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Why do people always seem to make fun of self harmers?

why are people who self harm discriminated against? turned away from? they should be the ones ppl turn towards to help them. it doesn't make sense to me how people can be so incredibly mean to another person who is already hurting so badly.

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Idk but its sick. :(

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they are easy targets....

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You look like a goat.
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thanks i try!
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Winner! grow up:)
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what?
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I just can't imagine hating yourself or other people or anything so much that you would hurt yourself. If anyone cares to enlighten me, go ahead. I don't necessarily think they should be turned away from but I DO think they should stop because...well...they're hurting themselves.

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AquaLuna
It's not neccessarily because you hate yourself (although it can be). For me it was more about the release, I didn't feel much pain but when I saw the blood flow out of my body all the bad feelings (stress, depression, anger, frustration etc.) just seemed to flow out with it. It only gives a momentary relief though, which is why it's so addictive. You stop knowing how to deal with things on your own without cutting yourself.
That explain it to you?
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Also makes you feel something when you're emotionally numb (you feel absolutely nothing, it feels like you don't exist or something).
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I must admit that I don't truly understand. I suppose you have to go through something to 'really' understand. But thanks for explaining it to me.
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No problem
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Because that is why most of them do it, for attention.

People just ignore their stupidity in hopes that they may stop it, which works sometimes, but sometimes it doesn't.

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AquaLuna
Not all do it for attention, most try to hide it desperately. It's an addiction. Those who do it for attention are most likely trying to cry out for help.
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That's a great explanation Aqua. I couldn't have said it better myself.
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Yes I am aware of that, some people use it as a way to express their emotions.
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Thank you HKArmy :)
And cloudvii it can also be a relief or distraction from the pain you feel inside or just to feel something when your emotionally numb.
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My best friend used to be an emo kid when we were younger, due to her family hating her and all that, so I know all the emotional stuff involved with it, but it's always nice to hear other people's opinions on it, not every emo is the same and people do it for a wide range of reasons. :)

Most kids think being emo is 'cool' and 'different' and so they just start cutting themselves or breaking their own fingers etc, they want to be seen as emo by others, which is where my answer came from, so most of our self harmers here in Aus are posers and are fortunately easy to help.
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I'm not really emo... I was diagnosed with depression when I was 11.
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Emo is what we used to use to describe people who hurt themselves, but today it's just another style.
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AquaLuna
I'd heard about cutting making you feel better (probably the endorphins released into the blood when you cut) and just decided to try it since I was already holding a box knife, after that I couldn't stop. I'm 6 months clean now :)
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I see
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Wow. Congrats on 6 months!!!! That's incredible!! I was 6 months and then slipped a few weeks ago. Currently a week clean
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Good on you, it's great to hear people who are serious self harmers and can stop, gives hope to some I'd like to think. :)

My bestie used to cut her legs, so she can't wear short shorts without seeing massive horrible scars, and she regrets ever doing it.
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Thank you ^^ before that it was almost 9 months, I'm trying my best :)
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Your doing a great job!!! Keep it up. And thank you. It's not easy. But in the end it's worth it
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I don't think people make fun of them. They are more concerned with their mental health and well being. This is a behavior that is not normal. They need to seek help and end the practice.

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There is such little compassion and patience in society lately. Kids are obsessed with the occult and sex. Anything else is just ho hum. I do believe , from seeing on ASK, many adults and some mature youth try to help those who hurt themselves.
Any one who insults on here must look in the mirror before passing judgement.
I pray all harmers will know they are loved, and there is a reason for them being here..They just need to ask for guidance from God and must learn to respect themselves and pay no mind to the cruel part of our population. We do care..

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Thank you. That's the greatest response I've heard. I've self harmed for 2 years and have finally stopped. In stopping I found God and realized why he put me here. And it's to help others who self harm. Thank you so much for your answer.
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wow!!! good for you!!!!! I am glad you know how much you are loved and how important it is for you to do God's work God Bless and guide you.:)
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I'm an atheist and still think this is great advice. Some people can be very cruel and it's really sad. A friend of mine was bullied all of his childhood and people were just so insensitive to him not realizing he was in so much pain. If they were only aware of how bad he was hurting they would be terrified. People have no right to make fun of someone for their pain.
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You are a good person Jazz...and compassionate..Sick minds hurt good people..Not just guns, but words. This world is full of good and eveil..You have to follow your heart, and I follow mine, and that is with God. and you follow your heart.:) I could never be so cruell to hurt ,..I would be also hurting my God. This hurting would be a crime to me.
I had a student who was very bright and very different. To my disappointment, I learned his classmates were so nasty to him that he took his young life. A life that had so much to offer..It never ceases to amaze me why people have to be so narrowminded.We all arre here to try to live in peace.. Common sense has really taken a back seat. Take care Jazz..have a good weekend and to you also HKarmy:) Hugs all around:):)
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Not enough people are strong morally to speak up & in a crowd stand up to stop the rude & incredibly mean people. It only takes 1 person to stand up & change their objective of bullying. Anyone can do it. The weaker modivated people will follow one strong loud voice to rise up against bullying & cease it's harmful jabs. Be strong, speak up. Tell them to be thoughtful & back off. You will be surprised how much support you uncover from those wishing they could speak up!

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I don't really know why, maybe because it's something different that they can't ubderstand. Whatever the reason I hate it. It really hurts me when people (like my friends) make a cruel joke about it and there is nothing I can say.

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Because it doesn't make sense, you hurt or have personal pain in your life so you're gonna hurt yourself more to mask the pain of what's really wrong, if you're competent enough to know you need help why not seek actual help instead of harming yourself more and waiting for someone else to take notice then fight to convince you you need help. Countless people go throug many different types of hardships and traumas in their lives and yet they manage to still wake up everyday, go to school or work, and put on a happy face. Sure some turn to drugs, alcohol, or whatever but life is what you make of it. If you choose to throw your life away on drugs why should it be our problems, self harming is not much different, it's a personal choice that those who partake in do to themselves, nobody else does it to them so why should it be somebody else's job to make them stop.

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