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What is the best solution in the situation where your with a girl, had an argument the night before, and she's not talking to you.

We had an argument the night before about certain things and now she hasn't answered the one text and one call I made to her much earlier today. I haven't texted/called her back or anything. I am thinking if she wanted to talk she would get back to me, but she is also kind of shy. We have been together for over a month, we are really into eachother. Should I let her have her space then for now, things have kind of been going fast lately too.

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Okay the best thing to do is apologize,even if you feel like you have no reason to do so.It'll make her feel like you're important to her.This is advice coming from a girl so yeah.And slow down a bit,personally i think it's a NO-NO when the relationship is going fast.

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I understand about the going fast thing and apologizing, which is why I haven't contacted her for basically the whole day. The way I see it is that if she wanted to talk to me, she would. I apologized almost immediately. I was thinking about calling her in an hour or so and talking to her after basically the whole day.
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I called her and asked what was going on, she wouldn't answer really, I can tell she is still upset and everything. I tried to reach out to her and fix whatever it was. She said there's nothing to fix. Feels like she is accessing the situation and herself right now. She has some issues in her personal life and health-wise, no she doesn't do drugs or anything, but her living arrangement and everything that she is taking into consideration. I can tell she wants to move out and everything. Basically the bottom line is she wants to get out of the situation she is in at home, not really pertaining to me that much.
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I think you should apologize to her even if you're right and she's wrong :)
It shows her that you care enough to make it up to her

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That's the first thing that I said, i called her and she didn't answer, so I texted her and said I was sorry, and you were right about a bunch of things I wasn't thinking about.
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buy her some flowers and leave them at her door, that should soften her up xD
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Well I would, but she also lives like a half hour away, could I send her something to her Facebook or something that is a little less of a hassle, not to be nit picky, but yeah, I love the freaking girl.
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I called her and asked what was going on, she wouldn't answer really, I can tell she is still upset and everything. I tried to reach out to her and fix whatever it was. She said there's nothing to fix. Feels like she is accessing the situation and herself right now. She has some issues in her personal life and health-wise, no she doesn't do drugs or anything, but her living arrangement and everything that she is taking into consideration. I can tell she wants to move out and everything. Basically the bottom line is she wants to get out of the situation she is in at home, not really pertaining to me that much.
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If things are going to fast and that's why the two of you are arguing then yes take a break weigh the situation out for yourself . However if you take a break from one another you both news to agree on certain things like if you can or can't see other people and a deadline and if one can't make one's mind up then breakup.

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I can see things are going a little fast and everything. I can also see she is not talking to me right now because she knows it and it's good to take a break from time to time so you can breathe and think for yourself. Totally understandable. Should I call her a bit later, I think texting is NOT a good idea, and talking is more direct and means more in general.
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I called her and asked what was going on, she wouldn't answer really, I can tell she is still upset and everything. I tried to reach out to her and fix whatever it was. She said there's nothing to fix. Feels like she is accessing the situation and herself right now. She has some issues in her personal life and health-wise, no she doesn't do drugs or anything, but her living arrangement and everything that she is taking into consideration. I can tell she wants to move out and everything. Basically the bottom line is she wants to get out of the situation she is in at home, not really pertaining to me that much.
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Don't apologize that shit make you seems weak. She's playing game with your head. Wait until she's done with her mind game and ask her if she want to go on a walk with you at a nice scenic route. Once you're there tell her how you feel and if it's too fast tell her that you're ok with bringing things down a notch. Then passionately kiss her, i'm sure she'll give it to you then and there.

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I personally don't think apologizing is weak. Admitting you were wrong and that I went a bit over the top on things is a sign of a strong person who can admit that what they said or did came off the wrong way and it's not what you really meant. I would go get her flowers and stuff like that but she is kind of far just to go do that. I would rather talk to her and everything first.
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*weakness
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How do I know when she's done playing her mind game? When she calls me or should I call her a bit later? I haven't talked to her pretty much since yesterday.
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I'm not trying to scare her away by keep hitting her up and I haven't been so that's a good thing. On the other hand, if I don't hit her up by later tonight at most, I feel as though she might think I'm doing something else and just said forget it or something. I definitely DON'T want that.
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Call her tonight, ask her what she's doing.
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Yeah, that sounds like a good idea. Pretty much what I was going to do.
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Should I call her later or like in a little while, maybe she wants to hang out, I know for sure today was her day off and she wasn't going to do anything and asked if I was coming over last night.
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I called her and asked what was going on, she wouldn't answer really, I can tell she is still upset and everything. I tried to reach out to her and fix whatever it was. She said there's nothing to fix. Feels like she is accessing the situation and herself right now. She has some issues in her personal life and health-wise, no she doesn't do drugs or anything, but her living arrangement and everything that she is taking into consideration. I can tell she wants to move out and everything. Basically the bottom line is she wants to get out of the situation she is in at home, not really pertaining to me that much.
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