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We all change, some for the better, some for worse. Most of the changes aren't particularly dramatic -- just little things that might move us a degree or two in a different direction, but the overall result is to make us different people as we travel through life.
I've noticed that birthdays ending in zero: 20, 30, 40... are particularly dangerous. I tend to look back over the previous ten years and wonder what I could have done better and what I can do to make changes now. Since I don't expect to have too many more zero birthdays I've shortened that to birthdays ending in 5 because, even for old people, change is still possible and still welcome.
There's always something new out there that's interesting and worthwhile trying and, as long as we refuse to become stuck in the mire, we're likely to keep changing. In my opinion, that's a good thing.
Yes, and I have; the person I remember 25 years ago is like remembering someone else in a lot of ways. It's good that you brought this question up; it's important to know that people really can change themselves if they want to. Maybe because of upbringing, family stresses, tragedy or addictions a person may realize they're not the person they would like to be. With persistent dedication a person can change who they are for the better.
It takes time to find yourself .... Its called your awakening its when you wake up one day ( doesn't matter what age you are ) and everything makes sense you know whats your calling what you where born for.....
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You change whether or not you actually make an effort to do so. That is part of growing and maturing and it never stops. The only thing that is up to you is whether it is a change for the positive or negative. You decide your general direction by the actions you take.
There are days I can't wait to change. There are days when I believe, if you like me, it's for who I am and the life I live. I AM changing as I did weight loss surgery and becoming more like I was when (physically) younger and had less challenges. Life experiences have a way of changing who you are as you evolve. I'm certainly not the "mouse" I was in my teens and early 20's. Don't change too much as obviously you are who you are because you care enough to make changes!!!
Yep...until someone very famous told me they felt that way also. Then I thought, wow, guess everyone feels insecure at times. Find my emotions & self doubt is better when I get out of myself, stay away from negative peeps, on line stuff, t.v....then I say to myself out loud "just do it" (a.k.a Nike logo" & go for a walk, help a friend, go to beach, take pics of pretty things... p.s. the other day called the local library to see if I could help a little kid read better. This little kid is a blast!
Yes. I was always a very sensitive person and got my feelings hurt very easily. I wondered why people were so mean to me. I don't know what caused my enlightenment, but I finally realized that while I was sensitive to how others treated me, I was unfriendly and negative towards others. It was an eye opener. I decided to work on that! Now I find people respond to me much more positively and I rarely get my feelings hurt. Changing to become a better person can't be a bad thing, but I would never change my basic personality (I have a quirky sense of humor) to please someone else.
My experience is that I first had to understand who I am. With that in mind I can better understand if there are things I would like or need to change in my life, ideally to make life a better experience. I feel that whatever changes you make, the result is still you... as modified by the changes you decided to make. Then comes the opportunity to celebrate your uniqueness, that is in the world there is no one else like you and therefore live your own life and present the challenge of you to the rest of the world.
I have and currently do think there are aspects of myself or the way I react/perceive /approach. people and situations but I don't wish to change the core me. I alter my hair color often, dress a little unusually sometimes. When SOMEONE. ELSE suggests I need to change who I am, with unsolicited opinions, I almost turn the volume up on what they want to change. My changeworthy thoughts involve my behavior or moods, not my external me. But they tear at me more than I care for.
Yes! We all go through what I like to call phases.There is nothing wrong with changing things up! Now depending on what you mean by changing yourself do you mean a life change meaning something big about your life or maybe just something likeyour looks? Whatever you do make sure it is completely for yourself!
"Become Yourself" is the most satisfying answer on a personal level. To quote my book: Who you become must be an inner accomplishment that needs no outside approval. Do your best, Be your best, Try your best, is my family motto, that my father taught me.
Interesting views. When somebody says they would like to change who they are, they are really just saying they would like to change their outcomes. Lets say you are a person who is passive and you hate that you always let other people get their way because although you think you are just being nice to them, you usually end up regretting the outcome for you. So you decide one day that you will only agree to something if you also are comfortable with the outcome. Some people will say "you've changed" but what you have really done is just value yourself as much as them. This can happen in all aspects of your life and it can take a little time before it is automatic to you but it can certainly change a lot of your outcomes. As long as you are not degrading others and are respectful then you will soon see you can have anything you want when you value yourself.
When you have those feelings that you need to change you or something about you, it is a good time to do some self assessment. What is it I want to change? Why? What would I like the end result to be. Is this and emotional change or something nudging me to grow. Counsel is always good to seek, but from a reliable source, not your peers. It may mean that you need to dig deep and find your goals. It might be the chance to seek a higher call and REALLY be what God has made you to be. The only thing holding you back, is you!
Life is like a movie script. We write our own life script, and if we do not like the result, we can rewrite a new script. Once we understand that the ego is the driving force in our life, it becomes easier, to make positive changes.
It's easier to change our surroundings than who we are. But where ever you go, there you are. With age comes wisdom and a better understanding of who you are. Invest in a life you can be proud of so there won't be a NEED to change who you are.
Sometime's I do....but you should just be yourself...and don't let anyone pass you by (if you know what I mean anyway) and don't let them know that you are annoyed by what they are doing, cause that can also cause you, from thinking that you need to change, and that can cause so much big effect on your life......hope this help :D
Yes, and I try to do the change I want in me. Try to be more giving and get myself to feel more caring toward the community and mankind so maybe I could feel like an accepted part of it. But then it never works out right and I feel nothing from the changes I try to be. I'm still the lone nobody whether I gave the food bank $100.00 or ignored their ads. As time goes on I find myself feeling better being the hateful loner who laughs at wasting money on strangers who will never be my friends anyway and keeps my money than the lonely supportive person who has nothing in common with other people but is trying to be an asset to the human race anyway. So I go back to the old me and it hits me at times I wish I could be someone acceptable people would like instead of me.
Dear Chnage of what Kind, In behaviour, Attitude towards Life or Way of Learning? Every day is a Precious Page of our Life. Automatically we (our mind / Brain) recording scenes, some what we interest some what ignored, Later on when Pulse be come relating this event we remeber some thing we did not behave like that Thinking. We calculate our feelings then tried to recover some successed some not. Its all our Fate. Nothing is in our controlled but be controlled if we act as God(Allah) wants then all be done we wnated against each and every thing. Try it Allah (God) seeing us every moment. We have no right until Allah gave us right to change ourselves. Learn from Religion what's Fate . Fate can be changed only by prayers same as we make trip but changed at the moment we borred or felt no to go. Allah Knows every thing before us and after us. i.e. -1----0---1---0. Thanks.
Yes sometimes I find myself wanting to change little things about myself, like my nose and chin and sometimes I wish I could look like a movie star or singer like Donna summer for example but mostly I accept myself the way God made me.
Yes as a girl I often feel that way but I try to remind myself that God made me who He wants me to be and He loves me. Even though its easier said than done, try to be proud of who He made you because I am sure there are people who wish they were you!
New International Version (NIV)
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
Well, growing up normally changes ideals and thoughts, and people these days are EXTREMELY influenced by media, family, love, and religion. However, traumatic events are one of the things that can drastically change people. War is the most common reason, death of loved ones or sorrow over something is another one. When I was a kid, I so many dreams and hopes, but a certain family event made me bitter and resentful throughout my high school and college. Now I'm older, living alone with a very good job and wishing I could do something different. I'll never be in high school again and missed my chance at love. So, basically, change can be bad or good, always mostly depending on how you react to it.
Yes i have,but i didn't. What you need to know is that you are the best way you can be when you are how you. You are perfect the way god made you and he loves you. If you change you are missing up gods creation.