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How do I deal with someone who is depressed?

My grandmother is severely depressed and I just don't know how to act around her, I can barely talk to her without making it seem worse.

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Listen to her... She needs to feel validated. She feels disconnected.

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Tell her to see a counselor

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Your family all needs to visit her more. Likely she is mostly just lonely.

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Your right about the family been around more, but depression is more serious and should not be ignored or replaced by saying she is lonely. Loneliness sometimes can be identified as a symptom of depression but 9 times out of ten it goes much more deeper and needs handling with gentle but firm hands.
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Well why is she depressed?

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That is a question you never want to hear when you are depressed. You often do not know why you feel the way you do. Just be a friend a good listener a comforter. Sometimes that's all it takes.
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here's what you shouldn't do...don't ISOLATE THEM ..

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Sometimes a depressed person won't want to talk. Sometimes they need you to just be there for them. Even if you don't talk you can still sit with her and keep her company, and if she wants to talk, you can listen. If you do talk to her, be careful to only say supportive things and don't say anything unhelpful like "You need to just snap out of it." That's a big pet peeve of depressed people; I know because I was one once.

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mabey give her a hug. say" hey grandma , don't know who you lost or why your depressed but im here I love you and I always will."

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have a journey with her

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Sonic has the right idea. Also make sure she knows you will be there for her.

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show empathy towards her
try to indulge her in activities she used to enjoy
try to make her talk to u and listen to her concerns
call for her friends and people she loves to come to ur home

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Listen to her and be there when she needs you the most.:) hope she gets better.

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Review what medications she is taking. Are there any new prescriptions? There is a tendency to overmedicate the elderly in this country. Sometimes medications (even those prescribed for depression) can have a depression side effect.

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bake her a cookie

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Be supportive. Try to get her some help. There are medication for depression. Give her a hug.

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Older Americans feel worthless these days, they use to play an integrity part in society by raising the grandchildren while parents were working. Now our families are separated all over the country and they are lonely. If your grandmother is depressed find her something she can do to add to the life of her children, ask her to sew or make you something or bake.Something that you can't do for yourself... make her feel needed and important.

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i am going through this also. only thing i wanted was someone to be there for me and listen to me and my problems and also love me and hug me and comfort me and i found a really good friend that does all that and she helped me through my depression and she was very supportive and i also went through counselling and now everything is great with me and my friend and we go out shopping and out to eat alot. there is hope for people that has depression and you just have to work really hard at it and it takes along time to get over it.

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I am glad you found that someone who was good for you and helped be there for you in your hour of need. Hope you continue on your positive outlook.
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be with them help them because it really sucks we some one is deprested:(.

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just be supportive.

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I have suffered clinical depression all of my life, first thing is never tell a depressed person it will be ok! In their mind it will NEVER be ok! Seek professional help and just be there, don't try to comfort cause there is none, just being there is enough

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Listen do not judge. Offer support and let her talk or just sit with them. Never offer advice and finally seek professional help.

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You are smart not to overlook a personality change of anyone at any age. Get Grammy to a neurologist as soon as you can. She may have had a minor stroke or reduced blood flow to her brain, and there might be something worse in the near future if she is not treated NOW. There might be a neurological problem harder to treat (such as Alzheimer's) that could also cause a personality change (and which may call for far more than family support.) But you can not help her properly and protect her health unless you get an accurate diagnosis. Of course, you should always be kind and counseling can help almost anyone who is upset, but FIRST you need to make sure kindness and counseling will be enough.

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just comfort her...make her feel good about herself...she might need a concealer ..

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Make her feel like she is amazing and rare to find. She needs to focus on the things she likes witch i know is not much so you need to try hard to make her like things and focus on JUST THOSE THINGS. It takes a long time to do because she is depressed. no matter how long it takes or how hard it is to do and keep the conversation on, YOU NEED TO DO IT.

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Teach them how to tie a noose. Sorry i just had to. Well it really depends on how depressed they are. Depending on that you want to use different approaches.

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you don't "deal" with them first off but any way you can just ask them if they want to talk about it and let them know you will help them.

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buy her some McDonalds

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be there for her as much as you can ......and let her feel companied..
the major cause of depression is the feeling of lonelyness !!
avoid it !

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Just be around her most of the time... and listen what she has to tell you....Make her feel good.. Make he occupied with all the good things and forget the things that make her depressed...Here is an interesting article on how to overcome depression.. I hope this could help...http://www.infaura.com/overcoming_depression.php

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People today are becoming more and more depressed, when people experience prolonged anxiety, fear, grief, or other such negative emotions, they often become depressed. The cause of depression or extreme sadness may be the death of a loved one, a divorce, the loss of a job, or an unrelenting sickness. In the times we are living in become more stressful everyday. (2 Timothy 3:1-5)
People also become depressed when they develop a sense of worthlessness, when they feel they are a failure and have let everyone down. (Job 10:1) Anyone may be devastated by a stressful situation, but when a person develops a sense of hopelessness and is unable to see any way out of a bad situation, severe depression may result. The Bible gives comfort. (Revelation 21:3,4) Although we suffer and go through many trials, it is only temporary. (Luke 21:28; Romans 8:21)

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