kalamena77, how long have you and your husband been together? When you're with someone for a long time, you forget how important showing them you love them is. Things become monotonous, jobs, kids, school, things like this all get in the way. You just "assume" he knows you love him, and that is good enough for you. But what you need to remember is, you need to treat everyday as if it was the very first day of a new relationship. Woo, love, show, and prove your love to your SO everyday! This is coming from someone who's been married for almost 15 years.
I don't know, maybe you are just going through something at the moment. There should be plenty of ways to revive this "affectionate" though. I hope this helps, but I have yet to experience this feeling with my wife, leaving it hard for me to help.
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I understand what you are going through. If you are taking depression medication, that can have an impact on your feelings of physical affection, check with your doc. Maybe you should trying changing it up. It takes effort to make love, if you're tired, you're not going to be into it. Have you tried livening it up? Try some new toys, rent some porn, play some games, just create some energy around sex. We all go through phases of reduced energy as we age (or at least everyone I know), but do it for your partner, once you spice it up, I'll bet you find it easier to have enthusiasm.
That's rough on him I bet, especially if he thinks its something wrong with him, that could take up a lot of space in a husband's mind, feelings of inadequacy, talk to him and maybe a marriage therapist