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Can pregnant minors give their embryos to women who want to be a mother?

I'm 17 and i just found out i'm pregnant, i don't know how far along i am but i know i can't raise this baby. I already have a son who is 8 months old, and it's a struggle raising just him. I thought about abortion and thought if i just got it over with quickly and did it before i could think about it too much, then it would just be over and i could move on with my life. I'm extremely against abortion though, and my heart couldn't help but get involved just within 24 hours of taking a pregnancy test.
So now i'm trying to see if there's any other way besides having to harm this life that i know i can't be the parent of. I was wondering if there was a way to remove the embryo from my uterus and inseminate another woman who wanted to be the mother of this baby. It would be an adoption from the very start of the pregnancy. I've never heard of something like this, but i don't want to give up on saving this baby immediately. I want to try and save him/her even though i can't be the mother. It'll be hard giving this baby up, but i really don't want to end it's life before it can even start. Please let me know if you have any helpful ideas or advice. Thank you so much.

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Think you would learn the first time no offense...have it and put it up for adoption thats what i would do

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We were using the pull out method and condoms during the time of conception.
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Stop having sex period. Did you not learn the first go around. No is the answer to your question. Put the baby up for adoption after you give birth!

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you asking her not to have sex is like shutting the barn door after the cows got out! Most people do NOT choose to be celibate once they've had sex. she's obviously what used to be called a "fertile Myrtle", so she needs to have her tubes tied, give up the baby for adoption or yes, even have an abortion. As an adult adoptee, I can say from personal experience that adoptions don't always work out for the baby or the adoptive parents, plus its cruel as can be to deny a child its heritage, its blood line, its family history.
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hey lexi, how can we hook up & talk about our syrinx's? safely?!
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Email give me yours and I will email u
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Jadesmamma, having sex is a choice either you chose to have sex or you don't. Very easy. She knew the risk of getting pregnant and still choose to have sex shows that she made that decision then.
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I would call a Reproductive, Fertilization Program, they would be able to give you specifics. You asked for advice, You say it is hard raising your 8 month old, use a birth control method and a condom so you won't be put in this difficult position. Abortion is up to the individual and how they view abortion. Abortion is not the answer for birth control.

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I don't consider abortion a type of birth control, which is why i'm trying to find another way instead of just running to the abortion clinic immediately. I did use several types of birth control at different times since my son has been born. So yes, even using a birth control and/or a condom CAN put you in this difficult position. I didn't put myself out there for insults, i put myself out there for helpful advice.
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I truly don't think that it is possible to transfer an embryo once it has started growing in the uterus. If you don't want to have an abortion (good choice IMO), you should contact an adoption agency immediately. It would mean that you would have to carry the child, but you would know that there was a family waiting to adopt the baby. It's possible that you would also get financial help during the pregnancy.

I hope that you will, for your sanity, start making sure that you have some sort of birth control method.

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Please read above comments before you post your own comment. I have used several different types of birth control during the time my son has been born. Thank you for your help, but in my case birth control couldn't prevent my pregnancy.
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At the time that I posted my answer, there were no comments, so I had no idea that you had been using birth control. By not explaining that you had used birth control and still got pregnant, the assumption (incorrect as it may be) was made that you didn't. So we weren't insulting you by suggesting that you use birth control.
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Some are being insulting, not just giving "helpful" advice.
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Also, i didn't put that i was using birth control because it was not an important asset to the question at hand.
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Nope-the baby is there for the whole 9 months once the embryo has attached to your uterine wall-there are NO embryo transplants(yet). Now if you weren't pregnant & wished to donate eggs, that can be done, but its too late now, hon. I have a question for YOU-why do you not use a dependable form of birth control so you don't have to go thru this every year? The "rhythm method" is a joke. Antibiotics can interfere with birth control pills, leaving you pregnant. The rings they advertise on tv can cause infections & you can still get pregnant if its improperly inserted. Condoms break. How about going to your ob-gyn and asking for her help in finding a method of birth control that you can depend on if you're going to keep on doing your thing? 17 & on your 2nd child is NOT good! And as an adult adoptee, I can honestly say that adoption isn't the great thing its cracked up to be. Its so very WRONG to deny a child knowledge of its REAL family history, its blood line, its heritage. Adopted children grow up with a "lack of self". What kind of woman would do that to her own child?

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I was scheduled for an IUD to be put in when i found out i was pregnant again.
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Congrats on becoming pregnant again I'm 22 and have 2 kids I was the same age when my daughter was born. How old were u when your son was born? Are u still with the baby's dad?

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How old were you when both of your children were born?
I was 15 when i became pregnant with my son. And yes, we've been together since before i was pregnant with our son.
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I'm sorry, i misread the question: i was 16 when he was born.
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I was 16 when my daughter was born and 22 when my son was born. Are u keeping this baby? Are u guys going to get married?
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I'm not the type to get married so no. And no, i'm not keeping this baby.
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U will be a mom if two kids if u keep this baby or not. Why don't u want it?
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You can't transfer the embryo, but you may be able to find a couple who wants the baby after it's born, and you can sign the adoption papers after you give birth.

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