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kaligirl77

Why can't I be affectionate w~ my husband anymore?

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kalamena77, how long have you and your husband been together? When you're with someone for a long time, you forget how important showing them you love them is. Things become monotonous, jobs, kids, school, things like this all get in the way. You just "assume" he knows you love him, and that is good enough for you.
But what you need to remember is, you need to treat everyday as if it was the very first day of a new relationship. Woo, love, show, and prove your love to your SO everyday!
This is coming from someone who's been married for almost 15 years.

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0311_Grunt
CJ is too smart to not get a star bx.
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I don't know about that one.
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0311_Grunt
Lol, you think I might be joking but I'm serious. Most ASKer's Give a half azz answer,
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Well thank you very much.
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Awesome answer!
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Thanks pennman.
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kaligirl77
Thanx, that is some really informative stuff there! And a lot may be true.
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You're very welcome kalamena77. Good luck to you.
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I don't know, maybe you are just going through something at the moment. There should be plenty of ways to revive this "affectionate" though. I hope this helps, but I have yet to experience this feeling with my wife, leaving it hard for me to help.

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How would we know?

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kaligirl77
We? U and whom?
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Me and almost all of the internet.
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ThatGirl, most of us are here to help. If you don't have an answer, move on to a question you can help with. You are not serving any purpose with your attitude.
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kaligirl77
@ koichan, yes! "Thatgirl is not very nice, think she needs to go to facebook!
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I think you need to not judge, I was being serious. I asked a question and wasn't intentionally trying to com across as rude or as a smart-asss. I am here to help but I didn't understand the question. The questioner didn't provide enough information.
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kaligirl77
No, I believe U were being a smart ass cause U said, "U and all the internet" as if U would know that. Plz just don't comment on my ?'s anymore, thanx.
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Alright, tried to fix it and no one will listen.
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kaligirl77
Go away, this is not facebook!
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First of all, I don't abuse facebook like many kids of my generation, I actually use it to communicate with my relatives cross country so enough with that.
Secondly I'll stop the sooner you leave me alone. I answered one question that got misunderstood and offended people (and I'm sorry for that if i didn't make that clear) but when you decide to get on others and comment "ugh go away" on my other answers I've had enough. You're picking at me and bullying and I will not tolerate it. I didn't want to respond unitl you decided to keep going with it.
So please stop, good day.
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kaligirl77
Pleeeease, don't comment on my questions anymore or I will report U for harassment.
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Go ahead, I'm not harrassing you. I'm trying to help. Now i will admit that the Obama one I did get a little smart on but the others Ive done nothing wrong....
and now you're going to follow me? Nice...
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kaligirl77
Cause I was told, to block U, I first have to follow U, then I could block U, but it didn't work, so I un-followed U!
So no worries, not following U, I was simply just trying to get rid of U!
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@ThatGirl, if you think a single one of us believes you were trying to help with this smart-aleck comment, you think we are a whole lot dumber than we are. Why not just admit you were being sassy and get on with it instead of making obviously untrue claims.
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@ Koichan, thank U, my thoughts exactly!
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Like I said I tried to fix it, I really wasn't trying to be. What I've learned from this is to not get online with other people when I'm suffering from sleep deprivation. @Kalamena77 that only blocks me from following you.
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kaligirl77
Okay, whatever, I'm not a child.
Just gonna let it be.
Sorry.
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Probably because he has done something to upset you and you can't seem to get that out of your head.

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kaligirl77
He's done nothing, I just don't feel it anymore, just wondering if anyone else ever feels that way even tho U love them.
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You love him but your not in love anymore.

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kaligirl77
What exactly does that mean, loving someone but not being "in love", never understood that.
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I understand what you are going through. If you are taking depression medication, that can have an impact on your feelings of physical affection, check with your doc. Maybe you should trying changing it up. It takes effort to make love, if you're tired, you're not going to be into it. Have you tried livening it up? Try some new toys, rent some porn, play some games, just create some energy around sex. We all go through phases of reduced energy as we age (or at least everyone I know), but do it for your partner, once you spice it up, I'll bet you find it easier to have enthusiasm.

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That's rough on him I bet, especially if he thinks its something wrong with him, that could take up a lot of space in a husband's mind, feelings of inadequacy, talk to him and maybe a marriage therapist

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Your right, it is tough on him.
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It does not mean you do not love him anymore.

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I used to feel that way, I found that sometimes you just need some time to yourselves, for instance, do you still go on dates? or just take time off to spend with each other?

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Take an excursion, a little romantic trip for a couple of days. It does wonders. But, just the two of you. No distractions.

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