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I have a huge crush on my teacher, what should I do?

I'm 16 and He's About 28...He's my chemistry teacher......I've had a crush on him since the first day of school.... i'm in 11th grade...... I know it's illegal to do anything, but I can't help feel like he has something for me too, he stares at me more than anyone else during class, He's always calling on me, and he always wants me to stay after class (I stay about 3 days a week after class, and about 3 after school with him) and I think he notices that I blush super hard when he's talking to me and when we're alone ...... What should I do?!



Edit: There's no one my age I like, and i don't WANT a guy my age.

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Find someone your age, you could ruin your future as well as his career if you were to act on your feelings right now. If anything, at least wait till you are 18. Though I am not suggesting dating your teacher at all.

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Honesly its kinda weird to me. Do you really think he likes you back?

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Unless you want your teacher to be fired and put on the sex offender list, I would suggest that you find someone your own age.

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Unless you want your teacher to be fired and put on the sex offender list, I would suggest that you find someone your own age.
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that was my only piece of advice, and you ruined it, btw, if anyone you should WANT a guy your age.

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I don't know. But if he ever tries anything, tell him you like him, but you want to wait till you're older. But I really wouldn't know what to do in that situation. however, I will say that most student-teacher relationships tend to last. personally though, I don't see anything wrong with a student-teacher relationship, as long as it's love.

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I hope it works out for you, no matter what you decide.
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maybe talk about yo a close friend and have them give you some advice.

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Sounds like you can do something about it when you're 18, but you're too young. You're far too young for your teacher, and he'd be fired for having anything to do with you. Just let it be.

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I have the same crush with my teAcher and I'm a male ..she is so fine but honestly I forgot but it cause I found a girl my age and she's fine as well

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It's just a crush. This often happens when your learning from someone and he's hot!! Give it time you'll see that your feelings will change.;);)

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If a 28 year old wants a 16 year old, there is something wrong with them, tbh.

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Not if it's love and not just lust.
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I would stop staying after class and after school. Even if nothing is going on it gives the look of something that is not right. Finish school and then talk to him after you graduate, better yet wait until you graduate college. If it is meant to be it will wait.

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first you could get him fired and you are under age

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You may not think you are doing anything wrong, but it is unacceptable behavior. Both you and the adult are behaving inappropriately. Please do not act on these short term emotional feelings.

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You do NOTHING. It's a crush, that's it. He doesn't "like" you back, but if he does, do not act on it. It's just wrong. You're strictly his student and he's strictly your teacher. That's it.

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I see nothing wrong with it.
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With what? Her situation? There's a lot wrong with it. She's a kid, he's an adult. It's illegal for them to have a relationship. He could get fired and in legal trouble if they do anything. That's what's wrong with it.
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But I see nothing morally wrong with it. If he loves her and she loves him then nothing truly wrong is taking place. To me, it doesn't matter that she's a minor and that he's an adult, "love knows no bounds". And most student-teacher relationships tend to last.
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It's only wrong because other people don't understand that.
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And I don't see why they'd need to fire him for it, as long as he wasn't helping her cheat, and as long as it doesn't interfere with his work.
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It's not love.
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It IS love. You don't know me.
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How do you know it isn't love countrygirl? You don't know what's in their hearts.
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I dated someone that was much older than me when I was 17/18. We honestly ended up not having much in common and now that I'm his age from back when we dated, I can't possibly see what he saw in me, other than the fact he was an old guy with a young girl and that appealed to him on some level. Even if I wasn't happily married now, there is no way I could date someone that's 18 at my age now...we would not have anything in common and it would be extremely awkward. Even if you think he has a crush on you, he shouldn't and it's probably more about his male ego than having anything to do with you! I'm sure that you're reading too much into how you feel about him and that he feels exactly how he should...that you are a student, and that's all...

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Not all guys get with girls just for the sake of their ego, many, if not most, of us guys truly care about the girls we date, and are looking for someone to spend our lives with. Hopefully, for her sake, he'll be one of us, and not a player.
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Ok, but honestly, what is a 28 year old guy going to have in common with a 16 year old girl? "Hey honey, how was school today?" has 2 seperate meanings here...Maybe for a 20 year old to to date a 32 year old is fine, because they are both legal consenting adults, but that is still a huge age gap and leaves both people in 2 different generations. You say that some guys truly care about girls they date...a 28 year old guy shouldn't be dating a 16 year old girl...even the law says that it's wrong and if this teacher is "one of us and not a player", then he should have enough common sense to know what is off limits.

I still feel like I'm 20...until I hang out with 20 year olds...then I'm like "No, I'm definitely NOT 20".
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I think it's fine as long as the student is at least 16. If she loves him and he loves her the age gap shouldn't matter.
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I don't think it'd be weird if he likes you... older women scrutinize men so much... in reality men mentally (maturity wise) develop slower than women do... so its not weird... I'm nearly 16 in less than 2 months and I'm engaged... hes 4 years younger than your teacher though. as long as you wait until you're 18 (cause hes your teacher) its all good.

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Finally! someone else who agrees with me.
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That's kinda distrubing and it just so happens to be cemistry lol.

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Try to wait until you graduate to actually Do anything.
Looks a lot better for both of you.
And it will no longer be considered a student/teacher relationship.
(meaning he won't get into trouble)

-I personally don't see the problem in the age difference, I met my boyfriend when i was 17
we've been together over 3 years now.

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How old is he?
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My boyfriend is 52
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How old are you?
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Why?
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Jw.
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Pay attention to your school work and not your teacher, that's out if bounds

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Love knows no bounds.
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But common sense does ! Have you got that?
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Yes. But love overrides common sense. Common sense would tell you to try not to get shot, love tells you to take a bullet for a person and you listen.
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Love that's not returned equally is a foolish waste of time. Or are you having an affair with him?
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I'm not the person who was asking the question. Lmfao. XD
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TELL him! I've had so many freaking teacher crushes, but I'm too insecure to tell ANYONE I like them! So I just suffered in silence in class :'( But you'll feel better once you have told him! The worst he can do is say no, and if he says he likes you back, I'd go for a secret romance with him, who cares if it's illegal? Lol I sure wouldn't!

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At least some people agree with me.
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Haha thanks! I just don't know how to go about telling him............
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What .. ??!

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CALL THE POLiCE!!!!

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GirlonFire43

At least I'm not the only one with this problem.

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