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My best friend just died 9 days ago and i can't let her go, what can i do, am i cursed or just unlucky

she was my best friend in the whole world, she was a person that i trusted and she understood me, i told her everything my secrets and thoughts, she never share those without my permission. she was my whole world

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I'm so sorry for your loss. It has NOTHING to do with you, although you might think otherwise right at the moment. You must allow yourself to properly grieve. Check this link on the stages of grief. I used it when I lost my Father.
http://www.recover-from-grief.com/7-stages-of-grief.html

Also, talk to someone you trust and respect about what you are feeling. When YOU are ready.

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okay i will try that
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Please do red, because grief will eat away at you. It is HORRIBLE. I know. I lost my best friend when I was in high school...she was murdered on Halloween and I will never forget it. Then, I lost my Father 2 years ago. He passed away in my arms at his home. Very suddenly.
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i held one of best firends when she was dying, and sang to her until she closed her eyes forever i lost so many people in my life
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Let yourself have the TIME to grieve. Don't rush your self, and don't allow anybody else to rush you. You will come to terms and accept it when you are ready to. But, please DO talk to somebody, as it does help in grieving. You probably will never forget it, but it will become easier with time. I won't say the pain all goes away, because mine never did......but it is bearable and I remember the good things about them, and the good times. Don't dwell on the "act" of death.
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okay i will talk to somone
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Prayer. Share your heartache and troubles to The Lord. I haven't lost anyone yet, but I have a best friend that is terminally ill, and doesn't have that much longer to live. She's just as dear to me as your friend-almost a sister to me. It's very hard to watch someone you love suffer. And I'll miss her so much when she's gone-but what has honestly got me through, is prayer. I've felt so much peace and comfort from it. We mourn the ones that are gone because we miss them, but we shouldn't, because they are in a much happier place. Smile and remember the happy memories-and be grateful you were able to have such an amazing friend, who will now always be in your heart, and you'll see her again someday. I know your best friend wouldn't want you to be sad-she'd want you to live your life to the fullest, and to be happy. Just give yourself time. Nine days is very recent.
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Opps!! That was meant to be an answer, not a comment!
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That's fine shaylen. It was great advice, wherever you put it.
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Thanks:) hopefully she sees it-I was going to re-post, but then again, I feel like it's too personal after re-reading it... Death is hard... I hope she sees it!
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i saw it thank you
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She will. It was a good answer.
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@redstar-you're welcome. Stay strong!
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oh thats why you are sad. i answered your other question. dont worry it will pass

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yeah it's really hard
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overtaker

You're not cursed or unlucky. It was just her time to go. :'( Pray to God. He'll be your best friend. :)

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will she took her own life, and i found her, my faith in god is low right now, and i do pray alot, but it seems that he's taking everyone that i love and care for, first it was my sister and now my best friend
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aww im so sorry! Don't give up on God because he is always with you.
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in my heart i know he is
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He's not taking them on purpose. Don't be mad at Him. He has a reason for everything. It's good that u pray a lot, don't stop. Everyone has bad times in their life, but God is always there to help u get through them. The best thing to do is to not focus on the bad times and focus on the good times. Your life will get better. :) U just need to have faith and stay strong. U will see your friend again. :D
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i know i will but it's still hard she was too young to die
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Minji

You aren't cursed, it's just one death ....that isn't a curse. Besides curses aren't even real. If you linger on her death and pity yourself you'll be sad longer. Stay strong <3!!

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it's not one death i lost more than one friend, and all of them took their own life.
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But, what Minji is saying is a very valid point red. None of it is YOUR fault. You have to grieve.
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@Redstar, *sigh* I've lost many friends that took their own lives also...And it's happened all of my life, the latest was just 4 months ago...I don't consider myself cursed because that's stupid. Things like that happen because its the way it is. It's really stupid to tear yourself apart because of it, I'm sorry if that's harsh but... :-/ Live on, your heart beats for her now, let it make you stronger.
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Good advice Minji!
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@Redstar, something tells me that you don't care about what I'm telling you.
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i care it's just that i'm still in shock
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FunnyLittleFrog

I'm sorry you lost your friend. It has only been a week or so. It takes longer than that to grieve. We are all unlucky in this same way, dear. We all lose someone eventually. I can see why you miss her, someone who knows how to keep a secret is special.

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yeah she was special
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She is in a good place now and will always be in your heart.
I happen to be a very curious person, how did she die? Im sorry to ask, i am really curious. You don't need to tell me if it bothers you.

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she took her own life, and what's worse i found her
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Omg!! Why would she do that?!
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I'm sorry.... I'll pray for you to have strength knowing she's with the Lord.

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thank you
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Any time.
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It's normal to grieve, it's a process not a day a week will make it better, you must go through all the phases of grief. My mom always told me that if it's a long time coming it's a long time leaving. Try and keep yourself busy, but remember it takes time until it passes remember it's normal to feel bad. Don't rush it and see a grief counselor if needed.

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Death is natural though sad, you have my condolences and the pain will pass I promise you. Might I inquire as to how she died?

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she took her own life
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I apologize you've had to experience this, I've been through the same thing and its terrible to go through. I hope you never have to go through something like that again.
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i hope so too
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I think it's the human race that is cursed. I am so sorry to hear about your friend. Death is a terrible thing... but it's also inevitable. My sister died in 09', she was most def my best friend and we did the same things I'm sure you and your friend did. It's something I know I will never get over. I wish no one had to feel that pain... it's the worst feeling ever. I guess all one can really do is be grateful for the people that we have right now because you never know where their time, or your time for that matter will end. There is always going to be that scar there, but you just have to keep moving in a positive forward path.

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My best friend told me she though she was cursed. Every year someone in her family died. She started dating someone, and he actually ended up shooting himself in the head. She came home and found him. It seems like a curse right? But that is just life. Way more unfair for some than others. She is doing alright now. Its still there, that pain is like a scar that you see everyday and won't go away. Time is the only thing that can help to heal the pain. Godspeed! It will get better.
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my mom told my the same thing about the scar and how it won't go away but i will heal soon, she thinks so
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It Is Definatley Not a Curse; Death Is Something That Can Break Hearts And I Promise Yhu Now, The End Of The Year, Yhu Will Have a Happy Lyfe I am Sorry For Your Loss ... And I Hope Yhu Can Be Happy Again ... Stay Strongg! :) ?

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i hope so too and i will try to stay strong
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@redstar.. I just read your previous questions of late and you sound extremely depressed. I hope you have someone to talk to about it. A teacher? A parent? Aunt, grandparent? Pleas tell someone you need se help.

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i will talk counsler
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Good start. Don't wait too long. I had a real difficulty with depression when i
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i made an appointment
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Sorry .. When I was a teenager and I wish I would have got help sooner.
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Good luck! I wish you all the best.
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Sorry redstar, a week or two ago, you told me you lost your sister, and that you had cancer, you also said your brother died from cancer, and now it's your best friend. Come on. You gave me your friends name, and there was no obituary about her. Now it's another loss in your life.

Bad, bad karma, or are you looking for attention? You seem to be so outgoing, because you live, and breath soccer. Where are your parents? I remember exactly what you told me about them. Can you enlighten me again, about your parents? I know you said you live in Australia. I'll let you fill in the blanks.

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okay first of all i do not live in australia i live in gellitte wyoming, second i did lose my sister and it was very hard, third i do not have cancer i have health issues that is for sure but thery are not deadly that much, fourth i have no brother that died from cancer, fifth, i did lost alot in my life, i can name off 90 of them, sixth i have parents and they are very nice and love me for who i am, i am not looking for attentio i am looking for help thank you very much, what name did i give my friend, what do you want from me my whole life story. i nevery ask for any of this, all i want is HELP from other people who care, and what i just read it sounds like you don't care at all. i am sorry if i sound so mean but i do not like to be called a fibber, my heart is cold and black to this world, i want to live but i also want to die. don't get me wrong i love life but i hate mine at this time but i have no choice but to live for my family and what i have left in this world.
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Be patient. Treasure the memories. Time will soothe your broken heart.

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