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How do i break up with my boyfriend without hurting him too bad

we have been going out 4 six weeks and i just dont feel the same way anymore he really likes me and i dont want to hurt him:(HELP!!

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you could do in person and say that u just dont feel the sane way about him anymore but u guys can still be close friends

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maybe you could say something like "i'm not sure we should be together anymore" or "maybe we should take a break... but I still really like you!"

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Personally, I think that things like... "I still really like you..." often make guys think you're phony, or still interested. If you still want to be friends, try to state that in as much of a NON-CLICHE way as possible.
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be honest. just tell him exactly how you feel so he isn't confused.

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Just tell him the truth because if you wait to long it will be hard

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Tell Him "(His Name) Look I Think We Should Stop Seeing Each Because (Your Reason) Hopefully We Can Still Be Friends" :o

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say this i don't want to be with you anymore and its not u its me and you were a great boyfriend i just want to try something different

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no no no no no no no ! never use the its not you it me line !
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number one thing is to not still go out with him because you dont want to hurt him i mean heey it just might turn out that he feels the same way too and hes trying not to hurt you ! just be honest with him and yourself

by the way i love how you said not hurting him to bad just a little hurting is ok but not to much ! lol

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What i ment by that was all breakups hurt unless u really hate that person so i just dont want to be too haod on him:(
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just be honest dont worry about hurting him because then more than likley you will if you just think about being honest then everything will work out just fine !
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Say " I don't feel it's working out... Can we please b friends?

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Tell him the truth.
If you make up a story, he'll figure it out by seeing how you act and certain things you say and do that don't add up to your story. He'll not only be hurt but then he'll feel lied to and probably feel kinda stupid too for at first believing you. Then he'll torture himself trying to figure out the real reason. So just tell him the truth, in the long run that will hurt him a lot less then making up a story.

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exactly
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thank you some people that actually know what they r talkin about
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DUDE...................Im just not that into you! Hahaha

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dude..............not cool.
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hey cammy.Shut up
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Be completely honest. You aren't breaking up with him because of something he did, so don't try being angry or anything. Just tell him the truth. When you date, you know it's more likely that you'll break up of get dumped than it is that you'll be together forever, so you have to respect his emotions. Don't say... "I just like you too much..." or something like that, just tell him-- "I'm just not attracted to you anymore. It's not something you did..." In your own words.

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tell him over the phone and blame some things on him

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no never do that and never over the phone have the balls to do it in person ! shes not mad at him shes just not attracted to him anymore !
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NEVER on the phone meet up with him.
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Just tell him you need some time. That's the easiest way. If your feelings change later, he may get back with you.?? Don't tell him that, that will hurt him.

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whatever you do DO NOT BREAK UP THROUGH A TEXT. THAT'S NEVER THE WAY TO GO. a call might help but meet up with him make eye contact tell him as sweetly as possible if he gets upset console him, then u have to be strong and leave.

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I was in a similar situation. I gave him a hug and then told him "Its not the best time for me to be in a relationship right now. But I dont want to lose you as a friend." He was a little hurt at first but now we're still friends :)

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If you want to break up with him and not hurt his feelings,then say" (his name) , I hope we can still be friends after this question and I want you to know that I still care for your feelings, I want to take a break, I still have feelings for you it's just that I need to take a little break" if he gets upset give him a hug!! Good luck!!!?

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Say I need some time to figure things out

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she has it figured out shes not attracted to him she just needs to be honest to him and herself
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Right
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Honesty hurts. The only way not to make it hurt, is by lying, which is the wrong thing, so balls in your court now. I'd want to be told straight up.

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If you don't want to hurt him, don't be so capricious, egoistic, and cruel and remain with him another six weeks. May be after this period he will decide to give you up and you will not be torturing yourself with these gloomy thoughts.

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Be honest and let him know you are both looking and wanting different things. Tell him it would be unfair to lead you on further.

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Unfortunately it's probably going to hurt for a bit but honesty is always best. Be truthful about how your feeling, give him time to process it and keep talking.

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o wow.. its only been 6WEEKS!! just tell him point blank dude i don't like you the way i use to.. n be done with it.. you guys are like 15 at the oldest..it shouldn't be that hard.. like any other guy he'll just move on.. n forget..

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Be honest. Get him something he likes after you break up with him. Maybe ask him how much he truly loved you. Make some conversation and slowly morph it into breaking up.

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