfortable with your body. Are you saying your confused about your gender preference & who you are? Either way no one knows you better than your mother and I would say she probably knows theres something troubling you and realy wants to talk to you but doesnt know how to approach this matter with you without being afraid of saying something to offend you. Do yourself and her a favor and approach her with whats has your mind racing so. Im sure you'll feel a lot better and she will to since you already say you think she is waiting for you to go to her. I hope it all works out for you. Everyone needs someone they can talk to.

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NO! I mean I hide my boobs so nobody will find out, and I hate the way I look!
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Wear a sports bra, that's all I ever wear, you can't see the straps and they make you're boobs look smaller! :) I think you might should tell you're mom that you've started you're period though, when I told my mom I had started, she took me out to eat and we just had a girls day out, it was really fun and special, you're mom might want to do the same!

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It seems you just hate the fact that you're going through puberty. I was the same way. But this of it this way, you are at the beginning of a journey where you become a full blown woman! Many kids can't wait for this day. I was scared when I got my period, the only people in the house were my grandpa and my little sister. I had no clue what to do. You may not want to tell your mom but I say sit her down and have a calm conversation with her. Explain yourself and she can help you. Or you do that with your sister but your mom will find out sooner or later. Your sister can help you and most likely not treat you like a kid because you're going through this. And about your chest be glad its not huge! My little sister is two cup sizes ahead of me. I like having a little bust. I can wear cute shirts and dresses. It's going to come whether you like it or not honey. I'm only an A cup and occasionally want a size bigger to wear a dress that I have that pretty much needs a bigger bust to wear it :/.
P. S. be glad your period didn't come like mine. I had to start birth control at 12 because my period was non-stop for two months straight. BC controls it now.
Have fun being a woman. I think men have it harder than we do haha

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never be ashamed to ask about anything your body is doing... it may save your life someday. I do agree with RavenGirl a sports bra may be more comfortable for you, also there are camisoles (like tank tops/undershirts) that have shelf bras (secondary liners at the top half) that will offer some support and "privacy".
I can pretty much guarantee that your parents are waiting for you to come to them, they don't want to invade or embarrass, and they want you to confide in them and show that you trust them. I hope you find a way to talk to them.

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Awww sweetness please don't be embarresed of what The Lord has given you. Bras are awkward at first and are a bit uncomfortable but you will get used to them over time. I'm sure all your friend are wearing them. You really do need to talk to your mom about starting your period. My daughter hollered at me from the bathroom when she started, however I already had all the supplies we needed for when she did start. I even took her out to eat to celebrate her becoming a young lady. Honey it's nothing to be embarresed about. It's a natural thing for every single girl in the world. If you feel you can't physically have a conversation with her about it, write he a note and give it to her. You have done nothing wrong, and this is all part of becoming a woman. Good luck sweetie. HUGS

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