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Can i live in peace with my past,

i want it to go away but i know it won't

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you have to find peace with yourself, that is the only way you will be happy. The past will never go away (Known from experience) but you have to deal with it. I have had bad things done in my past, but I made peace with myself and those involved, and now I am very happy.

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but i am being threatend by the past, i can't be happy knowing the past and fear is right behind me
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I have been too. I have nearly been killed by my past. You have to find a way to stop it.
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i will try very hard
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Try not to think about it, I know it is hard, but it is possible.

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do you really know, it is more than hard it's unbarable,
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I do know, cause there are things in my past that I am trying to get over.
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it's hard to get over my past
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Sorry
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i am too
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Yeah, i hope your future goes well
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i hope as will
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Of course, friend. You must accept the events that happened in your life. You must first understand that they have shaped you into the individual you are today. Stay strong, eventually you will find inner peace.

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Your past will never go away. Think about what your past has done for you, like how it's made you into a wonderful person. :)

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the past killed me imotionaly, it hurts
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Minji
If you don't mind me asking, what happened that killed you inside? :-/
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i was raped by the one person that i trusted and loved like a brother, and beaten by my step mom, for years she was my mom and the only shelter i had
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I'm sorry that happened, but if you dwell on the past you'll never live again. Keep moving forward, you have a good strong pair of legs, you should get up and use them. Everyone has rough times in their life, if you constantly think about those times it destroys you. It hurts me to see people like you tear themselves apart because of events in their lives. Please stay strong.
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okay i will try, i can't make any promises
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Minji
No, promise me...I understand what you're going through. :-/
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okay i promise
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Minji
Please stay strong.
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It can be put in proper perspective and have less power over you. It takes time and you have to do the work to move forward. You can do it!

People mention not thinking about it. You do need it to not be all encompassing but you will need to examine it thoroughly for it to have less power over you.

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Yes you can...your pass can be the fuel that can propel you to be a better person. But it's only up to you. Let your pass be the foundation that build a stronger and better you...good luck!!!!

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why not some group therapy

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oh i tried that it helped a little but it really didn't take away the hurt
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You have to keep going and gain some trust.. gotta release it to move forward
and you do want to move past this
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i do want to move past this
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stay in therapy and work towards some future goals
a step at a time..
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okay i will try
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Redstar just keep in mind that you probably are tougher on yourself than anybody and (I'm guessing) your in your youth and things see cloudy now but its gets clearer
Hang in there and I'll see you around here soon :)
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Sure, It is in the trunk. It is old luggage. Life gives us tons. We just need to put it away and live for the next day. As you can see by these response's, we all have luggage. That's what life is all about. No one is perfect. The ones that learn from the mistakes are the ones that are successful. The ones that do not fail.

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God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

This prayer is said daily by thousands of people who struggle with guilt of their past. The prayer is very very old.

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i don't guilt over the past i fear it
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Guilt, fear, regret, shame- anything that is negative in your past is helped by this prayer. How about telling us more specifics?
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i was beatend by the one person i trusted, i was raped by the one person i loved like a brother, i was left to die in the below zero weather, i had so many tears and blood that shed
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You'll never forget the past and its ok to look at the past thru a window. What's not good is climbing thru that window to Be in the past. You will have a tuff time trusting men again or getting close to one. Remember, serinity is accepting what you can't change. Please seek professional help to get thru this so you can live a peaceful and successful life in the years to come. Maturing will help too.
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okay my mom set an apointment to see someone
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Absolutely. No matter what you have done or has been done to you, you CAN get past your past. It WILL take time, but is definitely possible. First reflect on the painful situation and determine what you have learned from it, how has your survival through that pain made you better and stronger? Then you can put the past behind you and move forward into the future. The past can't be changed, but you can. Face it honestly and no matter what, you will be freed because of it instead of chained to it.

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You'll have to forget the past.

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it's not as easy as you think
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Ya... I know... You Only Live Once, so don't waste your life :)
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i will try not to
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Sh!tty people use these tactics to demean people they feel are better than they are. They use these uncivilized ways to belittle and control others. You are allowing their behavior and those events to control you. Those people and events do not define you. What you do with your life defines you. You know that you will never allow your past abuse to cause you to abuse others. Use what you have in your soul to advocate for others. It will help you. Believe in your own strength. Onward and upward,

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