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Should I marry a guy 20 years older than me ?

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If you love him then age should not matter. Although some people might not like it.

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um, If that makes you happy.

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No everyone should date there one age

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You can't say that to someone if they love them.
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yeah sarahmeluv is right
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Honestly I find that quite disturbing. I assume you're at least 20, making him 40. I don't believe this could be "true" love. This is most likely about money.

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Ummm...that`s quite rude. You don`t know if it has anything to do with money.
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I don't, but honestly, do you think it's for any other reason? All I need is an age of the asker to make a definite assumption.
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Assumptions make you look like an a$$
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I'm 19 going to be 20 in 2 months . And the only reason I want to marry him is because he's everything I've ever asked for and more , to be honest I've never thought in a million years that ill fall in love with someone that age , but it happened I didn't plan it or ask for it ,
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And no he's not rich AT ALL .
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And the reason that made me put the question is that I have people like yourself in my life that made me question my relationship and make me feel bad about myself .
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You tell him bambamba. Dont feel bad about yourself,this could happento anyone of the people telling you off about it.
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Ok look hispanicwarriorsfan, first of all, its none of our business why she wants to marry him. Age is just a number. And I doubt it would be for money. Not all people are greedy. You,however, are obviously. Why don`t you leave this poor girl alone. She asked a simple question and you didn`t have to answer something rude.
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If you truly love him, sure.

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$$$$$$$. Maybe.

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Lol
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Do you love him?

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There are many more things to consider than age. It's up to you and what would make you happy.

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Age doesn't mean anything, you should marry him if you love him

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Depends on your age. Think about it this way, in modern society, that could be close enough to be marrying your dad...

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your choice...

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It all depends on how old you are and if you are truly in love with them. Age is just a number. The only thing that really matters is how you feel about each other.

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for love, sex, or out of spite?

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i say no but its up to you i think its gross

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Um, if you love

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If you love him,but since you're asking this I'm not so sure

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How old are you?

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If you really truely love him then absolutely.

If you only like him for money or whatever he has then definately no.

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No

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What's stopping you?

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If you truly love him. All these people on here say its for the money are only assuming and when they assume it makes an a$$ out of themselves.

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As long as you love him, why not?

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If you're like 14 then I'm not even gonna answer that -.-
But if you're old enough to be mature about the situation and about everything in general, and especially if you love them, then sure.

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Yes. You should marry him. Please don't worry about what others may think. Things are different theses days. There are all sorts of relationships that years ago would have been frowned on... Interracial, same sex, cougars, ect, so if thats what concerns you have no worries.... If you are both in love ..... Then marry the man! You might let the best thing in your life slip by if your insecurities are about what others may say! I say this from exp. 19 years difference here! Good luck!

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Age is just a number. If you really love him that shouldn't matter

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If u love him

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No men at the age of 50 years have a problem keeping it up . This will later make you feel like cheating

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down deep I guess it depends on the motives of marriage on both sides... 20 years doesn't really tell a ratio either... some men past a certain age enter into a second childhood and want to start fresh... some men want a very young girl so they can "finish raising" their wife... you have to ask, what is making this 20 year older man interested in you, what hobbies and interests do you hold in common... if you have a long list then it looks hopeful

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are you a legally age if you are go for it if you are in love tell your brother to check all his comment from me

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oh i got this question.lol age doesnt matter unless your under 18.its all about how you both feel and act.my hubby acted old but my bf acts young and they are 20 years older.

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If you truly love him then age shouldnt matter so go for it. Good Luck :) <3

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If you truly love him, then go for it. Good luck!!! I too am engaged right now, so i wish the best of luck to you. ;)

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Thank you ! All the best to you too ..
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If it's true love, girl! Don't let anyone bring you down. Love is love and nothing can stop that. If your man is everything you want and he treats you perfectly, I'd say go for it. You're an adult and you can make your decisions and no one can tell you not to! Good luck!

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Thank you ! That's so nice !! Good luck to you too ??
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You're so welcome!
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20 years?!?1?!

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$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ good luck just think your 60 and hes 80 then your 80 and hes died your 40 hes 60 i mean if you love him but ya

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Ewwwwww no u should not do that. well he would be like a babysitter to you

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i think 20 years old .. it's little weird But If yOu love him you should Marry him

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no because you will feel a consent need to please like a father
or yes because..... you love him? if yes then yes

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Whatever you want but if you think about it he was a grown man before you we're even born..... That's a little wierd but who am I to judge?

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Well I wouldn't but...........u can if u want to

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If you have to ask strangers on the internet, then probably no.

If you love him, then go for it.

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It's simple... If you are thinking of getting married you should see everything.. Marrying an old women can't be good for you... If someone is 5 to 7 years older it's not a big deal but 20 is heck of a lot.... Well Love can't be involved because a normal person cannot think of getting in true love with a person who is 20 years older than you... If it makes you happy and don't have problem in it... you can.... Make your choice...

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he is old enough to be your father.. remember that... and just think.. when you were in your mothers stomach.. he was 20 years old.. I would never date someone that much older than I.

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I think at 19 you should wait. I'm sure you're smart and mature and all of that, but you're just a baby at 19. Your brain hasn't even finished growing all the way until you turn about 25. I think it's smarter to wait until then. What's a few more years to wait when you're talking about spending THE REST OF YOUR LIFE with this person anyway. I see no problem with the 20 year age difference by the way, I'm just concerned about ANYONE marrying anyone else at such a young age.

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I married a man 10 years older than me. For the first 14 years things were great but now Im noticing that I still want to get up and go and live life to the fullest but he would rather take it easy and stay home and live more conservatively. So sometimes this can cause disagreements.

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if u really love him yes

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I now someone who married someone 12 years older than their age. And I think yes....depending on your age.....as long as he's not like 60 and ur like 22....

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if you are sure you really like them I wouldn't get married as most of the time it never
lasts and you are young so you might like someone later on in your life

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