Hey CJ. Ugh I wish I had a perfect definite answer to this-it's really hard to deal with people that make you feel insecure or inadequate. I struggle with this too-and though I have ideas of how to overcome it, tend to forget or not follow them. Sometimes, I'll try and remember those who I know think highly of me. (It's sad that we tend to focus more on those who don't.) And try to ask myself/focus on how I feel about myself, and if it's negative, why I feel that way. If it's because someone else said it-it's not a good reason to feel that way.
Any kind of rejection, no matter if it's in love, your career, friends, a book proposal or anything else, is not something that should affect how happy you are. Rejection doesn't feel great and sometimes it feels unfathomable but it shouldn't be something you permit to take away happiness from your life. The suffering that happens when rejection occurs comes from over-thinking the "loss" that you feel you're suffering, be it loss of an opportunity, loss of a special relationship or loss of some other kind. The reality of life is that rejection will form a part of it––there will be occasions when your job application, your date request or your ideas for change will be rejected by someone, somewhere. It is a healthy attitude to accept that rejection is a part of life and to acknowledge that what really matters is finding the way to bounce back and try again.
accept that you are good enough. Everyone has different standards, you should know deep within yourself that you are. Handling people that make you feel inferior is difficult, stand by your own standards not theirs, ask them to not be so demanding. If you please them on their terms you'll eventually resent them.
These people are called "energy vampires". They try to make you feel bad about yourself and it sucks all the good energy right out of you. Don't let it happen. As soon as they come around, just remind yourself your not going to allow them to take your good energy and make you feel bad about yourself. Be determined and polite, it will work. Good versus Bad always wins. Stay focused, you are a smart young women with great ideas and good answers....
I am the former queen of this. I taught myself this trick and this is a different type of answer than the rest so get ready. Here goes...I realize it's an emotion and not the truth. I use the "4 day rule" and wait 4 days for it to pass over me, and it always does. I hang up a piece of paper at the beginning of those 4 days that says," It's a lie". Then after 4 days I take it down. When and if it happens again, I do the same thing. The 4 day rule. It works.
You stop. Thicken your skin a bit first. Feelings of inferiority are common but not okay. At the most irrational. Am I saying you're not 'all there' in the head for having those feelings if you do, but thinking that you're "not good enough" at really, anything.. is at the least incorrect. And don't need to know you to know that. So what you tell people(and yourself) that tell you you are inferior, is quite plainly that you're not. And you've already begun to show proof of strength by asking for advice. Now that you have plenty, use it.