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I need help my dad cheated 2 times and lies a lot to my mom and is still here and loves us

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You seriously, seriously, seriously need to tell your mom everything. That is not a healthy relationship at all. You should be telling the truth to your mom always. Your mom should not be mistreated that way from you or your dad. Tell her immediately.

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I know I'm scared of him he almost killed my mom and lied to the cops
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Call the police on him! He should be in prison for threatening to kill her. What the hell are you doing?? Why is your mom with him?? Do something about that fast...
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My mom says he put pressure on the middle of her throat and she says she's been with him scince 26 but the next thing he tries ohhhhhh lord help us
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You. Need. To. Call. The. Cops. On. Him.
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We already did but he's here now
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Your life situation is becoming a scary one. Wait until he's distracted and call. The. Cops. That's a second person telling you the same thing.
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Too much drama. Mom and dad need to both sit down and think long and hard about this. I believe families are forever. In the end when we all reach the gates that's what will find. It could be a total misunderstanding. Trying to forget someone you love is like trying to remember someone you never met. Mom needs to know that the kids care more than she realizes and that her thoughts her actions affect everyone. Dad needs to play football or at least go to a game. Or take a long vacation. He needs to figure out coping skills. Do you know why they invented sports!' as a way to cope. Do you know why they invented soap operas? To help us cope. Kids remember that your parents are frustrated at themselves. Talking helps. Your moms a tough cookie. Your dad may have morals or beliefs that are different than your moms or visa versatile. Or they simply maybe under a lot of stress. Sometimes they'd rather not talk about it and rather you hadn't seen. Maybe that's part of the problem everything is out in plain site and maybe they just need privacy. Whatever works works. Maybe they each need a vacation either together or apart. But you say mom and dad. Forever you'll view them together as mom and dad and forever you'll want to repair the mother and dad within them together. As a child you can do a lot to cope. You talk to your friends that's coping. You could turn up your music go for a walk do art work study take your dog for a run.... A thousand other things. Don't emphasize the drama. Don't add to it.this too shall pass. All that matters in the end is love. It's a short life. At the end god will ask what have you done with your life. Yours as a child. Did you celebrate christmas? Do you know about Easter? What are your favorite colors? If you could be anything what would you be.? If you could help your father what would you do? Maybe help him by learning your math or doing the dishes. Help mow the lawn. Write a speech. Sing a song. Look for a good movie. Smile even when your sad or smile when when your happy. Be thankful for what you have.
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Love him back and let them figure it out between themselves.

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Love him he said it was nice to have my mom gone almost killed her got drunk lots and lied to the cops
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you have to talk to him and tell him how much he's hurting you

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The fact that he's still with you and you believe he still loves you is a biggie. People make mistakes and no one is perfect. One would hope that your dad will realize his mistakes and make the corrections needed someday. In the mean time, accept the good with the bad and deal with it.

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He doesn't no how to love he almost killed my mom and has got drunk lots and lied to the cops
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Of course you can talk to him about it. But as painful as it is, this is really between your Mom and Dad. Sorry.

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you cant control your dad's actions, but you can treat him with respect even if he doesnt deserve it. he might change, but there's no guarantee, but just treat him well because he is your dad

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You are blessed because you have Both a father and a mother to love and that you know both of them. You can learn from the two of them seeing their mistakes and dreaming of the perfect family. Caring about each other and simply at the consistent hope compassionate love that you feel

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Discuss it with him. Don't tell your mom yet. If you can talk and get him to stop, then she doesn't have to know and you can stay happy. however, if he won't stop then I would tell her

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