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I want to move to a different house in my State and country I want a horse But my parents dont understand my passion Please help

I REALLY WANT A HORSE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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I have had two horses. It's a LOT of work. Do you know the costs involved in owning a horse? Have you taken riding lessons? What do you want to do with the horse, or will you simply keep it in the yard as a pet?

Have you considered leasing a horse?
Have you considered boarding the horse, instead of keeping it at home?
Have you even been around horses on a regular basis?

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Ok well, yes I do know ALL the costs for owning a horse,I take riding lessons and BTW it's pretty fun ( Been ridign for two years!), The reason I want a horse is because I feel VERY pure while riding it feels like I am flying when I am jumping! I don't want a horse just to be a yard pet I would never neglect an animal from attention I have a dog two guinea pigs a dog and a cat and NONE of them feel like they are neglected at all I can promise you. No sorry, but I would prefer having a horse of my own I want to form a bond with a horse not just one that liek MILLIONS of other kids ride and they have no idea who is their owner even is. I would love the feeling of being upset and having someone who will not betray me or be mean to me. Yes I am around Horses like 24/7 seriously.........
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OK, so how old are you, and how do you plan to help your parents pay the $500 per month it will cost to keep the horse? Will you be willing to get up at 5 AM every day - even when you want to sleep in, even on weekends - to feed and water the horse?

These are the things that your parents are concerned about. I'm not trying to tell you that you shouldn't get a horse - far from it, I encourage everyone to spend time around them - but they are a big financial burden, and while your parents are OK with the $30 or $50 a week for a riding lesson, they are probably less prepared for the costs of a horse. I would strongly recommend leasing a horse for a little while first. In fact, we originally leased our second horse, and then we bought him a couple months later. It's a good way to see if you and the horse get along, before buying.
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Ok I am just turning 12 and I will do odd jobs for money MY one concern is that I have school Monday Thru Friday So how am I going to get MY mom to take me to the farm that I ride at at 5 AM??stable !? AND I really don't like the stable I ride at sooooo. Any Advice?
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Well if you board a horse at someone else's barn, they will usually feed them. But you will still need to go to the barn almost every day so you can work the horse or at least let it out and clean its stall. It will be a lot of work, and then you have homework on top of that. Honestly, when I was your age I had 4 days a week that I'd be at the barn until 10 o'clock at night! I had to get my homework done the moment I got home, so that when my parents got home after work we could go straight to the barn. I also had to give up dance classes, because I couldn't do both.

Here's what I'd suggest:
1. Show your parents that you can handle homework and a horse. Get your homework done the moment you get home from school. Don't procrastinate! Homework is priority number one, so if you can't get that done, you can't have a horse.
2. Find out if you can clean stalls at your barn for a little cash. Sometimes a barn owner will pay kids your age to clean stalls, but you HAVE to be reliable and do it when you say you will. So you will have to be at the barn every other day, and spend at least a couple of hours depending on how many stalls you clean.
3. I still recommend asking your parents about leasing a horse, first. There are different agreements, but you can lease one so you have access to it 24/7. Then once you've shown you're responsible, they will be more open to buying a horse.
4. If you don't like where you're at, you can always find a different barn. Just talk to your parents about it.
5. Have a plan for how you will pay for the horse. What odd jobs? How will you handle the jobs, the horse, and your homework?
6. Understand your parents' concerns. The purchase price of a horse isn't a problem, it's what you'll pay throughout its life. Plus they need to find a horse that is appropriate for a 12-year-old, and whether it is a healthy, sturdy animal.
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I know this may sound weird but I DO dance classes and I don't really enjoy them, the homework is getting really really hard for that it takes me a LOT longer and I have a huge procrastinate I am kinda shy so it would be REALLY hard for me to ask to clean stalls (it would be hard to ask because my teach is well....... kinda hard like "Well SURE Honey BUN!!!!!!" ) There are no other barns around my area for a decent price + My dance is like ( in all $200 a WEEK) and I don't like to do I my mom did it that she wants me to follow through her little pointe footprints but I like dirt not dance I like hoofs not jazz. I am the BEST multi-tasker there is! I am doing my homework as we speak! Also I am looking up every thing there is to know about horses I even told my mom I would NEVER give up on this this nothing I will ever forget + My mom+Dad took me to the Maryland Horse Expo it was AWSOME!!!!! And I kinda want a younger I rode an older horse and it was well......... BORING I love the wind in my hair when I ride young horses.
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Just make sure homework is your #1 priority. Always. Because if they DO buy you a horse and you slack off on homework, they can easily sell the horse.

You need to look for a well-behaved horse, not just young or old. And you should tell your mom and dad everything you just told me.
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Ok, Thanks!!!!
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well its really not your choice if u want to move or not if ur under the age of 18 you have to listen to your parents

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Uhh thanks I guess....... Not really helpful though.....
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This is the truthful answer.
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I SO totally understand! If you've talked with them, do you think putting it down on paper and writing out everything you feel and explain your passion (in ways that maybe you can't think of because of frustration) would help? I've done that before and it was actually successful. Just an idea. Good luck, honey. Don't you just LOVE the way they smell?

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Sissymom! How are you?
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Hi, darlin'! I'm doin' pretty good. Seems like I haven't talked to you in a coon's age. Are you getting along okay? And did I see your name of Ask Hall of Fame? If I'm not dreaming it, MAJOR CONGRATS. If I am dreaming it, you'll definitely be on there soon. You are and have been forever one of my faves! (But I really think I saw it.)
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Yep, you're on there!!!!!
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You saw it! Thank you. :) I'm doing okay I guess.
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But don't get me wrong, I'm happy to see you!
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Your parents don't want their life to revolve around a horse.

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I always had horses when I was a kid. When I had to live on my own, of course I could no longer afford to keep them. Now I'm old and I STILL want a horse. I just know exactly the cost and commitment it takes to own one. I can't afford it if I plan on keeping my son. Perhaps your parents have faced this choice as well and chose YOU!

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Your wants list keeps growing. Now you want to move too?
This is seriously starting to sound like its all about you.
If you really want one, you'll end up with one someday. I suggest for now you try to get a job working around them and learn.

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Boo, are you sure there have been good political questions? :P
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Marcus, haven't you been following the gun control arguments?
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Sissy - :)
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Boo - I haven't looked at a lot of them but the first few seemed just the same.
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Boo - Then again I think you and I agree on gun moderation and agreements don't come between us very often. :P
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I agree with half of these answers, it's a lot of work to keep up with a horse and you should understand that. Also, when your parents decide something, that's it, no ifs, ands, or buts. You have to listen to your parents and they most likely have a reason. There is A LOT OF COST in the horse world. Leasing a horse is enough money as it is. It also takes a lot of money to pay for the tack, feed, water, shelter, exercise... Maybe some day, but not now, sorry kid. You need to appreciate what you have now and get a job, cause truthfully you want a lot but wont give anything,

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What makes you assume he won't do anything, Mr. Wolf? Have you never been passionate about anything, especially when you were young? Maybe he would be willing to get a job or maybe he's not old enough. But that doesn't mean he couldn't help out around the house. Just taking care of a horse is quite a job.
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First of all.... I'm a girl -_- Also, I have been riding horses for a while and im passionate enough to understand that this girl or boy shows only wanting, but no need to show any reasons or signs they want to help. I lease horses, getting one soon and I know what it takes to own a horse. I have read some of the replies of this person and all I see is the word fun, after every time he or she talks about horses. I do agree, horses are fun to ride, but thats not all you can do when getting a horse... just having fun. I know how to do all this stuff and I even get stressed out, it's not easy work and that person should listen to their parents, you gotta listen to your elders, especially your parents.
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First of all...I apologize, Ms. Wolf for calling you a Mister. Some usernames can be quite ambiguous. However, you seem to be a person who "assumes" a lot just because it is not written down, so you make a comment that comes out quite harshly (and to a young person [12] I might add) which, in my unsolicited opinion, is quite rude and sets bad examples for young people. But first of all I would like to say I didn't say the unmentionable word "fun" in my answer. What a terrible word to use when it comes to horses. Now having said that, I'll give you some examples of your assuming and question you as you actually "accused" this young person of doing or not doing when you don't even know him/her. How can you possibly have ANY idea that this "kid" does NOT appreciate what he/she has? I appreciated everything I had when I was little (which wasn't much, but my dream was the same as hers (as it is now because I have to live in the city). And then you accuse him/her of "you want a lot but won't give anything?" When did you meet this kid and get to know him/her? How do you know he/she wouldn't be willing to make some money somehow instead of just sitting there with a "silver spoon" in his/her mouth (as you make it sound)? Well, come to find out (because a man took the time to ask her, she would be willing to give up her dance lessons ($200 a week) because she says her mom wants her to follow in her footsteps but she's all about dirt, not dance. Actually she tells a lot about herself when she talks with Quester2011, and he kind of came down on her, too. The only difference between him dealing with her and you? He bothered to ask her questions. She knows and cares a lot more than you assume.
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Look.... I'm all out there for her getting a horse, I would really like it if she got one. I'm just trying to get over my own horse who died a few weeks ago and I want to make sure she understands how hard it is to own one. My horse died of stroke out of nowhere and I dont want her to go through the pain I did. Being prepared may not stop that, and I also know I have been quite harsh about it, I apologize. You are greatly correct and I should be looser about the situation. I would love for this girl to get a horse, ride it and care for it all she wants, but I just want the horse to have the right care, and I'm sure that horse, if she gets one, will. I know she cares, who wouldnt? People who dont care for their animals are just cruel, and from the comments of this girl I know she cares. Again, I apologize for the behavior, stress is coming over me, but that is no reason to act like her parent.
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As I have tears streaming down my face, I want to tell you how very, very sorry I am to hear about your horse. (Also, thank you for the apology.) I know how hard that is. I remember when I lost my favorite horse, my first horse (which I had dreamed of having ever since I'd had a stick horse when I was about 5). It ripped my heart in two. Wolf, I hope you don't mind, but I will say a prayer for you. It's a gut-wrenching experience and my heart is breaking for you now. I am glad you read what the little girl said. I think she has the same dream you and I had and would love and take care of that horse greatly. But when you have any animal (I call them babies) that you care for like that and then lose them, it's like losing a child or best friend. But I'd never give up the time I had with them, rather than not had them at all. I pray that your heart will start to mend soon and you will get to the point where you can look back and see the fond memories you two had together and be able to smile instead of cry. I know it will take a while, but I pray sooner than later. And as far as your comment about people who don't care for their animals are just cruel, well, you're preaching to the choir. I'm not a violent person at all. If God asked me would I rather live on earth with animals or people, it would take about a nano second to say animals because they are true. If they don't like you, you know it. And when they love you, they'll fight to the death for you. I think that people who are arrested for cruelty or abuse to animals should get the same punishment as whatever it was they were doing to the animals. Now that may sound like I'm a mean person, but they're innocent creature who cannot defend themselves from evil people and I just think that's what they deserve. But I digress. (I do get worked up a bit over animals, sorry.) Anyway, I hope that your pain eases a little every day. Please take care.
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Thank you, I totally agree with your opinion. The thing I dont get about animal abuse (and please excuse me for my rather angered temper) is why the people still get to sleep on a bed, eat and do all this other normal stuff right after they commited a crime on a pour creature. Thank you for the chat, have a nice day :)
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You don't have to ask me to excuse you about your temper. I'd have them on a concrete floor with a chain on them. I think WE should be the justice system for animal abuse. I bet you we could get it under control rather quickly, my dear. And you have a good day also.
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thank you very much :) With the government we have these days, I dont think they give a rat's tail about animals. It's quite sick if you ask me
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the government really should get a hold on out people these days.
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I agree totally. As far as I'm concerned, abuse to an animal is like abuse to a child or an elderly person - no different. It is innocent and cannot defend itself. As far as I'm concerned when it comes to this, we should be like some of the countries like (I know Turkey used to do this). If you got caught stealing in Turkey..bam, there went your hand. Guess how big a rate of crime they had? Practically none. You mistreat an animal, I think you should be given the exact same treatment you gave that animal. Some people think that's going too far because it's "an animal", but God created them, just like He created us, so I know He loves them, too. I'm not saying they're more important too Him, but I do know He loves them and does not want them mistreated. Oh, my blood just gets to boiling when I think of what some people have done. The minute I hear Sarah McGlothlin start singing on TV for either the Human Society or some organization like that, I have to quickly switch the channel because I cannot bear to see those precious babies. Boy, with us making the laws and on the benches, I bet we could get THAT crime down to virtually nothing. I'm getting too mad and too sick even thinking about it, Wolfie. I always get my babies from the Humane Society, but one time when I was younger, I was talking about if I had the money I'd have a no-kill place for animals for people to adopt them. The person just laid their head back and cackled. I said, "What?" She said, "They'd have to pass about 5 interviews before you'd even think about letting them adopt one of 'your' babies!" LOL (She was probably right.) :-0
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As already stated, hourses are very expensive to keep. They forgot the vet and shoeing costs too. Why not get a really big dog or a boyfriend to clean up after.

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Take some lessons, do some volunteering. Having a horse is a big thing. They need lots of hay and grain (prices are up because of the draught in the Midwest) they need shoes (we pay $75 a pop for our two horses) Vet bills. There is a lot of stress involved too. Checking your trailer multiple times before you haul. Walking your horses home in the dark after they escape your field. Having your horse fall in the stall and while trying to get up be cast (stuck) in the corner just barely able to get up( not without a few scratches). When your new mare forces your gelding though a three rail fence-- twice. Multiple trips to the vet looking for a lameness you can't seem to diagnose. Arthritis shots for the retiree. Having one of your horses almost sever her foot in the neighbor's barbed wire fence. Walking your pony for hours waiting for the vet to show up when she's trying to colic. You can't stop or else she might lay down and never get back up. Being seven and crying over your favorite mule as he lays out in your field because his arthritis got so bad he couldn't stand up. Your dad having tears in his eyes as he let's the vet put him down. Yea having horses is sometimes a hard life but if these things don't deter you go out there and get in contact with horse people in your area. Go help out at a therapy program or summer horse camp. Half lease a horse at a stable. Take riding lessons. If you decide you don't like riding anymore you can't just get rid of your horse. Lessons give you a way to learn about the care and riding of horses without the commitment of owning your own horse.

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Nicely said!
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It's a crazy life but every moment in the end is worth it.
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