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To mothers and fathers who were teens when they got pregnant: What would you tell teens who were considering raising their baby?

Based on your experience, any tips? What would you do differently? Would you give it up for adoption? How has it changed your life for good and for bad?

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Some of the girls at my school that got pregnant and kept the baby are very lonely. They come to school to show off their babies. They stand at the end of the hall during class change hoping lots of people will stop and ooo and awww over their babies, but nobody does. Lots of students look at the mothers like they are stupid. Bit by bit the boyfriends leave. The contribute nothing financially because they are still teenagers and don't work much. When they do work, they buy toys for themselves. The mothers get dumped. After that, the moms begin to realize that they are no longer in the market for a decent boyfriend and depression sets in. So please remember . . . condoms are your friend. Every sexually active girl should buy her own and refuse any sex that doesn't come with a condom.

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If these girls would only think past their hormones. We just did not have this problem when I was a teen. It was a VERY rare occurrence in the early 80s to have 13 to 17 year olds pregnant. Now it almost seems the norm. The girls always think they are in love and that the boy will stay with them or change once the baby is born. It is really too bad that these girls think it is okay to have sex so young.
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Rath, thank you so much for your poignant description of life as it is going to be. My heart breaks for these young women, but they just don't listen. Thank you again.
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Great advice rath! as always!!
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it is extremely hard for kids,no matter how mature they THINK they are,to raise kids.thank god mtv just played music back then,we did abort one,a decision that haunts me still,we,well i raised two,she moved back to jersey,a decision she didn't regret. if i had been mature i would have seen how things are

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well im a 18 i had to graduate high school at 17 and miss everyone and everything i work hard everyday to feed my family i got a apartment at 17 its hard hard it sucks im a 18 and feel like im in my 30s but i wouldent have it another way but too all the teens who think think thay are ready for a baby please think first but
P.S : i doint regret my beautiful daughter she keeps me alive she is my world my everything

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I hope every kid in the world reads what you just wrote, you really defined it...
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thanks :)
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It is my humble request NEVER GET PREGNANT UNTIL YOU ARE FULLY MATURE physically and mentally. Now as per raising their baby is concerned they must take utmost care of their babies. At times it is very frustrating but you will have to control your emotions, must sacrifice many things in life fo the sake of babies. Immunisation medications food and breast feeding is a must, take elders advice as per need. Their regular medical checkup is a must and you should not forget for this you will have to keep fit yourself.

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kazarina

I was pregnant at 19. & brought my daughter up alone from 7 weeks of age. It was hard work, you do sacrifice to give your child the best upbringing you can alone. It's a wonderful feeling becoming a mum but it is absolutely the hardest & longest job you will ever work at.
I would say to all young girls, if you think your ready for parenthood think again. It is a job for a lifetime.

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Thanks Kiddo. I wish I could get this message across to all teens today. Well put.
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As they get older you get no thanks either.
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