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My parents! Help?

I suffer from depre$ion and $uicidal thoughts, I cut myself, I smoke and I think I need glasses, I can barely read things that are only a few feet away. I try to tell my parents these things that a parent should care about and want to know, but they don't believe me! also, my parents are extremely over protective. what should I do? (by the way, the depre$sion, $suicidal thoughts and the cutting have been going on for about 4 years) please, any and all advice would be greatly appreciated! thank you! (by the way, I'm 14)

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If you are depressed and contemplating suicide, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-TALK) for crisis assistance. No matter how bad things seem right now, they will eventually get better, so taking your own life is never a good solution. Please talk to a trusted adult, or call the hotline, there are people who care, and will get you the help you need

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RavenGirl, tell them you can't see what the teacher is doing at the front of the class room, if that doesn't work try going to the school nurse and asking them to write a note to your parents asking them to have your eyes checked. As for believing you about the other stuff, I would think showing them your cutting scars should prove your point. You need to get help, it is time to be honest with them so you can get that help.
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I am homeschooled. And they know I cut, they just took away all of my knifes and I got grounded. They yelled at me for doing it, they where way more mad then upset/sad that I have been hurting myself!
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I wish ask.com mods would comment:(
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RavenGirl, if your parents aren't doing their "job" you need to talk to another adult who will help you. Try talking to your guidance counselor, another adult family member, and if these fail, you need to call DHS.

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I don't go to school and all of my adult family members are stuck up elitists who avoid talking about stuff like the real world:/ I really don't have anyone to talk to.....except the people on ask.com:) you people are nice! Lol!
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Well unfortunately we can't do anything to help you, physically. Please call DHS.
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True.......DHS?
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Child protective services.
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Do you think that is really necessary? I mean, all they are doing is not believing me.
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They aren't giving you proper medical care, that is child abuse.
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Do you think there is any other way to handle it? Like convincing them there there is really something wrong?
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If you are honestly "cutting" yourself, and not just saying it for attention, show them the cuts or scars. If that doesn't scare them enough to get you help, then DHS is your only other option.
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They know I cut, or at least, they think that I used to cut. They found my cuts in July and took all of my knifes, and I was grounded but that's all. They yelled a lot! They where much more mad at me then sad or scared that I have been hurting myself.
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You need to see a counselor. Yelling and taking away your knives is not going to fix the underlying cause of your cutting.
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Yeah.........they think I did it because I think it's "cool" or just to get attention. But sense they don't believe that there is anything wrong, they won't let me get help:/
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You can find them in the phone book or online, just look under Department of Human Services or Child Protective Services. It might be listed as a State Service if you look in the phone book,
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Thank you! @SherryA
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And thank you! @CJ
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You're very welcome sweetie, just remember you need to be taken care of it. And if your parents can't/won't, someone needs to.
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Ok, I'll try and remember that! Oh and one thing I forgot to put in my Q, I'm planning on running away in the spring.
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Running from your problems isn't going to fix them.
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I know! But I don't think I can stand living with my parents any longer! My older brother (he's 18 almost 19) halos me out a lot but he is wanting to move out of the house and once he does it'll just be my parents and me and I don't think I could handle that for more then a week!
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Something I have came to the conclustion with is that when you think you are at your breaking point, it goes on,mentally and phsyicaly. Stay strong and do the right thing.
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:/ ill try.
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My boyfriend just agreed to talking to his parents with me! I am going to spend the night with him tomorrow night and then hopefully Friday morning we will talk to his parents!
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Please don't do it I've had these thoughts to your lucky thats really all you have to deal with. Try being overweight and ugly for you whole life and in a matter of 2 years your parents divorce your aunt dies you move and you loose your BFF so wen all that happens then be on the verge of death but still don't do it!

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I'm terribly sorry about everything you have been through! My best friend who I grew up with was murdered the week before Christmas. :( he was 19.
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Oh, Jesus! Ladies, no one can really do anything to help you gals through this, but because you have put your grief out here, please know that others will do their best to comfort you and try to take some of the burden of grief from your hearts! I am so sorry for you both. Have courage! You are loved and needed to carry on.
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Thank you @souix
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Omg your friend was murderd that's horrible :( I'm so sorry for you :( I really need someone to talk to and it sounds like you do to
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Beehoney thank you so much for the support and godbless you
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@emmy: thank you, they caught the guy that did it though so it's not as bad as it could be! Yeah I think we both need someone to talk to!
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I would give you my # but I'm not sure how to give it you without everyone else seeing it
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Lol yeah......I don't know lol!
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Do you have a Facebook?
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Nope, not aloud.
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That sucks is there anything you have maybe. YouTube Accout? Or maybe a kik account or if you have An iPod maybe some kind of messenger thing
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Yeah I have kik!
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Oh you have kik great what's your username?
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If you don't wanna give yours mine is lauren_boo101
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Listen, kiddo, you have no business even thinking about suicide! You haven't been given the chance to live, yet! It almost sounds like you are being held hostage because of your parents' fear that something will happen to you. Since you are home schooled, you have no guidance counselor to confide in, but do you have a family member, clergyman or friend that could help you? If not then you must have the strength to pull yourself out of this hole you are in. Call the Dept. of Human Resources/services or Child Protective Services. They will help you. You deserve a better life. This manner of parental control is not acceptable in normal society!

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That's what I thought too.
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I have two people that I tell everything to, my boyfriend and my best friend (my boyfriend is 16 and my best friend is 14) I've told them about all of this but they don't know how to help. My boyfriend offered for me to talk to his parents but he says he isn't sure how they will react.
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Don't you have an adult family member to help? Outsiders are often thought as interfering.
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No they are all afraid of the real world. They would avoid the topic like it was a deadly disease.
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Then you have to get Simone reliable professional help. Call CPS do it!
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I talked to my boyfriends mom, she gave me some advice and some vitamins and stuff.
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I am just wondering. How old are you?

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14, I said that at the very bottom of my Q.
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You need to speak to another adult it looks like your parents arent doing anything talk toa counsler or somthing

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By the way, I'm planning on running away in the spring!
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Don't do it! Things are worse out there than at home! You just don't know how horrible it can be for you. There are big time predators out there! Things will be better by then but you must take action! Do not let yourself become a victim. Call CPS now!
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Well, things haven't gotten better in 4 years....sooooo I'm kind of pessimistic. But I'll try!
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Run Away?! Honey Thats Not Going to Make it Better where are u planning to live??? how are you going to eat???
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I have a way to get about $300 as soon as I run, I'm going to get a job, and I might live with a friend until I get on my own feet!
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$400 or even $500 actually!
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Won't last you a day if you get attacked and "rolled" or "put on the block" as someones property. Just don't do it. Call CPS. That's what they are there for!
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I've got it worked out ok! Besides, I asked my boyfriend if he would talk to his parents with me about my depression and about how my parents won't help and he said yes. So I'm spending the night tomorrow night and then Friday morning we will be able to talk to his parents!
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I hope this works for you! You need some support!
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I talked to his mom! She gave me a lot of advice and stuff! My bf says that I can talk to her again if I want! :)
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I was in a similar situation as a teenager. Instead of cutting I was doing narcotics to numb the pain,instead of wanting to killing myself I wanted to kill others. I had so much pain and hate bottled up in my head I thought my Brain was going to explode. The only thing that released that pressure was talking to someone that understood me or I respected. I caught my problems at the perfect time,I was about to do something so stupid it would of changed my life forever. I kept myself from doing something very idiotic because I knew I was a individual that can overcome such things with time and the correct help from others. That's what you need to realize,their are people that care and will get you out of your situation in time.

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Thank you! Ill try to talk to someone other than my parents!
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No problem raven. I looked at your profile and saw you have boyfriend problems?I suggest you focus on yourself and not others at this moment.
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Not anymore, that was a while ago! We are totally fine now!
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Ok,I hope all goes well and if you have other questions don't be afraid to ask!
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Thank you! :)
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Anytime, glad to help.
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meditation and yoga will be a good cure for any type of depression , this exercise will cure your depression in a non-medicinal way which is very good for you !

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But I can't get medication because my parents don't believe me. And I've tried yoga.
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google "meditation" then you will know how to do it ...
it wont cost anything to you !

it is not medication !!
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Ohhhh......see I do need glasses, I thought you said medication when you actually said meditation. My eyes are so messed up. I actually do meditate, it helps for a little while but then the depres$ion comes back.
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first of all no need of glasses ...LOL:)

if u meditate regular atleast 20-25 minutes it gets regular , you have to do it atleast for some month !!

it directly works on the root cause ...so the disease never come again !!
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Ok
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Well you must tell somebody, if you bottle it up inside yourself then you will be depressed forever,,, My friend is also going through the same thing,,, if you want you can tell me how you feel right now? So tell a Guidance Consular or an Adult Friend of your parents,,, Good Luck! ;)

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Thank you!
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