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We had unprotected sex for 3-5 mins without climax but I am still pregnant. Was that bcoz I was fertile that day?

I didn't have sex with any other guys. But my boyfriend was curius about it.
He said the chances of unprotected sex for 3 mins without climax are extreamely low! If so, how could I get pregnant??

I just realized I was fertile that day but is that really matter?

I'm thinking about give the baby for adoption but he seems to want me to abort it.

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NO..... It was because you had UNPROTECTED sex. Period..... Were you absent during sex ed class? He 'wants you to abort it'... Gee, what a classy guy. Have you really thought about what he said? My recommendation: You should have the baby, give it up for adoption, and then next time THINK before you have sex. The guy ALWAYS wears a condom no matter what............ Got it.

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Yeah, it was a shame, I though it was ok if I was not fertile. I was so sure that I was not fertile that day as I always have regular period. But I just found out that I misunderstood how to count it and it was worst that it was full fertile on that day we had unprotected sex. He always wears condom, just only that day...
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Yeah, it was a shame, I though it was okay to have unprotected sex if you are not ferfile. The point is I misunderstood how to calculate it and it happened that I was actuall full fertile that day. He always wears condom but just only that day.
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I understand. BUT There is a reason to keep it wrapped up. You found that out. You have some tough decisions to make now. Good luck.
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What if I told the guy that I had the abortion but actually I plan to give birth, maybe for adoption to a couple I know who cant have kids.
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These are questions you should be discussing with Mom and Dad. Not complete strangers.
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I don't believe you can 'decide' who you want to give your child to. This has to go through some formal process. You have to legally relinquish parental rights, and the other couple must be approved to adopt. A person just can't go around 'giving' thier child away to whoever they want.
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I am far away from home, they are not gonna know what going on with their dauther life and I am not planing to tell them though. My family, my friends gonnabe so upset...I dont want to disappoint them..I always be their good girl.
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How old???
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30
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I wold call a local planned parenthood clinic. Ask them for references of who to contact for adoption. I am stumped as to tell you how to proceed. Best of luck to you.
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Thank you!
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When guy have sex, during intercourse sperm still comes out, even if there is no climax, it's just less.

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Precum??......o.o

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Oh yeah the best part
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Lol
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It is " well that's what I have been told"
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Ive been told different. Lol
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Really ,
Wow well I will check on that
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He said chances are extremely low!
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... There is high chances every time you have unprotected sex.
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The chances are actually extremely high!! Precum has the most sperm unit rather than the cum with all the fluid
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Of course he wants you to abort it!! That would mean that he doesn't have to be responsible for a baby.. How old are the both of you?? He is just saying that you can't get pregnant without climax. Sperm is coming out the entire time you are having sex from beginning to end..

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He is just 20 and that the point.
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"Just 20"?? Yeah so what is the point?. Other than he should know better at that age and if neither of you does than you shouldn't even be having sex! Yikes!
Be kinder to yourself please get some info from Planned Parenthood, make the decission that's right for YOU because YOU ARE the one who will be living with that decision for the rest of your life, HE wont! And again people: wear a condom please, there's other negative results to sex than unwanted pregnancies..?STD's?.
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He said he has low-paying job and has no education (just finished highschool) so he is not ready to become parent just yet. On the other hand, I have a good degree and good financial sources. I think I have capability to raise a child if I want to, but being a single mom is not quite acceptable in my society...
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Your society is out the window!!! When are you going to get it??? Then what does your society think about abortion??? I think you are talking about being Catholic right and Mexican Catholic at that.. It has happened so be responsible and have the baby and take care of it if you make good money!!! You also seem to be laying all the blame on the guy for getting you pregnant by saying that he said that if we didn't climax you wouldn't get pregnant. You are 30 years old why would a 30 year old person even listen to a 20 year old about protection??? And then he try's to accuse you of being with someone else!!! You just need to go have your baby and get away from him and stay away
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First of all it's your body, your choice. I personally would rather see you find a loving couple to give the baby to but that's my opinion. Second of all I don't believe you need to climax to get pregnant. Ever heard of pre cum? Yup. That has semen in it. It may in fact be less likely to happen but it does. I wish you the best. :)

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"Unprotected sex"
Let me stop you right there...

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But you cant get pregnant if the girl is not fertile, right?
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Everyday is a fertile day, the "safe days" are not 100% safe, and even if your partner says he didn't climax, "precum" is an answer to this.
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You can't really tell EXACTLY when a girl is fertile. You seem convinced that it depends upon when YOU determine when you are fertile. There is NO way to know exactly. This is wrong. If you have UNprotected sex you run a risk of getting pregnant.
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Was that to me or tough?
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You and I were typing at the same time., I am just a slower typer than you!
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You and I said the same thing. I just took twice as many sentences to say it!!!!! Blah blah blah~
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Ahhh, you confused me! Lol
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And I'm using the app on my iPhone, that would explain the fast typing
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Ahhh..thanks everyone, I just dont know how to tell him. I told him that I want adoption but not abortion but he seems to be quite concerned if I choose adoption. I really dont want to have abortion...
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If you don't want an abortion tell him it's not his choice and it's no longer his business.
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You need to abort your relationship with that genius.No good can ever come from unprotected sex,no matter what a guy says to you.You are more likely to get pregnant from preejactulation than the semen itself.Good luck,and next time...use protection or wait until you can handle a child.

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You and your boyfriend have a lot of questions that you need honest answers to. I do not know your age, but to simply answer your question, the amount of time someone is inside of you does not really matter. If you are having unprotected sex, you take the chance of getting pregnant and many diseases. You both took that chance and now, it seems you are trying to make the best decision. But that decision must be what is best for both of you. You have three choices. Childbirth, adoption or abortion. Neither of those choices are easy to make, and a decision you will have to live with for the rest of your life. You need a lot of information and you need it relatively quickly. I urge you to contact Planned Parenthood. They are well equipped to help you make an informed choice. They do not endorse one option over the other, they give you the facts and information. You do not even have to give them your name if you choose not to. They will also provide you with information on practicing safe sex in the future. Their contact is, 1-800-230-7526. www.plannedparenthood.org
They have offices all over the country. Good luck with whatever you decide, being responsible for your actions is the first step in becoming an adult.

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Star! :)
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I will, thanks a lot.
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Great answer!
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You are all very kind. Thank you.
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It is VERY possible to get pregnant without ejaculation. If you don't know all about the facts ... You have no business having sex at all .. Period!

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I need a Harem really bad !
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precum. you can still get pregnant on it.
and your choice with the baby is all up to you, sit down and both talk it out, and you make final choice, no matter what it is.

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There is always a possibility of getting pregnant if you have sex why don't people understand that?

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if it was unprotected there sperm still gets into your egg making a baby happen

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