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Well, my I really like my best guy friend. We've been best friends since 4th grade. I've had a humongous crush on him since the 4th grade too. He has dated 2 of my best friends but I didn't care about that. Now he's dating one of my friends that I don't really talk to. I'm super jealous! He seems really happy. The girl he's dating I saw and heard her talking about other guys and hitting on them. I don't think she meant to though but I don't know. He is awesome. He seems like he either has a crush on me or he's being really friendly. I feel like I want to wait to tell him that I really like him until awhile after they brake up. What do you think I should do?

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tell him he will be thankful and then when you are comforting him he might fall in love with you...or it could all backfire and he could accuse u of lying and being a jealous B*TCH

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He's too nice he would never do the second thing.
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then tell him
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Thanks, I don't know though. I might but I might not, I think I'll wait until he brakes up with his girlfriend
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he will if u tell him about the flirting
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I won't tell him about that because I don't think she meant to be hitting on other guys
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Who knows he might like you too and be thinking the same thing
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Awwww, thanks(:
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ur welcome tell me how it works out
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I think I'll wait to tell him awhile after they break up
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Wow u r in the total friend zone!! And i have the Same problem and i think u shouldent ask him out or else u will ruin the friend ship so wait u MUST wait

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That's what i said lol
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no dont tell him especially if you wanna date him after it might make it look like you lied about it!

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then what should she do?
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well unfourtunetly she cant do anything until she does something wrong
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unfortunately*
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Wait, lie about liking him do you mean?
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know if you break them up then you go out with him it would look like you lied about what she said
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Oh, I won't tell him what she said, I think she didn't try to do that.
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I have HUGE crush on my guy best friend too! and he dated my bff 2 times .... and I only knew him since this year, he says im his best friend, im not sure if he likes me or being friendly too! but IM just waiting for him to say something....im talking to him a lot though. IF you say something it could jeaporize Ur guys friend ship. ask a friend to ask him if he likes you or something. you know? (btw he's awesome too!) and I think he got sad that I told him that the other guy I like thought that I was cute.... not to be bragging or anything.... we are in the kinda same situation...... i think i have said enough and......yea idk if you care about my story but yeah! again:IF you say something it could jeaporize Ur guys friend ship. ask a friend to ask him if he likes you or something...

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Oh my goodness, I think that my guy is kinda jealous too because once when I liked two people (him and a jerk) I asked him who I should go for and then I told him about both of them. He asked who they were and I told him the jerks name (at that time I thought the jerk was nice but I guess I was wrong) and I told him that I couldn't tell him the other persons name (of course I couldn't because it was him). He is still trying to figure out who the other person is! He seems jealous because he thinks that it's not him since I pretended to be really happy when he told me he was dating the girl he's dating
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OMG we are kinda twins! my other lik is popular and kinda a jerk
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well not really i barely know him
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Haha, your right! My guy is like a big brother to me, we sometimes even act like boyfriend and girlfriend even though we are just good friends
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you know the funny thing? : so we moved seats in out class and now he is sitting at my old seat and from my new seat, while im talking to my friend i could be staring at him! lol we are all in the same classes
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You are really lucky! Well, I could be looking at the clock or the clock, nobody could tell! And in a different class I could be looking at him or my friend, nobody could tell that either! Haha, we have all the same classes except for two of them, the 3rd and last one. He always compliments me in homeroom because we make projects then and he always talks to me in science because our science teacher is awesome and let's us do anything during it as long as we keep it not too loud
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oh, well lucky he compliments you.... :) and yeah i just REALLLY like him
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Keep me updated with your guy! I'll also keep you updated too.
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okay'! lol
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Well, I'm wondering if I should just tell his girlfriend(my friend) or him that I like them. Should I tell him or her? If so, when?
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don't tellher because then she will make yuou jelous..... soooooo he kinda g=found out that I liked him he told my friend""I think Lily likes me (My name is Lily)"" and shes all (I told her I liked him) "NOPE NO she doesn't lol
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I wasn't there I was in front of the lunch line and they were standing next to each other and all I could hear was my name lol
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Haha, that's good she didn't tell, cause that would've been bad of she told! Haha, well I'm hanging out with his girlfriend(my friend), him and one of his friends tomorrow after school and we are hanging out around Elkhart and I'm having her sleep over too so it will be fun(: haha
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I think he knows.... and my friend asked him if he liked me and he said......no.........
but hes soooo cute and nice! he always plays around with me .... I still like him
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Oh my goodness, ya, my guy always is mean to me and right after he says it he says "just kidding" really fast(: he's soooo sweet and nice!
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he doesn't like me.... and I almost cried 4 times yesterday
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Awwww): I'm so sorry!
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its okay.. im ight as well tell him.. he ought to know . it seems like her knows and everything... im going to tell him on monday
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Good luck! As for me, I'm hoping to make a great song out of my situation. Keep me updated still!
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okay I didn't tell him but I think he knows....anyways he was lying be cause when he said no he was like noooooooooooooooooooooo..... and like scoffed. But today my bff (his ex) asked him if he liked me and hes all like... I think shes pretty but I wouldn't go out with her cuz u guys are bffs and it would be weird.. so tomorrow im going to tell her to tell him that I like him. even though he may already know..... ahh L+T= <3 AND I DONT LIKE THE OTHER GUY NO MORE
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Haha, ya your guy may already know, but maybe not. And, oh my goodness, do you remember the jerk that I once like that I'm not friends with anymore? Well, he's in basketball and I'm a cheerleader, and right before the basketball game started, he came up to me and told me he knew that I like that one guy. I'm trying to convince him that I don't but he won't believe me! I hate that jerk so much!
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lol
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Haha, I just hope that that jerk doesn't tell the guy I like that I like him! That would be bad.
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tha jerk is a JERK
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Yup, and he asked me at gym today why we can't be friends! (there is an infinity amount of things he did) I told him about a million times why but he keeps asking anyway! I didn't tell him the reasons today though cause I told him so many times already. I hate that guy!
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Sorry, not "hate", hate is a strong word, "very, very strongly dislike"
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Okay, right when I thought I got over him he just made me like him again! It's complicated right now:/
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I told my other crush that I liked him and he said "no joke me too!"
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and then i told the guy that im talking about that i like him and he likes me too! yayayay both of my crushes like me back!!! i cont stop thinking about them...<3 im SOOOOO IN LOVE....its like TWILIGHT! THE guy that i told yeaterday is my jacob and the one im always talking about is my edward! I CANT BELIVE IM BELLA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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okay... I chose Jacob!!! he asked me ouuuuuut:D
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Awww(: that's awesome!
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Omg! My guy broke up with his girlfriend! But I don't think I like him anymore though. I met another guy, but he lives far away, but we like each other a lot and he might ask me out(: as for my guy, I guess we're stuck in the friend zone. I might have a chance with the far away guy though! Yay!
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Yay, the far away guy asked me out!!!!! Haha
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did u meet him online?
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No, i met him from my best friend
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I was looking on this and i want to tell u that it worked perfectly with my new girl friend who was my best friend that is a girl and the hole"got Jealous cuz i called another boy cute" Happend to me to i just thought that was ironic
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oh and guess what? he broke up with me :((( I don't like no one anymore!!!!!
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Well, I broke up with the guy and I felt kinda trapped while dating him too and now I'm free but since I live in a small town it's almost impossible to find someone you like. The jerks is sooo annoying still too cause every day when he sees me he will say that me and him are best friends and I keep saying never but he ignores it. He is always getting into my personal business too and he just irritates and bothers me so much!!!!!
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okay the non jerk guy that I have been talking to u this whole time asked me out!! he admitted that he had this crazy crush on me
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Awww that's awesome!!!!!
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well now im single! turns out he was a complete weirdo and I don't like him.
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Okay now the jerk is dating someone else and he likes me <3
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Wait, what? Haha, I'm confused now cause I haven't been on here in a long time.
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Lol so sorry if that confused u haha! Umm idk what I was saying CX
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Don't tell him unless it becomes serious or else he'll might think you were just lying because you like him and ruin your friendship etc...

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Lying about what exactly?
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Oh, ya I wouldn't say anything about what she said because I don't think she really meant to be hitting on other guys
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Yah i agree with Tic_tac:)
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yes

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Tell him ;) good luck

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Wow, you're up s**t creek without a paddle, aren't you. Look if he is with her and you tell him and they split, you might look like a b***h. Maybe you should wait til they break up so you don't get the blame. Anyway, if you are seeing how she is acting, then, it will probably fix itself. Just be careful. It's dangerous ground, mate!

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They broke up awhile ago, anyway I got a different guy right now.
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So much for a crayons worth of a crush.
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Ok right now I got no guy and don't have a crush on anyone anymore and I think I'm clear of drama except for a jerk who irritates me daily about being best friends but since he did horrible things to me I always say never cause if I say ok he'll go back to doing bad things to me again.
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Well I figure I've made salt of myself you wanna take this one Punk? I mean I could change that if y'all want me to but I can't very well remove my line about a worthless crush. Honestly I would give advice if you ask me because I have made myself seem alittle cold hearted.
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Okay, we'll this one jerk had always lied to me and spread rumors about me and was rude to me and played me before that all. Now he wants us to be 'best friends'. I'm thinking that it's just part of his trick again that he earns my trust and then says stuff about me behind my back which is what he has done multiple times before. Or he could be doing what he's currently doing which is trying to get girls to fight over him. Or he could actually want to be friends with me. He bugs me everyday. Could you give me advice what to do?
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Why does he act like this. If he is a jerk then he's a jerk. If he does that stuff because that's who he is then I think you respect your friend as your friend.
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Thanks, now if I can get him to give up on me and stop calling me his best friend and get him to stop acting all lovey dovey around me like he's in love with me, haha
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If all he does is picks on you then he's more like me. I pick on the girl I like cause I think her mean side is cute.
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Ya it could be but he doesn't care one but if we are friends or not and he is a huge player too.
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Well I don't date or ask of people. So I don't know about what he does.
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You seem to be doing just fine without me Prince, mate.
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Yay it's Punk!!! My friend how are you?
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Oh what a welcome, mate! Ta, I'm fine. Have you been well in my absence? I see you have been doing a bit of convo.
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Yeah. I'm fine. I've been alittle quiet on here lately.
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Hi peoples I'm bored so I'm joining your convo
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Sure thing.
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Hi livelaugh. You are most welcome. There is someone for everyone.
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I welcome you livelaughloveact.
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What y'all wanna talk 'bout?
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I don't think people should interfere in relationships.
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Well it all depends on who YOU are. It's usually alittle rude to get into people business. But different personalities act and work differently. I'm plotting and patient but smart and prideful so I know if I wait I can always get what I want but others are less bristled with needles. I'm a good guy but I'm sour like a lemon.

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I'm out of that other situation completely right now.
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Not to pry but what did you mean by does things to you?
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Are you having sexual harassment problems?
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No!!!!!!!!!!
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Sorry I guess I read that wrong...
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And where did I put that someone does things to me? Haha
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You said he treats you wrong and this dumb society caused me to assume. I'm sorry if I insulted you I just thought that might be the case.
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No, I didn't say he treats me wrong either, if that was the case he wouldn't be my best guy friend as he also stated.
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As I also stated not as he also stated.
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Ok. So are you still troubled?
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Hi.
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Ya, from a jerk in my school
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I think you should explain it or figure out a solution yourself cause you're not stressing the difficulty of this and sometimes figuring it out yourself is what you need to do otherwise you become mentally weak and spiritually lazy
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Haha, ok I'll try
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I mean I can try and help but I'm getting the sense you don't need more.
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